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Tollinmek 15 Reviews 537 reads
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I was to meet a provider but she ncns. I always make my commitments but I hope she had a very good reason for not showing, emailing, or calling.

I know there is a website out there that is a sort of blacklist of bad clients for providers to reference from. Off hand I can't seem to remember it's name. If one of you ladies would be kind enough to provide me with a link to it I would be ever so grateful. I have an extensive list of BP NO Call/NO SHOW A**holes to add to it.

As Always Kissed,
Karina

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Imo, a blacklist should only be used for the most serious of cases. Robbery, assault, rape, threats, stalking, blackmail, etc. When people who ncns end up on BL, they really lose their meaning and sometimes people do have legitimate reasons, although rare, for ncns.

They should end up on your DNS (do not see) list and pass that onto your friends if you wish. There have been many instances here lately of providers ncns and not one ladies name has made it on this board. While ncns are aggravating, on both sides, I just dont think that warrants rising to the level of being placed on a BL.

Just my 2 cents Karina, but you might want to reconsider, otherwise the gentlemen here may change how they have been handling the situation and I dont think that would be good for either side. Thanks for listening and I am sorry about your no shows.

...what is good for the goose is ............

  Ladies should remember, that putting someone on a Black List, means that their personal information, when entered into Google, will show up, associated with said list, and why.  

  I cannot remember the last time I had a ncns, and I think it has to do with my screening process, and cancellation policy.

  Just my .02.

Hugs and Kisses,
Kelly

I concur, with the premise screening process is key to determining negative and positive outcomes.

We don't have 10% of the problems other Agencies do. It comes down to business process.

* smiles *

Lee Dreams
"It's all about integrity"

I was to meet a provider but she ncns. I always make my commitments but I hope she had a very good reason for not showing, emailing, or calling.

Posted By: Tollinmek
I was to meet a provider but she ncns. I always make my commitments but I hope she had a very good reason for not showing, emailing, or calling.
(Never forgetting there are three sides to every story and assuming you had a clearly stated appointment.)

Frankly, that is purely unprofessional not to call or inform. Putting aside the possibility of automotive accident, war and alien invasion, this can be indicative a lack of respect for another persons time. Can I assume subsequently to the appointment, she has not taken the initiative to contact you and offer an excuse? Has there been a offer to correct the situation with a reschedule? If the answer is NO I would suggest you   send a polite message inquiring what happened. If there is not response then do a posting stating the pure facts on such and such a date there was a NCNS since TER wouldn't let you post a NCNS review.

Then move on.


Lee Dreams
"Sine amore, nihil est vita

bluepillman419 reads

Posting about ncns is fraught with problems for the guy. Remember, she has our personal info and all that that implies. She can deny it. She will have her wk's come rushing to her defense, especially if she denies it. She can black list him. I dont know many guys that could put up with that potential backlash. I think best way to handle is on RO and guys only boards using an alias weeks after the encounter to protect themselves but also to protect the next guy who might get ncns'd. Of course each guy must make his own decision but in the vast majority of cases it turns out badly for the guy if he follows your advice. Just my 2 cents.

Yes, we disagree.

I find I have a personal visceral reaction to what you suggested and it smacks of cowardice.

NO, I'm not calling you a coward, I'm saying based upon my personal model of the world, it's flips those buttons. You don't reward bad behavior and this is probably why she does it. She knows their will be no consequences. Often when enough people stand up and say hey, I had that happen to me as well, nothing ever changes.

However, that's' just me and I have always been one of "those people" who talks to power. There are those who do and those who don't. It just is...

No  judgment, merely sharing and I appreciate what you have to say.


Lee Dreams
"Sine amore, nihil est vita

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your personal info wont be on google for the world to see forever and your name wont end up on a blacklist. And please note I never said there wouldnt be any consequences. I said it wouldnt be made public so the girl gets wind of it.

Imo, guys can better handle these type of matters "behind closed doors," thru the use of pm, bc and guys boards. It does not have to be posted on a local board where the girl in question, whose business is now harmed, could possibly decide to extract her revenge on the guy because she found out about it on that board post. Its happened. Many times. Check out some of the threads on the GD board if you dont believe me. There is no need to tip her off to the info.

I believe in the same result as you, just by being wiser and smarter to get that end result and to make the guys aware what is potentially at risk for them. In the end, they have to decide if its worth the risk, not you or I. I believe they should have all the info of what the downside could be for them before they make that decision. And yes, we disagree, in an agreeable manner. And I thank you for that and best to you.

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