First, I normally post on an East Coast board but out of fear of getting recognized I chose SOCal since I used to live in Vista, Calif.

How do I tell a provider that I can not and do not want to see her anymore.

Here is the scenario. She is an independent girl and I saw her for a 2 hour session last thursday. Very pretty, 21 yo  and sweet I gave her an 8/8. The session was winding down and I noticed she was shivering nearing the end. I asked her what was wrong and she told me that she had not eaten since breakfast. It was now 9:00 PM. According to her she worked her day job and I was her second client of the afternoon. I did the gentlemanly thing and offered her to join me for dinner (off the clock) and she accepted

I wound up taking her to a French place in NW for dinner. Dinner was fine and we both had a great time. I set up another session with her for Saturday and that also went well. She called me yesterday several times and today she called telling me that she wants to see me again.

I have used up my hobbying money for the month and quite honestly am not interisted is having another session with her. I would see her again but her clingyness is starting to scare me. I have a wife, a family and a good jobthat can be seriously jeopardized if I get caught. However, I dont want to be rude to her but I do want to tell her not to call me anymore. Any suggestions....

Oh and she has left several explicit messages that my wife could have gotten to first. That would have been a disaster.

I think that you should just call or e mail her and be honest. tell her very nicely and make sure to say you aren't trying to offend her....say the truth: that you cannot have unwarranted phone calls or correspondence on days that you have not sought out to make an appointment with her.  I'm sure she will understand.

Any provider I know or have ever known knows that you really should not call or contact your old clients unless they contact you first, because the reason they see providers instead of having an office fling or something stupid is because they are MARRIED and can't afford for their indiscretions to come out in the open.

Try my advice, I think honesty is the best policy, and if it were me, I'd totally take no offense and not do it anymore.

Good luck

Well, I left her a polite message on her voice mail. So far so good.

Like you said you have too much to lose!

Dude, my wife aint stupid. I already have two phones I carry with me and a third would just cause serious trust issues with her. I have thought of it before but I do not underestimate my wife's savvy. I just constantly change my PIN and do my best to keep everything on the DL.

I even once found a book she bought called The Private Investigator's Handbook by Chuck Chambers. I am sure she was conducting her own investigation on me. I went on to buy a copy for myself and used it to stay ahead of her investigation.

Dude, how can she find out?  You have a tracphone right?  The cost of the disposable phones paid w/ in cash at a wal-mart is inconsequential vs. 1 hobby session.
You have google chrome browser on your system and don't have the icon on your desktop or anywhere else right?  You use the incognito (no cookies or browsing history kept) session right?

If you are carefull, the only way you can be caught is if you have lipstick somewhere you shouldn't or come home w/ a STD if you aren't wearing protection.

I'm no expert mind you - just carefull.

Do what I do, either get a Google Voice account or Skype.

Add the Skype or GV client to your phone and you are set.

You can disable the forwarding when you don't want it to automatically forward the call/SMS to your real phone number.  

very cool move, Gov

I agrees with Cassie.  Give her a call and talk with her truthfully.  She should understand and get the hint.  Also, if you can find a way to get the prepaid phone - do it!  I am single so I don't worry about that, good luck.

... she is one suspecting wife and very smart too.  Hopefully, you don't get caught.  It can get pretty nasty like the real Gov. Spitzer.

Block the number!

you don't have the money.  You won't get anymore calls.