Hi raymanx,
I agree with you on the aspects below regarding not responding, etc. It does seem unprofessional if she has no reason to ignore you other than she is busy or doesn't feel like a date at that time or whatever.
The one issue I have is bringing that public. That will rarely make the issue better. There are other good providers out there that will probably take your money. Just a good scenario to move on. I know it sucks.
If Nikki has or is developing that kind of reputation (this is the first I've heard that myself)....it will have to affect her bottom line for her to change. If she's got enough demand that she can select...well...not likely or required for her to alter the way she does things. Just the way it is. Also it stood out to me that you "know" she hasn't replied to other providers for reference checks? How would you know that? Even still...on that point...it is usually good form to ask permission before using a provider as a reference. Even if another provider has told you that about Nikki...doesn't mean the original hobbyist isn't the one who screwed that up. Nikki may not respond to just any request for references. And one last point on this...maybe Nikki had a several day engagement or was otherwise occupied. Your note seems to say you reached out several times via several discreet methods within a 1 week time. That might have put her off there. She hops online and sees several notes from you progressively lighting her up for not replying immediately. You might be coming across as a hard to please potential client. If she has other options...she's probably just moving on.
You're probably even more unlikely to get a response from her now after bringing this public. She seems to be a very private individual when it comes to board practices. She rarely posts on TER. I'm guessing she won't even defend herself simply because she won't want that attention. This can be nothing more than a he said she said. Nikki just might be super selective in who she deals with in both the hobbyist and provider sides of the equation. Doesn't make you a bad dude...doesn't make her a bad chick...just means she's found a method that she is comfortable with and makes her the kind of money she wants to make.
Good luck to you. Hope you're able to move beyond this and enjoy another provider during your time here.
Posted By: raymanx
Actually guys I have found out that it is not uncommon for Nikki to ignore emails- even from other providers looking for references. As a busy man who is not used to being ignored when contacting people, I find it very frustrating not to get a reply even if it is to say- sorry can't do it. I like the hobby because it avoids the messiness of dealing with emotionally confusing situations- most of the time! (And of course there are often some very gorgeous women to get to know...) However, I think not responding to requests is unprofessional and something I might expect at BP rather than TER or well known and respected providers on Eros. A response, even if a negative reply to say 'no thank you, can't do it' should be mandatory- unless it is a response to some perverse message.
I believe you are correct that I may have been less then discreet here but this is indicative of my frustrated situation in trying to make contact via a number of other more discreet methods over the week. I actually worked to try to make my schedule so that it might be possible to see Nikki, from the good things I had heard. I rarely encounter such unprofessional behavior in high end providers. Furthermore, I do not believe this is much more base than previous postings. I.e. There is no info in my post that is not already public... Except that Nikki seems to ignore some emails, which is personally fine but professionally not.
I'd be interested to hear about your own thoughts about such behavior or lack thereof.
Enjoy Columbus!
