Posted By: thegoodsh
1) I DO think that the risk of LE is very small if you are patient and careful.
Opinion, not fact.
Posted By: thegoodsh
2) BP is like the wild west, or perhaps - if you include the freaks - the Mos Eisley Cantina. For many the risks, and the unknown elements, are part of the charm. The sex is just part of the adventure. Spontaneity and variety can also be a huge factor. I think the things that terrify you, are the things that interest a segment of the population. From what I can tell there is a lot of overlap on the client side.
Others can take the risk...not my thing. I'm just into a good time. I don't need any sort of threat of danger to help me get in the mood. Your comments about spontaniety and variety can apply without there being high levels of risk.
Posted By: thegoodsh
3) Money paid doesn't equate to a level of satisfaction. It just doesn't. This is obvious if you think about it. It might make you feel better about things, if that is your bent. But it is demonstrably not the case, once you remove that particular outlook.
I dont believe anyone said the rate paid guaranteed a certain level of service. The rate is more a product of supply and demand. This is straight up economics. Some (read: most) of these ladies are here to make a living and as such...they figure out ways to create demand...even the perception of demand. This translates to a lower turnover for a higher yield. Aka...low(er) volume. Now...lest I contradict myself from an earlier point...this is all conjecture or supposition. Some HDHs could be running similar volume as a lower rate BP girl...and I'm sure there are some that do. My guess is that this is not a great long term plan and would tend to burn a lady out sooner rather than later. For the ladies that truly are "here to stay", the best business plan for them is to charge as much as the market will reasonably sustain. On average, they will attract a certain type of client (more affluent), not have to book as many dates to maintain their target income, and will not put undue wear and tear on the equipment. As a nice side benefit, they lower their risks on multiple levels because they can be more selective(fewer partners) and they have to screen less often(less risk of getting busted by LE).
Posted By: thegoodsh
3 a) Almost everything sexual comes down to psychology. No matter what you pay, if you don't feel it... you don't feel it. She can't guarantee it. No amount of money is going to cause her to really like spending time with you or you to like spending time with her. You can both pretend extra-hard.
Across the board, civilian or professional, the best experiences for me have had little to do with "skills" and everything to do with "clicking" or chemistry.
Agreed, to a point. There is a huge chasm between a mind blowing blow job that makes me cum so hard it feels like my entire scrotum and anything in the same neighborhood is going along for the explosive ejaculatory ride....and JAWS. So, skills do play a part in the experience. But, to support your point...the separator from there is connection. Some ladies just know how to relate and make the session that much better. It's a "both" not an "either" thing for me.
Posted By: thegoodsh
3 b) The only consideration is that perhaps for some, the more they pay, the better THEY feel about it. If that is the case, then sure: The more you pay, the better your experience. Since you will almost always know the amount you paid, then you cannot escape this. The girls you see should just raise your rates so you can have an even better time. But objectively, at some point, she can only do her "best" and you are then - objectively - over-paying.
Suckers...
Posted By: thegoodsh
4) There are a number of BP girls who ONLY do CBJ, CFS, don't do CIM, and don't kiss. They are probably the "safest" girls you can see because you've got a layer of latex between you and them. No fluids are exchanged at all. She could have "the aids big time" and it wouldn't matter. I'm not saying you'll have the lusty time you may desire or feel much of anything, but there's a trade-off.
"Safest" here only applies to fluid transmission. They might still be horrible screeners, indiscreet, etc.
Posted By: thegoodsh
4 a) Pretty much all the high-end ladies do: CIM, DFK, DATY.
I've seen some über high end that are "everything covered" providers. I don't think there is an absolute correlation to rate.
Posted By: thegoodsh
The screening these high-end ladies do has nothing to do with STDs/STIs. Risks of BBBJ/DATY are real. I am not criticizing this practice at all. But, to pretend that BP is the "land of the diseased", whilst mid and top-level providers are immune is just silly, and obviously so.
Screening is not about STDs/STIs. It's about not going to jail, not getting robbed, not getting kidnapped, and staying alive. Again, the BP stigma is more about the perception of volume. No, there is no way to know for sure when you hook up with a stranger. That is one of the uncontrollable and unknowable risks.
Posted By: thegoodsh
Some of the clients who see high-end ladies (whether or not they know it / want to believe it) have seen SW or equivalent types. They have probably done BBFJ with them, or maybe worse. No matter what they do to screen, unless the guy talks about it, there's no way for a provider to know about it. You think Tiger, Charles Barkley, Jerry Springer, and dudes like Hugh Grant are the exception? Some guys aren't concerned or actually like the risks.
This is conjecture...unless you are providing personal testimony. Can it happen? Sure. Does it happen? Probably. I've never hooked up with a SW and I've never had BBFS (what is BBFJ!?!?!?) with any provider (or worse...whatever that may be). Again, uncontrollable and unknowable.
Posted By: thegoodsh
5) The only girls who could actually "out me" are the higher-end organizations/ladies who asked for personal info to "verify" me.
Agreed...they can't out you if they don't have your details. I would modify your statement to just say "anyone that requires personal info" however. This is not a practice exclusive to the high end.
Posted By: thegoodsh
I've seen a number of girls off BP, and none of them knows much about me. There's nothing for them to "out me" with. The balance of power is far more equitable with a BP girl.
Equally impotent is not balanced power. True, they may not be able to out you...but, is this because alternate screening is being used or because they are skipping screening altogether? The ones that are skipping it seem the easiest targets for LE to bust, flip, and start ripping into Johns that don't believe in requiring screening themselves. If a girl would see me no questions asked....I'd run for the hills. That's the very definition of HIGH RISK.
If they are using alternate screening...fine.
Posted By: thegoodsh
6) Giving out my private info to try to see a few of the higher priced ladies is the only thing I really regret in my time in this hobby. Money "wasted" on a disappointing girl was at least an interesting experience. Time/effort/risk wasted on a disappointing no-go was just... tedious and boring.
Yeah...it sux to have to hand it over. So far, I've not had to do that. But, that's also because I haven't hobbied in the US.
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