I'm trying to figure out why I'm so intimidated by beautiful women.  It even happens at strip clubs.  I'm fine watching them but the minute they come to me I get all nervous and weird unless I'm stupid drunk.   This makes hobbying VERY difficult.  I'm almost relieved if a lady I'm interested in won't see me because of verification issues (happened recently).  I used to think it was because of my weight.  But, I've changed a lot in the past year in that regard.  Now I'm just confused as hell.  I don't think I should be nervous at all.  I'm not too fat, ugly, or unclean.  WTF?!?  I can talk to any girl I'm not attracted to without any issues.  Any of you guys ever had this problem?  If so, how did you get over it?  I kind of feel like Raj in The Big Bang Theory.

Did you have had a bad experience with a beautiful woman that effected you deeply?  I would say that spending time with a provider who is understanding of your fear and able to make you comfortable in your own skin so to speak might be helpful.  I find that that is one of the most important things I can do as a provider since everyone has different needs and being able to accommodate them is key to a positive experience.  I am sure you will find the right lady and she will be able to help you over this hump.....

This is going to haunt you your entire life until you make it your mind to beat it.  Here are my suggestions:

1.  Don't worry so much about the attraction.  Treat gorgeous women like everyone else.  Don't be so worried about what kind of impression you leave.  Just be yourself.  Attraction has to come naturally.  You try to make it happen...it won't.

2.  Don't kiss their ass.  90% of the guys that they encounter kiss their ass.  Do you really think some worn out compliment that they hear all the time is going to be appealing?  Don't be an asshole.  But don't kiss their ass either.  Again just be yourself.

3.  Relax and have fun.  Tease them, joke around, be playful.  

4.  Don't try to make them feel sorry for you.  If she wanted a puppy she would buy a dog.  

5.  Realize that sometimes (not always) gorgeous women don't have alot of close relationships.  Every guy they encounter wants to fuck them in the first 5 minutes.  Every girl is jealous.  Often they are lonelier than you think.   But stay out of the 'friend zone".  You will have to figure out the fine line of this on your own.

6.  Because of #5, gorgeous women often have their defenses up.  Wouldn't you if you got hit on 24/7?  If you give them shit and joke around...realize that they might come back hard at you.  Prove you can take it and give it back again.

7.  On to Strippers and Providers.  They are most attracted to your wallet.  That is what they want.  So ENJOY, ENJOY,ENJOY.  They are going to be understanding without rejecting you.  Be smart in who you pick and the right provider can help you over your fears

It's not just you. I had a client show up one time and I about fell over he was so gorgeous. For a second, I thought I had gotten pregnant just by looking at him. Dude was seriously one of the most beautiful creatures I had ever seen (dark complexion, piercing blue eyes, perfect teeth, bangin' body and covered in tattoos) and I was giggling like an idiot the whole damn date. Embarrassing.  

My point is this: we all get a little goofy in the presence of hotness. Don't be so hard on yourself.  

Edit: Heh. I said "hard on."

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That should take care of your being denied.

All of the response, thus far, have been great. I'm glad you're cmfortable enough to discuss this openly. Hope the "dick-cheese" keep their fucking mouths shut on this.

Did you know that attractive women often sit home alone because men figure they haven't a chance with them? True fact.

If you're concerned that 10's will intimidate you, sart out with the bar lower. I know that sounds harsh but the "appearance" scores are there for a reason even if they are machismo based.

Good Luck! Stay thirsty my friend

you won't go beyond it.  

The aforementioned is a quote from a well known motivational speaker.  

Now, what does that mean for you?  

Let me answer it this way.  

Anytime I talk to someone (and I don't give a fuck who it is) I accept two things.

*  This person is lucky to talk to me.  Why?  Because I am the only me on the planet
*  I am lucky to talk to this person because they are the only one of them on the planet

Dude, get your self worth in line and accept that when you are fucking a pretty woman (which is subjective) that you did something to deserve it and she should feel lucky to get to fuck you and vice versa.

The phrase "gettin' Lucky with Ridgetucky" don't exist for nothing!!!!!!!!!!!!!

RT Out

Good advice. Especially. No. 7. Remember that this is p4p. Have fun.  The beauty part of this wonderful hobby is that we can spend time with really hot women with no strings attached. Don't overthink it just enjoy

Same way. EXACT same way. It's the only reason why I haven't seen Tobi yet. I would lose all fine motor skills the second I was in the room with her. Still struggle with it and never see myself getting beyond it... :/

I don't think you're giving her the credit she deserves. Think about it. Just weigh her board presence. I think you'd do just fine.

I know Tobi would go out of her way to put me at ease, but deep down inside I have my own issues that would get in the way of being able to enjoy my time with her.  

1. I'm primarily Lithuanian. We're all a naturally goofy looking group of people.  
2. I'm hairy. I'm very hairy. I'm a hairy barbarian savage.  
3. On top of looking Lithuanian, I sound West Virginian. And from what others have told me, that's pretty annoying to Ohioans.  

So yeah. Moral of the story - I'm a total chick magnet.

I have that effect on women...
I keed, I keed.

Let me explain to something...women who are  beautiful and women who arent are really the same. First, its all pink the middle either way. So what u get is either way is pink in the middle.  As far as women of beauty the first u must understand is that many other guys are scared too. I have learned that being confident and relaxed is the key. Laughter and kimdness mixed with some cockiness will get the pink in the middle no matter the level of beauty. Be the man 24/7 and the pink in the middle will never be missed regardless of the level of beauty.  

 

I had to read this point twice as I totally read something other than "savage".
Too funny, Kinot.

As for the WV accent, are we talking Deliverance or just standard Appalachia?

Me gusta.  

He's the king of all shit-talkers.  

finally a fun post, I think all of us at one time or another felt like our fatguy friend.  We are a great support group.  I thought that was the sweetest story Tobi!

Hope to see you chime in more.  Missed ya.

This is the wonderful thing about a capitalist system.  Some guys get beautiful chicks because of their looks, charm, game.  I as a middle aged fat man get it because I have some cash in my pocket.

For a few bucks I can not onle see a gorgeous woman naked but I can decide in what position she'll take the four inches I have to offer.  I'm in charge.  She'll wear what I want.  She won't have a headache, be tired from work or spend the time with her sister.  For that hour (or more realistically 12 minutes) I'm the Emperor of her Universe.

Shift your paradigm my friend, and use the hobby to overcome those feelings rather than feed them.

BTW ladies, who wants me now?

Damn...........I'm not folding mine in half fer nobody lol

Lmfao!

I had uncontrollable giggles the first time with a hottie, too! Totally thought he would never call me again, but he did!

Hahaha girl you and I have discussed this topic at length.  

Still, there's no one sexier than Rocco. He's MY Cincy boyfriend!