Hi all,

Some questions.  I am completely new to this.  Yes, I have read the FAQs, but there remain a few questions. Basically this: former girlfriend has turned into a Jesus freak. Yep, a 100% God botherer.  And so here I am.  Ergo:

My job is sensitive indeed.  Discretion is absolutely mandatory. I don't want anyone to know where I work.  So how the hell am I going to get through any screening process?

I don't have a cell phone.  Perhaps I should get one?

Any advice on this or peripheral important issues would be greatly appreciated.

Slack

There are some providers who do not require work exchange information, you may study their websites to find out their verification requirements.  
    You are going to need a cellphone, especially if you engage two call escorts.  You can try one that is sold from kiosks in Malls, they are ok, but the reception can be bad in some locations like big cities or large building.  Probaly the best cellphone companies are large phone companies like Verizon that have invested money in making their system better - the reception comes in pretty much everywhere.
    You should certainly get a VIP membership here at TER and study reviews closely.  You need to go in with good knowledge of a provider and avoid ripoffs or LE stings.  There are posts here where there has been discusion about how you should research reviews.  The last thing that you want is to get caught up in an LE sting and have you name put in the local paper.
    Got finish now, want to read other posts.  Have to go to church later.  Just kidding, I actually have to go for a run.
    Keep hobbying in perspective and always have other things that utilize your time in your life, it is easy to get lost hobbying.

Virgin mobile is a good choice for a throwaway phone.  Pay as U talk & no monthly statements coming.  Activate at the library under another name & who will know.  I get better reception than my Nokia thru Cingular One.

I personal screen like this... I want full name and home  number ... if I cant find you in a search on the web or though the white page... then I ask for work number not a direct line to you... i want to be able to call up and ask for you... or a pervious provider name and number or email so I can talk to her..why this is needed is safety. I know there are sites like www.date-check.com. This subject seems to be a big issue with alot of men.Knowing the risks of what could happen to us, what suggections do you make to make screening safe for both sides.

Well, there would certainly be no problem finding my name on the internet.  Still, that does not make it any easier--for both parties, I suspect.  Is some kind of face to face meeting/preliminary discussion at all a possibility?  I know that this would not alleviate all problems but, to be perfectly honest, my work number is simply out of the question.  Any other ideas?

If you are hesitant to give out certain information that she may ask for her own protection then you are looking in the wrong hobby.

Any reputale provider will not use your information for any other purpose than to verify who you are.
If you have aproblem with that, then go find a SW, give her $20 and be done with it.
If you want a to participate in this hobby with the wonderful ladies here, suck it up, tell them what they want.
You will need to trust someone at sometime.
You are no more special that any other guy in this hobby.
We have all given personel information to the ladies,in exchange for personel services.

Just my opinion...
B

What "B" says is true.  You come across like an LE.  A discrete employment verification is not a problem for the majority of people.  If yu can't handle it, this hobby is not for you.  Real, reputable girls require screening.  Otherwise all you get is a desperate wannabe or an undercover.

...and any information you give out, assume it will be used inappropriately, however unintentionally, in ways you can't imagine right now.  Any hobbyist who tells you reputable providers won't retain or use your information (even innocently) at a future date are either very, very lucky to have not had it happen to them (yet) or inexperienced.

If you don't want to part with the private info a provider requires, find a provider who can live with the info you CAN give her.

...and any information you give out, assume it will be used inappropriately, however unintentionally, in ways you can't imagine right now.  Any hobbyist who tells you reputable providers won't retain or use your information (even innocently) at a future date are either very, very lucky to have not had it happen to them (yet) or inexperienced.

If you don't want to part with the private info a provider requires, find a provider who can live with the info you CAN give her.

First, I want to thank everyone for their comments. Second, I realize that providers have to take their own security and safety into account. Heaven knows, I would.  And I am not suggesting for one moment that they should be anything other than diligent. But the fact remains that my position is simply too sensitive to give out to someone whom, quite frankly, I don't know.  And there's the rub: She needs such information and I cannot give it.  I cannot give it but she needs it.  Deadlock.  

I don't see any way around this. The only thing I can think of at the moment is to avoid it.  So thanks again all for the comments.  Take care of yourselves.

Slackbridge

in those cases both her safety and yours can be seriously compromised.  Most providers who set up webpages will ask you for some type of information to let them get a better feeling for who you are.  
    I willingly give work exchange information and have never had that information misused.  But, as I said, if you are not comfortable with giving such information then look for providers who do not require it, there are some out there who are legitimate.

You have your work cut out for you. Providers really have a need and a right to get as much info as they feel they need to be safe (and even then, they know they are never 100% safe). There has been so much LE and violence lately that the bar has been understandably lifted. And you ought to realize that you're never really safe anyway. If someone wants to find out who you are, they can. There are so many ways these days to do that. So if you're looking for absolute privacy, find a different hobby.

That said, there are still some providers who are foolishly lax and if you look hard and long enough you may find one. And then once you have one, you can usually get a reference that will open the door to others. I've always been willing to give any info they need, but I have run into two providers  who never even asked. And both were well reviewed and worth it.  

You can even post on your city board and someone may be willing to see you or some hobbyist may be willing to point you in the direction of a provider who won't ask questions.

I am new to this (no previous providers).

I do not have a home number (cell only)

Since my name is very common, and I have never had problems, a search on the web (or lexus) will not help you.

I could give you a work number to reach me. If you called it you would get "he is out of the office" (or something like that) from the person that answered the phone.

If you try to call me on a direct work number to reach me, If I am not at my desk, my manager likes to answer it, and give me the message later.

This has been a very intriguing thread. I work for a fortune 500 company here in Denver and hold a Sr. Management position, however due to the fact that I have five sisters (two of which have been raped), I am very sensitive to the protection and safety of these providers. Therefore, what ever information they need to provide me pleasure, they will get. I have two cell phones seperate accounts for my activities and a private line in my office that only I answer. If you're going to be in this game, be smart about it and expect that the providers will do whatever is necessary to protect there safety and well being.  I am not a big fan of LE and suspect that anyone who does not have a cell phone in this day and age is a little odd (my granddaughter has one.)

Strongly recommend that you find another hobby and leave this one to the big boys who understand what's going on. As for the individual who says that we have been lucky not to get involved in a bust, it's not luck it's called doing your homework, using your instincts and talking to those providers who have experience and have been providing services for years.