Ive been thinking about doing it part time to make ends met and have a bit of play money (what girl doesn't like nice pretty things I met this girl at the gym that Ive gotten to know and trusted since we pretty much see each other everyday so I ran it by it by her found out she until very recently was a provider for 3 years and stopped because she found someone to take her in and help her get on her feet. She went from a $120 hour happy ending massage service (and she has a massage lic so she knows her stuff) to a $60 hour intercourse service girlfriend encounters or something she said it was called. She told me all the mistreatment and prank phone calls the guys simply not showing up then ignoring or hanging up her calls  stretching their time ppl just simply coming to her place and walking out and this is just some of the stuff she went thru on a daily basis and she was very adamant about me not getting into this until my body was more "presentable" and she was doing it because it was all she had to get buy at the time and I do have a "normal' job that Im making enuf to get buy in for the time being.  Is it even worth trying or does every big girl get treated this badly. If its something worth getting into what tips or advice can I get being a plus size provider?

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Guys like all types, spinners, milfs, gilfs, and bbws, etc. Lurk around here, and other boards. Read up more on escorting, you'd be surprised what info is available on the internet and of course google is your friend. As far as"a $60  hr intercourse service girlfriend" that's on the very low end of escorting. There is no average amount, but I would hazzard a guess there aren't a lot of guys here who would see a "$60 hr" girl. Check out a site like Eros and see the rates tha providers charge. I could go on, but hopefully some providers will contribute to this thread

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That is what is important here.  Are you really interested, go for it.  Some men like plus size women, some don't.  When you advertise, be honest about the type lady you are, what your limits are and rates.

that as a provider, screening is essential. Find a provider in your area who will take you "under her wing" and teach you the ropes, so to speak.

Also, if you don't put a phone number in your ad or website, you will be less likely to get late calls. Many ladies I know only give out their phone number once a date is confirmed.

Good luck.

and just about any gal can be sexy if she just thinks she is sexy and acts that way.

If you follow that rule, and study up on here about how to run your business, you will be fine, but you really have to believe in yourself, and your post exudes a lot of self-doubt.

Im just scared because she started off doing FBSM $120 hour when she left just to keep getting calls and making ends meet she went down to $60 GFE thats like twice as much work for twice as less pay and the danger (STDs). I'm looking around on Backpage and all the think girls were at 60-70 even if they had flat tummys if they were new york model body types they had to drop their rates to get calls im assuming. But I do a bigger girl on Backpage that post $200 hour outcalls even tho I have no clue if shes actaully getting calls Ive seen her ad a few times so she most. But I'm wondering if she possibly could have been doing things wrong. She never talked on the boards and kept to herself just dealt with the bullshit she got from the calls she was getting and was grateful when someone did show up so she could get food in her mouth and keep her hotel room paid for. From her experience hobbyist were all just sexist assholes that determined a womans worth by how skinny she was and didnt care about anything else then fucking her then leaving at the lowest rate they could. But from being here the past few days I dont think thats the case so I'm wondering what if anything she did to bring her rates that low and be reduced to only fucking young military men that flaked on her all the time black guys that always tried to low ball and mexicans that more then often then not barely spoke english and many times brought a lower rate because they didnt "understand what she said" or gave her a hard time about 'not being a cop' and sometimes wouldnt see her because of that. I just dont want to make the same mistakes she did because i cant help but think you guys do screwtinize bigger women more then smaller girls but if im wrong ...

I thought I had issues! Being a plus sized woman (5'10 size 14) I understood where you were coming from in your first post, however you completely jumped off the deep end when you began to talk about all of the ppl who did your friend wrong with emphasis on their occupation and nationality. I think that the wrongs that came your friends way were probably more the result of her attitude, self esteem and confidence than anything else, not because certain races of ppl or ppl with certain occupations. I also think that if your post is an accurate reflection of how you feel about yourself and others then you can likely expect the same.

Im also a newb, haven't even posted an add here YET, but I refuse to bring a lack of confidence and self-doubt into my learning experiences. If you are not confident and secure in yourself then why in the world would any one even want to spend time with you? What could you possibly do to make any one else feel good?

Im gonna step off my soap box now but before I do please know this... You attract that which you are. I have never had an encounter like the ones you describe. Im sure it can happen to any of us, but I strongly believe that the way I carry and conduct myself helps me to naturally attract men who enjoy the company of a woman who loves every inch of herself and will likely know how to treat them because her mind isn't preoccupied with self-doubt, and preconcieved notions that they intend to do me wrong.... *exhales.

Here are some ways to guarantee you will be treated badly:

1) Start out expecting to be treated badly
2) Have low self esteem
3) Start out at a ridiculously low price
4) Let your prejudices dictate your business model
5) Allow people to treat you badly
6) Fail to represent your true size with description or pics

Some ways to help you earn respect and clients:

1) Do you deserve to be treated badly? If not, don't expect it. But do develop a thicker skin so you don't get blindsided by the assholes, of which there are many.
2) Learn to like yourself. Get therapy if necessary.
3) Do some local research and set a price that works for you. Keep in mind that if a lot of locals are lowballing, they may very well be fakes or scams, they may upsell heavily, or they may even be druggies willing to work for a fix. It may be true that as a newbie bbw provider you can't command a big price tag, but there are plenty of guys who like larger girls and if you are honest and don't upsell and deliver as promised and develop a sexy attitude, there's no reason you can't do well.
4) It may be true that some providers have had bad experiences with men of certain ethnic groups. Doesn't make it all true in every case. Exclude an ethnic group and exclude a portion of business.
5) People give you shit online or on the phone? Hang up, block them, delete them. Don't allow it, period.
6) Be completely honest about your size and your looks so there are no surprises when Johnny shows up at your door. Again, plenty of guys like larger women. You don't say HOW large you are, so it's hard to judge...
7) Get some good, pro or semi-pro pics and a decent website. Get good at backrubs. Decide in advance what you want to do and whats off limits (bbbj, anal, cim, msog, etc, etc, etc) and stick to it. And then, just do it.

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I've learned from experience that the price point the more creepers and cheapers are going to call you.  I post on BackPage and all the mistreatment, bullshit, and prank phone calls happen to the $60 girls.  When you have a higher price point you get less bullshit and more serious clients.

Also you have to have a strong mind and backbone.  A lot of guys like to call and talk shit just to feel you out to see how naive and/or dumb you might be. Remember: NO CONVERSATION! NO IDLE CHATTER! If it is not a ready appointment and they are not answering questions required in your screening or giving directions there is no reason to be on the phone with them. This includes emailing, texting, & PMs.

Be honest about your appearance.  I've noticed a lot of big girls like to take pictures bending over showing their huge booties only or have on some kind of outfit that hides how big their stomach is. Don't put up pics of you in a corset that shows a coke bottle shape then when you get naked it's a 2 liter. That is false advertising.  You have to be comfortable and confident

Keep in mind that you will be on the radar of clients who have huge dicks.  There is a stereotype that big girls can "take it".

Without finding out more about your particular situation, what you look like, what you are willing to offer, and what you expect, it's hard to give any really useful advice.

Now the Cons: Most of the BBW's I see advertise get lower pay than others.  Even the ones with prettier faces.  Some get very little.  There are a few her on TER, which isn't the world-we get tunnel vision-who are exceptional at what they do and make larger bucks, but in my opinion not equal to what they would thinner.

Your risking STD, abuse which = more weight, arrest, jail and your other job for a few extra dollars.

Lower end escorts have the greatest chance of being busted.  You have a job and want to do this for a little extra money.  Is it worth the risk? That is plural.  This isn't something to jump into,  HIV is always a threat with a condom that doesn't fit by a dude who insists he's magnum and not stubby.

Good luck, stay safe and stay well

Please don't listen to your gym friend. She was 1)a bad provider 2)a cheap provider (which means cheap disrespectful clients)

Every man out there has an ideal woman, and to many, you are it. Don't be fooled that BBW and overweight woman can't make bank, you can, it's just in the way you do it.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to treat yourself right...tone up, exercise etc. But if YOU are not comfortable in your own skin escorting will not help. There will be crude and rude men, key is for every 1 rude guy there are 100's who think you are the sexiest thing alive.
DON'T take any advice from that "escort". She is failing at life and being a provider.