Thought I would chime in on this as I have spent the better part of a year sitting on the fence and spending way too many hours thinking about an encounter.  I travel so I have many nights to read through TER and live vicariously though the experiences of others.  Just to paint my situation I've been married all my life, first at 18 for seven years, divorced for one, now married for sixteen.  At 41 I've had 4 lovers, not counting my first which lasted all of 30 seconds.  I love my wife very much, as I'm sure most of us do, but was really obsessed with having some sexual experiences to dwell on as I'm sitting in the rocker 30 years from now.

I contacted one provider about 3 months ago and went through the screening process only to chicken out at the last minute (no I did not stand her up).  On a side note the last review I read on her said "She is not aging well, I think the business is getting to her. I'm not sure how old she is but it is older than the 31 she claims…I started to kiss down her stomach thinking about DATY but something just told me I need to leave without partaking…I asked her why she was using a condom because she never had before. She said she was seeing more guys now and needed to protect her self."  So maybe it's a good thing I chickened out.

Anyway, I had my first experience 9 hours ago with a lovely, well rated, lady in Atlanta.  She is beautiful, everything I imagined, a true artist of pleasure.  I must say that I really enjoyed myself….the question is will I do it again?  I have read many posts that talk about the addictive nature of the hobby but I wanted to offer another perspective.

After the meeting I find my curiosity sated and I can honestly say that I don't think I will seek out another adventure.  Why?  The act itself (for me) is really much better at home, although my wife could take lessons from this lady on BJ's (CBJ, by-the way).  The time spent with someone you are familiar with is better than any a provider can offer…and lets face it, this is a service devoid of emotions.  While I'm glad that I had the experience (maybe I can work at nights on the road now) I don’t see me wanting another.

So my fence sitting friends I offer this advice.  Go ahead and try it once if you find yourself hopelessly curious.  Be safe, play safe, and seek out someone that has good reviews.  Only then will you be able to concentrate on other things.  Maybe you will find yourself addicted and answer this question differently than I have.  For me, the experience has quieted that voice in my head and made clear just how much I love the experience of "attached" sex.

Hope you found this helpful.          

I have some interests that are of no interest to my wife of 15 years.

Sometimes literature or visual pornography is enough to help me scratch the itch. But not always ...

So, once a year or so when I've got the fever I call in a professional - or more accurately I pay a visit to a pro - and play a little.

Not exactly the same as the above post, but similar. Similar in that I found a way to stay sane and stay married. Each of us needs to find a way to make it work - whether it is a one time thing, a once in a while thing or an all the time thing.

Life is about finding what is right for you and you seemed to have hit your mark.  Consider yourself lucky, because a large number of people never find the contentment concerning sex that you have.

Wow, that was very informative, I finally decided to take the plunge, and will see a provider for the 1st time in the next few days, however I'm not married.

Thanks for the post, it definitely gives everyone something to think about.

"I second that emotion"