any help would be appreciated TER ID352875 but do I have them linked to me yet?

Your username / handle ("LaylaLovees") is successfully linked to your Profile "Layla" TER ID: 352875. Now, whenever you post to the Forums, your name will have a hot link "See my TER Reviews" with your handle, e.g.,  
LaylaLovees [Mail Link]   See my TER Reviews       15 reads                 [Time Stamp of the post]
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When your post is at the "top" and starting a new thread, the "See my TER Reviews" link is openly visible on the same line.  
When your post is a reply post, further down the page, you must click on the drop menu (the tiny blue triangle) next to your username and the "See my TER Reviews" link is there.
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You CAN add your Profile link to the body of your post (remove the S in httpS to make it a hot link), but it isn't necessary with the "See my TER Reviews" hot link already next to your handle.
http://www.theeroticreview.com/reviews/show.asp?ID=352875

Ive sent it several times and it says not a valid link and I have opened it as well and it says provider not found

you're trying to send in your post how can anyone help?

Okay I'm linked but why don't I have access to the providers only board? I emailed in about this once but unless it went to spam in my email and its now long gone I didn't get a response and still don't have access. I remember somnething somewhere about having to post often in here to get allowed but what if Im not a big poster? How will I ever get to read the forum with just being a provider?

Access to PO Board (and the A Only and R Only Boards) are restricted. From this previous post:
http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion-boards/newbie---faq-33/she-is-not-qualified-she-will-be-rejected-166834
"Access to the provider only board requires a minimum of 3 reviews (she only has 2) and a ***decent posting history.*** (She only has 14 posts total on TER)"