An hour after "scheduled"/ agreed upon time to meet and dude is a no call no show. No response to text msgs/phone calls. All references cked out ok, even made arrangements to accommodate a specific time to meet. What to do? Why would a horny ass guy with a bunch of whitelist referrals and several reviews wanna fuck with me like that? so stressed and all shaved and wet with no one to fuck... blown.com!

Two notable NCNS have happened to me:

In one case the gal had to be hospitalized with depression.  (I know, how could anyone be depressed about seeing me! 8o)

She turned out OK.  I still see her too after about 15 years.  (She's a lot less depressed these days also.)

The second time I heard about three days later when a gal I had seen several times got out of the hospital.  She wrecked her car on the way to come see me.  (What some people will do to avoid a date with me.)

I saw her about a month later and the big bruise on her leg was plenty of evidence for me.  She said her cell phone went flying and got smashed where my number was stored, so she had to wait till she got home and could send me an email on her computer.  Boy was I relieved to finally hear from her.  That was 8 years ago and we are still going strong.

I had three other NCNS, one was on account of a certain gal being just too flaky, and I never heard back from her.  The other two are mysteries for the ages.  They were both on TER and just disappeared shortly afterwards.

NCNS is just a part of this hobby, and I'm afraid it always will be.

It was just a WFAG, don't take the next statement the wrong way, but maybe you were the backup plan. Wouldn't be the first time a client ever double booked.  It's surprising that after giving you his ter handle so you could see his white list refs, he'd pull a stunt like that.   Or maybe life just got in the way and he was unable to send/receive a text or call, because his hobby phone was unacessible.

Understandable. But emailing me all day about how hot I was and then he called to confirm what time and where to meet an hour before? Bullshit! There was rarely a lapse in conversation because I am really not that busy since I tend to weed out the BS or so I thought. I mean even a hey can't do it right before woulda saved his ass. I really wanna flag his whitelist chicks so when he goes to the next one they know what he is capable of.

I am sorry this happened to you.  In a perfect world NCNS would never happen.  I would expect a contact...  and appology...  within a day or 2 at the most.  

I was annoyed that a Fav lady I had prebooked with was not available when I made the confirmation phone call before departing.  I booked a few days later with another Fav.  I found out later that Fav #1 was out of state at her sister's funeral (sudden & unexpected reaction to chemo for breast cancer).  Then I felt like a real jerk...    I still see her on occasion & that never changed.

I should add the lady I mentioned above is NOT TER Reviewed because she does not have an internet presence...  so I have notrevealed sensive information.  
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because he contacted me same day and volunteered all info I needed to check him out; I still went about my own devices and checked on him and he did seem ok. His reviews were all current and even gave me (roughly) his work and home info. LOL! Now that I think about it with a fresh head, he was a TGTBT hobbyist! I guess the time I spent checking him out and getting ready wasn't all a waste, more practice for the next one. But it's jerks like him that make me stringent with not allowing same day appointments, putting down a deposit, yada, yada, yada. The hoops we must go through to protect ourselves! But in a sense, he did screw me, one way or the other... I guess the next time when I get a TER PM you guys will just have to wait... I really feel good about you guys on here, now I'm just so discouraged.

reason (accident, boss piled some shit on him last minute, etc.).  If you don't get an acceptable response, you need to let your provider friends know this guy stiffed you.

with a gentle sendoff, "sorry this didn't work out for you tonight hon." I am a very understanding person, I mean look what I choose to do for work! LOL! But not really interested in excuses or reasons, it's just a common courtesy to say no thanks or cancel and to make an effort to treat someone with respect. Yes, I am a provider, but NO, I don't sit around waiting for a fuk, I do have a life. So, whatever happened in his life was way more important well that's fine. Hell, maybe he got mugged going to the ATM picking up my donation... Now, there's a thought!

I'd say it sounds like he was either spooked and thought you may be LE...or he was kidnapped by aliens.

Isn't this a rare scenario? I'm not saying that I'm doing anything other than the same as you stated above (references, whitelist checking etc)... but I've never had a well screened hobbyist (or any hobbyist really, I always screen so that part is a given) flake. I mean, flat out flake with NCNS... I had 2 guys who seemed to get scared and said they weren't up for it and left...in the whole 5 years i've been doign this. I'm just finally shocked to see another provider who is upset about this scenario like it's rare. So many ladies make it sound like it's an everyday thing for them, but isn't it true that we weed out a TON of BS'ers by requiring references? Just a thought...