To be fair to her, it might also have been a family emergency, but usually they call or write with the specifics.

To just ignore you when your schedule is inflexible is wrong.

You would be wise to avoid her in the future.

Check the areas agencies out and see if they can send someone to you on short notice.  That's what they are good for.

Or see if you can at least find a good MP.

So, here's my story... I'm currently sitting in my hotel suite, waiting on a 3 hour appt that is an apparent no show. Some details... this is a high end provider, great reviews, I dare say probably the best reviewed in her city. She's also pricey... but I saved my pennies and was ready to go.

I was coming to her town and I confirmed the appointment well in advance... over a month. She emailed two weeks ago to reconfirm, and I emailed again this week to triple reconfirm. Last night, she even emailed to say how she was eagerly looking forward to today, what wine she should bring etc. I think everything is cool and we're good to go.

This morning, I get an email asking if I can push the appointment back to later in the afternoon. Couldn't do it because I had a family function. She asked maybe the evening? Nope, couldn't do that either. No response. I email again to confirm the original time.... no response. Just before the appt time I get a call, nobody on the other end. I thought it might be her, even though the number didn't match, so I text her and call her. No response.

Look, I know life happens, and plans change, but it just strikes me as completely unprofessional to simply NOT RESPOND. Tell me you are sick, your mom died, whatever... I'll be cool with it. But to not respond? I'm too old for high school, y'know? If I wanted rejection, I'd look to the civvie world. It's too bad too, because this particular lady is coming to my town soon, and if everything worked out she would have had a realiable client.

So, at this point, I think I'll take a nap, now that I've had a few whiskeys. But the ultimate question is: is this unprofessional, or typical, and I'm overreactng?

may have made my way into a trio to make up for the slight. Lucky me!

If she could not make the original appointment time then she should let you know.Obviously,there was some kind of issue when she asked if you could change the appointment time right there she could have said she would not be able to see you.I do not think that kind of behavior is typical to leave someone hanging and not let them know what is going on.It does not take a lot to call,send a text,email,or pm to say things have changed.In your story I did not see anything that you did that would be considered overreacting.
Sorry to hear that happened to you hopefully you will be able to still have some fun.

and you have already arrived & spent money.   I'm do some TER shopping & see if you can come up with an alturnative.
I had a well reviewed provider I was looking forward to seeing...  booked in advance.  Night before we were good to go.  She says "Call in the morning for my hotel"...  & she doesn't pick up.  So I lose a rare opportunity.  

I would not totally write her off...  but I'd expect a message from her with a day or 2 with an appology and an explanation.   If that does not happen, she permanantly off my to do list.  
skb

I'm a newbie myself. I've had a few hobbying experiences, and they've all been positive except for one, but the negative one wasn't anything like what you are describing.

I think you really hit the nail on the head when you said, "If I wanted rejection, I'd look to the civvie world."  My sentiments exactly!  One of the reasons I turned to occasional hobbying was because I got sick and tired of the bullshit, games and rejection that go on in conventional dating. I hobby to get away from shit like this.  So, in all seriousness, you have my sympathy. I'm sorry this happened.  The good news is that there are plenty of providers out there who will treat you like a king and show you a good time.

In a similar vein, this week a provider I've seen many times before agrees to an outcall in my town about 90 minutes from her home base. As usual, I agree to reimburse her for the hotel as well as the session. I get concerned because she usually confirms the appointment several days in advance, but this times waits until the day before. In her email she gives me the old "if tomorrow wont work for you I can come on Monday." Well, Monday doesn't work for me so I specifically tell her that if she can't make it the next day we can reschedule. But apparently the next day is fine for her, and I get a couple of emails giving me the name of the hotel she has booked, the details of the naughty schoolgirl outfit I asked her to wear, and how much she is looking coward to seeing me. So everything is cool, right?

Wrong. The next day about 2 hours before the appointment she emails me and says she can't make it. Didn't even offer a lame excuse. At least until I outlined my thought that this was all BS because I gave her the choice to reschedule the day before. Her excuse? Her aunt came into town early. Pluuuease! I had been seeing her regularly every 6-8 weeks for the last year. But not anymore...

I mean, it's pretty obvious this will refelect very negatively on the provider.  Why in the world would anyone do this without contacting you with at least some reason?  Even if it's complete BS?  I just don't get it.  Just simple common sense.

I'm willing to be she has a clause on her website about how you'd owe her money if you were a no-show.

Not good but at least you got a reply.   I could see it in my case as I was New to her...  but what's wrong with answering her phone & just saying it wasn't happening?  "Sorry, change in plans."  I could accept that.  I know perfectly well that she got a better offer or more bookings in the place she was at.  But it's RUDE.
She normally is in the city North of me...   It's further to travel...  but I do head that way sometimes.  But she's on my DNS list...  after costing me one opportunity why would I risk wasting another?
skb    

her a "what happened email", then you need to let the guys on your regional board no about her lack of professional business ethics.

Two, one of the reasons why a plan B is necessary when traveling to another city and having a limited window to play.

in about an hour. We worked it out. She was extremely apologetic. She had a horrible headache this morning and felt awful about having to reschedule, but like I said, all is good now.

The whole headache thing is probably bs. She had another hobbyist that wanted more hours and paying more than you so she put you on the back seat. I think it's common and trust me, she will do it to you again. My regular has no showed no call at appointment time 3 times in the last four months and she would call text or email a day later with some lame excuse. I am taking on her offer of $ discount for our next meet and I am just going to pound her hard one last time and find myself another ATF.

As he pointed out... he finally heard back and there were reasons and she made it up to him.

I once drove an hour to another rural city to meet a guy at a hotel. He gave me references and I called him before I left, again halfway there when I was leaving the citiy limits and a third time when I pulled into the hotel parking lot. He answered each time and all seemed good.

But then he didn't answer the door! I double checked the hotel and the room number and I had the right hotel and room number.

After knocking, calling and texting for about 10 minutes... I gave up and went to my car. I kept texting and wondered what the he** was going on! Finally, 20 minutes later, he tells me that his wife showed up to surprise him in between when I talked to him in the parking lot and when I was walking to his door. He had to rush her down to the bar so she wasn't in the room when I knocked and couldn't call or text right away to explain.

I went from being really pissed to feeling relieved that I missed some big time drama by about 5 minutes!

(Lesson learned.. don't let your SO know where to find you if you have an escort meeting you there!)

I am anal about communication and make multiple confirmations for prebooked appointments because I understand how frustrating it is to be left in the dark. I've heard a lot of complaints about it from guys about other girls they referred to as "flakey" and I want to make sure I'm doing things that leave a guy confident that I will be knocking on the door. I let him know when I'm leaving and how far it is (in minutes) to get to him and then usually call again when I'm close. I never leave a guy hanging wondering if I'm going to show if I can help it. That just sucks!

While it is not right for a provider to have a newbie give them all the verification informathey ask for then deepsix that newbie if a regular calls for a date during the same time, that situation happens. It is unprofessional and ultimately will hurt the provider's business. I have learned over the years to have several standby contacts handy, with knowledge of the providers availability in case I need to call. Don't double book providers, but do know who may be available in a pinch. My rule of thumb is that if a provider is more than an hour late and has made no attempt to contact me to update me, I call someone else and if the first provider DOES call outside the alloted time, tell her that I am no longer available.

There are a few select providers and agencies that are professional, the rest cover the range from completly unprofessional to conditionally professional.

My experience has been that ladies who do what this one did to you often just keep doing it. Do this for a while, and you will get your share of no shows. Some just disappear, others apologize profusely, promise to do something about it, and then no show all over again, apologize, and... I swear there was one lady who did this maybe 5 times over a 6 week period. After the second no show, I continued for amusement, but even that ended after the 5th. So I suggested we meet for an OTC drink first, and then, once we were together, we could consider some p4p. That ended the exchange.

So temper your expectations here - if she does an NCNS, followed by an offer that seems too good to be true, there is a good chance that is exactly what it is.

Hope I am wrong, because I feel your pain. And then there is no need to speculate on why providers do this - could be flakiness, personal problems, immaturity, drugs, any number of things, and you will never know. Yes, it does eventually get around, but only to the small percentage who do their research in enough depth for find this out.

good luck,
zig

Incredibly, amazingly, mind-blowingly well.

and sounds like you weren't accomodating to her trying to accomadate you when something had come up on her end.
Sometimes unforeseeable things arise, especially if she has a child & it was a morning appt. her babysitter may have cancelled or kid sick & couldn't go to school. If something is out of her control, you gotta forgive her, sounds like she tried to contact you so she could still see you but you just weren't listening to the fact she couldn't do the time that was initially scheduled, so she probably just gave up & when you were calling her she was stuck in the middle of her situation & couldn't answer or she just didn't know what else to say to you. So yes unprofessional but worth a second chance. Many guys schedule with me & 95% no show with a 5% of them actually cancelling. I will forgive one time, but they do it a second time, I will ask them to not ever try to contact me again.