What's the recommended course of action when you get stood up by a provider?

"7:30? Perfect" were her exact words.  I arrived at the arranged location and called for 25 minutes without an answer.  I wasted over 2 hours of my Saturday evening on the subway, which was pretty f*cking frustrating as you can imagine.

Just one of those things - let it go?  This happen a lot?

The only recourse you have is to post a message on your regional board, warning others.

This does happen to everyone once in a while.

One may choose to leave a message (voice mail/email), and hope for a response within 24-48 hours, as last minute emergencies can and will happen in life (also gives her the chance to reschedule if that is an option with you). However, you can pretty well bet there will never be any explanation given by her. That being the case you can make note of it on a local board; this will allow other members of the community to assess if this No Call/No Show behavior is a habit or isolated incident.

Beyond that you just have to move on and find the next lady you are interested in.

Follow up with her via e-mail once or twice, and give the lady a day or two to respond.  If you don't hear anything back, then consider providing negative feedback on your local board.

Note that there are times when it is best to just hold tight.  A year ago, I had made arrangements with a lady I had seen a couple of times, and when I got to her location, no answer.  No response to phone calls or e-mails, either.  I decided to hold my tongue, since the lady had disappeared from her local board as well.  I found out later from a mutual friend that she had suffered a grievous personal loss, and I contacted her later to express my condolences to her.  She responded quickly with thanks.  She has since returned to our world here, and I saw her recently.  Great evening, and no hard feelings.  Many hobbyists would have thrown her under the bus, but glad I didn't.  

But this is an exceptional case.  In your case, if the lady continues to advertise her availability w/o responding to you, by all means call her out.  You will get shit for doing so, but man up, and take the heat!  If she responds to your follow-ups, make your own decision as to your course of action from there.  Good luck!

Unfortunately, she doesn't advertise an email address and every time I called last night, it would ring a few times and then I got a message saying "memory full" or something similar.  (And yes, it was definitely the right number!)

Obviously, it would be easier to follow up if there was an email address, but I'm not sure I feel comfortable calling her up just to say "what the hell happened?"

It happens enough on both sides that it can be annoying and frustrating but never a total shock with a new lady.  Did she have TER reviews?  

I used to get stood up quite a bit when I was relying on a couple of lower end agencies.  It has happened a lot less, in fact, not really at all, since I started using TER to cross reference the ladies that I see.

I would contact the lady and see if she offers an explanation.

Did she have a contact number for you?

Moving on and never calling her back is the most pragmatic course of action.

If she doesn't have an email address and her voice mail is always full just move on. Like the other posts have mentioned, if you want to post a warning on your local board go ahead, if it makes you feel better. Bottom line, too many great escorts  out there, do your research on the next lady you want to see,make sure she won't pull any crap, and have a great time!

As was posted earlier, your only real recourse is to post a warning on your local board. Be prepared however for some flack from the local White Knights that seem to come to every "damsel in distress", don't let that stop you. Your local community will thank you.

The more tolerant of NCNS we are, the more frequently it will happen. If no one will tolerate it, maybe the inconsiderate (both men and women) among us might get the hint. Probably a pipe dream, but we do what we can.

this will help others in determining if they actually want to take a chance or not.

Stick with well reviewed ladies and this type of experience won't happen as often. It will happen a lot if you go with a lady who only advertises a phone number and has no web presence besides an ad (no personal web site or reviews).

She has excellent TER reviews - which is why I went to her.  I'd never go to anyone without.

She has my number, but I won't hold my breath waiting for her call!

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keep trying to reach her by phone for 2 or 3 days.  If the "mailbox full" is still there, wait a few more days, then post a NS report on your local board.

The reason for the extra time for her to respond is in case there was a serious illness or death in the family.  I know if I were to face a serious illness or death in the family, I wouldn't think to take my hobby phone along.

she might have lost her phone (or damaged it), had an accident, ??  Up to a week, let's say.  
Just say.  I thought we were going to meet Thurday.  I was there & disappointed when you weren't.
Then drop it.  If she responds, you can go from there.  I'm betting she will not.  There's nothing you can do except move forward from here.
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