As a newbie I want new experiences but am gun shy about mouth to mouth, mouth to genital, or genital to genital contact.  But full body massage, hand to genital, and kissing the other 96 percent of the body and everything else is hot, in addition to just cuddling, heavy petting, and genital to body contact.  Providers, how should we ask for this before or during a meeting?   There are lots of erotic things that can be done together within these ground rules and I would feel better knowing I am safe now rather than sorry later.  

additionally, is this something you are willing to offer if we gift full service?  And, do you take offense if a man is not willing to go all the way?  I would definitely be a consistent regular to a great provider willing to accommodate.

thank you

Go to the regional ad board for your area and ask if there are providers who offer the limited menu of services that your are requesting. My guess is that even providers who offer a larger menu would love to help get you into the hobby on a gradual basis.

It's not weird or unusual and she shouldn't take offense. In fact, you may be an easier appointment than the typical FS GFE encounter. There are quality providers out there who are "safety first"/everything covered/no fluid exchange (ex. Ember Simmers); I just don't know how to search for them as a category.

... use the Search options to find providers who don't offer Sex, offer B2B massage (there's several selections for Massage, choose what's closest to what you're looking for), and (maybe) no Kissing. Find some well-reviewed candidates, and read their reviews to see if what they typically offer is a match for what you want.  If I were you, I'd look for providers who tend to sit down and chat with clients for awhile on a first date, to get to know them.  That's a good opportunity to let them know your preferences.

What I've found is that providers are glad to ratchet down their services on request. Remember, you are the customer and they want you to have a good time. But it's better to ask during a session, not before.

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I don't think any provider in her right mind would be upset by this request.  Honestly, I have a few clients who see me exactly for this type of session.  

The only thing you need to be careful about is sounding stigmatizing; a request like that may come off as sounding like you think the provider you chose might be 'dirty'.  I absolutely understand wanting to be safe, but I would let her know ahead of time that you're only looking for a sensual massage.  You can discuss the parameters of what you do and don't want when you arrive.

You could also look to providers who only offer massage, or that actively offer massage as an option.  Ladies that offer a varied menu would, i'd guess, be more flexible with your request.

Erin, you sound like a real sweetie. As a newbie, I have been impressed with the willingness of the ladies to be gracious in their advice to us.

I thought a major component of that was "mouth to mouth" (using your term)

hey, I am a newbie