So....recently I found out my husband of five years was seeing providers. It was a total shock and threw me for such a crazy loop. We fought, he moved out, then back in again and on it goes...

But over time I started lurking her on TER to try and understand the dynamic - what he needed here that he wasn't getting from me.

I am not an uptight girl or someone who has "let herself go". I workout daily and have a great (if I may brag a bit) body, and when it comes to sex I'm down for anything - anytime. My husband and I have been to swingers clubs and strip clubs together and it has been a f-ing blast, I even proposed a threeway but that didn't work out (my friend lost her nerve). My point is I ADORE fucking him. And I've always felt that was mutual. But obviously he is looking for something more...or something different.

So it got me thinking...what if I were to try being a provider? Having a stranger knock at the door with one thing in mind only... To see what that felt like and what is so mesmerizing about the experience. And so I signed up here and am considering it, not for the cash even but for the experience. Is this crazy? I don't know.  

What I do know is I have been constantly impressed and awed by the level of intelligence, compassion and insight on these boards and I just want to thank you all for being so honest about these deep mostly unspoken desires. Who knows why we do what we do, right?

Anyways thanks for reading if you got this far.

-Sadie

You will get all of your questions answered here. First let me say, I think it's a great idea to experience this from the provider's view point, especially for free. That will give you some prospective without all the legal issues, screening issues, etc. I would be very interested in helping you to discover and share my wealth of information that I have gathered from this board and my personal experiences. If you would like to PM me your contact info, I would be very interested in getting up with you. BTW, anticipation is 70% of the experience. I can't wait to hear from you.

Probably a good thing, but much less entertaining. lol

and I would suggest that the next step be that you read the Newbie/Self Help Manual that you will find linked on this page.  It has a wealth of information on how to use TER to your advantage and also about the hobby in general.

It's nice to read such an upbeat post.  My first fear was that you were going to send us to damnation for luring your hubby away.  We get a few of those every year.

Now if you could satisfy my purely prurient interest in something:

Are you planning to tell the hubby or not?  If the former, are you thinking it will kindle his fire for you?  If you are planning to do this secretly (And mind you, I'm not counseling one way or the other, both have their strong points.)be sure to read up on how to keep computer and cell phone records secure.

Also, as far as three-somes go, many provider will work with couples, and then you won't have to worry about the third gal losing her nerve.  Do a search on the TER Review Board for gals who do this in your area.

Best wishes to you.

Started after my fiancé was caught with a provider, and I too considered myself down for almost anything and hyper-sexual. I am fairly new as well but I have some good advice and would be willing to share it with you (Pictures, website, screening etc.). Feel free to email, or call me!

If she TRULY wants to experience what it's like that should include the envelope!


Steph

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violated the code.  If a woman wants to see what it's like to be a provider, all she needs to do is try the lifestyle whether it be for a day, week, month, or longer and with screening so she can remain safe.  To attempt to "help her" and not deliver the envelope is a violation of the code.  The first P in P4P means pay; i.e. put benjamins in an envelope.

that can be found here.  All of us were new at one time or another.

You are to be complimented on being open minded.  You are also to be commended for maintaining your body.  Many of us are here because that wasn't the case with our SO.

Perhaps your husband is seeing providers only for the variety in a one-on-one setting since you have been to strip clubs and swingers clubs with him.    

Since you wrote your OP with an alias, you obviously have VIP.  Please feel free to PM Swim (host of the newbie board), me or any other of the experienced guys who have been around for a while.

Good luck to you.

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In his defense, (very weak defense, I might add) the OP started this thread on the GD board, where newbs are thrown to the sharks, and BD's "offer" was just par for the course.

I will agree his comments were not suitable for the Newbie board, but that's not where he made them, and once the thread was moved here, he did acknowledge that fact. So I am inclined to give him a pass on this one.

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