Is keeping in-touch with an escort you have seen ok to do a few weeks after your time with her, just to keep the line of communications open and get to know her better for next time.

I am happy to maintain contact with my gents over time, although I don't write every day. Also, I will never email someone out of the blue; I only answer when written to. But some ladies probably have less tolerance for keeping in touch. We're all pretty busy fielding emails, screening potential clients, and living our regular lives.

Thanks for the reply, I don't mean to haunt her, just from time to time till our next meet, be sociable

You need to go and find some nice gals on match or eharmony for that garbage.

This is P4P...you don't "keep in touch" with your doctor (you know...in between visits) or your lawyer...or your tax man...do you?

Move along and send this gal an email when...and only when you're ready to fuck her again.

Keep this simple...she's NOT interested in being your pen pal.  Or go ahead and you can post when she tells you to "fuck off already" or put you on a BL as a stalker.

but more often more than 1 message after becomes burdensome.

This is pay for play, not Facebook.  Providers are not looking for friends here, they are looking for paying clients.  They have no need, or maybe desire, to get to know you better, they are interested in your wallet.  There really isn't any reason to keep the line of communication open to her.  Just let her know when you want to schedule another date, that's all she needs.  You aren't going to get to know her better by cluttering up her inbox with useless (to her) emails, you get to know her when you are with her.  Popular providers have enough to do with sifting thru the legitimate requests for dates rather than messing around with guys that just want to keep in touch.  If you had a good time with her, let her know one time, and then leave her alone until you're ready to see her again.

Swim

Some gals love to keep in touch, chat and otherwise act like your best pal.

Others see it as a serious breach of their boundaries.

You have to judge each for themselves.

Clients are the same way.

.......I always tell my gentlemen callers, that social mail might not be replied to immediately, but is always welcome.  If I can't spend a few minutes a week, answering mail from dear friends, who consistently contribute to my bank account, I would not consider myself a courtesan.

Hugs and Kisses,
Kelly

Evidently chgocpa deals with lesser providers,  unlike BeautywithBrains who is a true proffesional.

who the individuals are. That's what makes this hobby world so great - there's room for everyone. For those who are in it only for the sex, "wham bam thank you mam",  there are certainly many providers who are comfortable with that role. No relationship other than a great  BCD performance for the envelope.
There are others who have actually developed friendships with some of the women we have met through the hobby. Sarah called it "bounded authenticity" and for those men and women, an ongoing email or social network connection in the context of their p4p relationship is certainly equally valid within the hobby.
People will naturally gravitate to those who meet their needs, whether purely physical or emotional as well.
Don't knock it Chgo-  emails between dates can also be a great form of foreplay.

BwB is  a lady with a lot of class! The bright stars shine through!

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From time to time is a good thing. Again, gauge her reactions. If she emails you back, you can email her again maybe in another week or so (unless she asks a question that requires an immediate answer). If she doesn't write you back, just wait until you are ready to reschedule. And it doesn't hurt to ask her directly what she prefers in terms of in-between communication.

I agree BwB appears to be an elegant and professional courtesan, and I always enjoy her posts. Her graciousness shines through.

But the professionals that Chgo deals with are not any lesser- they are just serving a different need. Some of us like to get more personal in our engagements with our friends, and some of us prefer a nice and tidy compartmentalization. Nothing wrong with either- just looking for different things.

Ask her if it's okay for you to keep in touch.  She will probably say yes, but what that really means is to contact her when you want to see her again.

It doesn't mean that she wants to hear from you socially.  Most don't.

But then again...they are guys.  And most have NO clue as to how cumbersome (or so I hear) getting emails from Johns really is.

Simple test my friend....stop paying her and let me know how often (if ever LOL) she will stay your pen pal.

What I have suggested to some pals (who really like the pen pal play) is to pay her another fee for just doing that.  She'll be happy to correspond that way.  But...those same guys think that is asinine.  Yea...what a shocker...pay a hooker to be my pen pal  LOL

And to honestly expect a hooker on these boards to tell you the real story...I've also got some great property to sell you...bridge included!

But just ignore what I have said...as I guess you don't want to know the story either  LOL

If you had any clue in the world who I chat with...and who I play with.

I will be happy to FedEx to you two suck ups plenty of knee pads...I'm sure the one's you have are completely worn out  LOL

Find a backbone if you can...or do I need to FedEx those as well?

So...when are you and tony booking with Sarah or Kelly?  They're expecting you now  LOL

Don't disappoint them...or they may NOT answer your emails  

You really should stick to just answering the fellas on the boards.  They like the banter...me, I like it within a certain style.

But to allude as to who I see...know...chat with..consult for is just a stupid assumption on YOUR part.

Perhaps one day if we get to know each other VERY well I can share with you some of this.

Until then...just know that I speak from experiences....and with gals that dwarf you and BWB in the fee departments (on the high side in case you were wondering  LOL).

And if you enjoy spending countless hours playing pen pal with guys that aren't paying you...we need to chat!!

BWB already knows how I operate....just ask her  

I send you good vibes. I hope you have a better day tomorrow.

And right back at ya

Every day is a wonderful one for me  

Did you ever work at Disneyworld?  I always suspected that the employees there had to take "happy" pills...and you strike me as one of those folks.

Sorry that the truth gets in the way of the illusion...but most of the fellas need to learn it at some point...and hopefully before they get burned too bad.

And at least the circles that I tend to travel in...there are NO misunderstandings (on either side of the fee) what we are all doing here.  If you interpret that as anger...you might want to guess again  LOL