Read her website. See what she offers and what her donations are. Read her reviews here so you know how her sessions go and if she offers what you want the way you want it. Call after you have determined she is someone you want to see. Don't discuss sex over the phone. (You got that) She will probably screen you before she will talk about a day and time. E-mail may be her first contact vehicle with a phone call being in the later stages. Don't mention sex in the e-mail either. Put the envelope down in plan sight when you enter. Some ladies will tell you these kinds of things on their website. Some guys and ladies have the do's and don'ts talk at the beginning some have it as they go along. The reviews juicy details really help with this. Be ready to ask/state what you want and be ready to have the provider do the same about her do's and don'ts.  There shouldn't be any surprises if you have read her reviews the juicy details included. You need VIP to be able to access them. It's worth the money.
I wouldn't recommend seeing a provider that doesn't have any reviews. I wouldn't see a provider that doesn't screen. If you don't have references be ready to give out info she wants in order to screen. She may want more info even if you do have references.
Read the Self-help center & do searches on this board for answers to your questions.
...and remember this is fun, so have fun.

Negotiation is for streetwalkers, not escorts. Once you're both naked and gettin' it on, then you can tell her how you like it. And, not to nitpick, but you don't "give the money". You put it on a countertop without comment.

BTW, nycguy, you've asked a few good questions, and a bunch like this one that you could have easily answered if you had followed the suggestion next to the New Thread button to first read the Newbie guide and recent pages of threads. It's still a good idea.

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Too many times guys wonder if they can say this or say that, to get out of being busted by LE. Truth be told if you saw the ad with the number you called on an escorting site, you drive over to the site, go up into the hotel room with a pocket full of 20's, walk inside the hotel room. you're caught.

Only see well reviewd ladies, who have been reviewed by well reviewed clients.

If you are still fully clothed, the money is on the counter, you gave her references and you start talking about "what you are looking for," she is more likely to think you are informant being recorded and start saying "I don't do any of that stuff. I don't know what you're talking about."

Even something small like, "Are you a sure thing?" or "I hope I get what I read in your reviews" can smell like a set up and put her on edge. That's not something you want.

Treat it like a truncated date. You don't start off a civvie date by telling her what you like sexually, right? You just shower, use mouthwash, be polite and funny and hope you get lucky. With a provider, you know you will, so just let it happen.