How's everyone doing I'm from the New York area and I just joined a few days ago I've never done anything like this before and was wondering if anyone could offer me some tips and also a suggestion on a woman who charges around $300 for the hour and who will make me feel relaxed as soon as i get there im definitely nervous about this been reading alot of reviews and what not any type of information on this will be extremely appreciated thanks so much good luck everyone

The newbie board is for asking newbie questions about the hobby or TER.  The newbie board is not the place to ask for specific recommendations for a lady. For that, go to the ISO board or the regional boards. But don't even do that until after following the newbie tips below.

Newbie tips:
Read the self help center (find the link at the top right of the board by the life preserver).
Read back on this board 10-20 pages, and you will see many of the same questions come up over and over again. The same questions you probably have, or will have, or may not even know you had until you read it.
Use search at the top of the page to look up specific topics. The default date range is 30. Change it to 300 or more when you search.
Buy VIP membership here and start reading reviews for your area. You need VIP to read the full review and to do proper research.
Consider joining one of the verification sites like P411.
Look for newbie friendly providers.
If you have more questions come back and ask

In other words, they start looking at the ladies before getting comfortable with the process.  It is totally natural for us guys, but the key to being comfortable and hopefully enjoying your first experience is first becoming comfortable with the process.

PS gave you excellent advice - follow it!  In doing so, many of your initial questions and worries will be answered.  Come back here and ask any others until you are ready to make "first contact".  You mentioned reading reviews, so hopefully you have already invested in VIP.  It is necessary to see the "details" in the reviews that really give you an idea of what to expect from each particular lady.  Establish a presence on your regional board, and ask there for recommendations for newbie friendly providers in your area, if you haven't already identified someone.  Remember to look for a well reviewed lady for your first experience.  Be sure to check the lady's web site for her guidelines for contact, screening, and expected etiquette.  

Once you have made the right choice, you will be in good hands so all you have to do is try to relax and let nature take it's course.

Your right excellent advice thanks a lot really appreciate it  

If you don't find a way to do that, you are going to be right back here next week asking "Why won't any one see me, and how do I get references." Join preferred411 to start, because that will open up a huge window of women who will see a newbie. Without that or references, you are going to have to either see a provider desperate enough not to screen who wants the money, or you will be handing over your personal info. to some stranger.

I totally agree, but many of the so called "newbie friendly" providers on P411 still want personal info for screening if you don't yet have "well known" references.  "Newbie Friendly" seems to mean that they are willing to see first timers, without other references, as opposed to that they will see someone based on P411 verification ONLY.  Some may be different.  While that is a valid reason to join and search there, in and of itself, don't expect to not have to give any additional info to a provider for her comfort.  Just sayin'  Still, with that said, it definately makes life easier in the long run!

Just last month someone who is p411 verified contacted me.  Provided name/last name/work info .. all turned out to be FAKE.

Guy actually was  using someone else's info.

It's harder to find reviews here, but I started with an independent FBSM provider (full body sensual massage) which I think was a really good idea - basically it's a massage with no sex but usually very erotic, lots of touching and ending with something like a hand job.  I'm not talking about those massage places at a strip mall, but a good independent.

Even though it's still sexual there's less anxiety involved as there are not as many performance worries.   It's also just plain more relaxing since you are starting with a massage, and not having to feel like you have to figure out just how to start during your time (though mostly all providers are great at figuring that out for you if you are hesitant).

Then after the FBSM you can move on to the full menu with other women, and feel more confident once you are used to the process (Like EasyTimes was saying) around meeting the provider.  Since the details of contacting  FBSM providers and getting to the meeting point is the same as full service providers, it really helps understand how it all works.

Otherwise I would also say PS had a perfect list of things to do to start, I did all of those and it worked out well.

I also won't see a newbie unless I verify him personally, but with P411 many ladies who are on there will know you are a member. I know so many women who ONLY use P411 to meet clients. They don't use anything else.  

I hope you told Gina about this guy. Wonder if he gave her the real info. and you the fake stuff?

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I highly recommend P411 also, but if you have no OK"s yet, then yes; I would need your info to do my own screening to ensure I would feel safe and comfortable to meet.  I think, or I really really hope that ALL the ladies are following this protocol.  

Once you get some Ok's things loosen up with some of the ladies, but with some they always require your personal info to do their own screening even if you had 9000 Ok's.  Just depends on the ladies.

I am hoping to visit NYC this summer and I am newbie friendly.