Hi All,

      I am fairly new hobbyist that wishes he found this site before visit one. So I have learned a little on the way. Since some providers never mention rates, the hobbyist seems to have to rely on "published" rates (e.g. Websites, Ads, reviews, etc.) to figure out how much to bring. I have not had any problems with visits up until now, but a recent discussion with a provider made me wonder if I have been doing something wrong.

      On her website, she has an etiquette page and blog. She mentions to bring twice the rate of the agreed session to any appointment and to expect to leave at least 40% as a tip if you have a good time. For some providers like ths one, that is a lot of cash to bring and the percentage seems a little large. I always bring extra cash in case I am inclined to extend the session and to provide a tip. At the same time, I am worried about being robbed or being scammed so try to limit any potential loss.

       Sorry for long winded posting, but in short, what amount of cash do people bring to the party?

Thanks all for viewing and extra thanks to those that respond.

I wouldn't see that particular provider. Even as a newbie myself. Just bring what the actual amount for the time you choose.

...The exact donation is what you must take. No tipping required. The previous poster is correct. This provider is a don't see. Read tipping discussions on this board. Use the search function. Nothing wrong with tipping if you want to and you think it's deserved. It is not required and the providers that have their act together say in ads and on their site that it's appreciated but not expected. I rarely have more than the exact donation amount. The provider you're looking at is taking advantage. Tell her thanks but No thanks.

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I've never seen a provider site state that. As noted above, tipping is not required. A girl that tells you to bring 40% extra is someone trying the up sell scam. Go elsewhere.

If she wants 40% more than her rate she needs to raise her rate 40% not demand a 40% tip.  
Take the established rate with you and how ever much more you feel like carrying, but never feel obligated to tip.  
She would be a no go for me even if she was grossly under charging for the area. She sounds like the type who would up charge for basic services and ultimately end in a disappointing session.

Once you have been verified and are in the process of arranging a meeting, it's OK to confirm the expected cost, especially so if you've seen rate discrepancies on different sites/ads. Just send a simple, "can you confirm the donation expected for our meeting?" I'd advise that you bring exactly what you intend to spend, and no more than that (if you like to tip or hope to extend the date, then bring that amount - you can always make a quick run to the bank if need be).

As to this particular provider, she's just fishing for more money. Anything extra beyond her base rate is just a generosity, and the worst that may happen if you don't leave at tip is that she'll refuse to see you again. If she gives you any blowback beyond that (threats?), take comfort that this community has your back on this issue.

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dancers, hairdresser nail technician, waitress ESCORTS.

 
i am shocked at how many dont tip. i would NEVER not tip my manicurist or my massuese. its just so rude

Rude? Really? I have to disagree. I certainly don't tip all service providers. I dont tip my personal trainer for example. He's charging me quite a high hourly rate and my return business is tip enough. I don't tip my plumber...again his hourly fee for his labor is high so why would I tip? Similarly I feel my hourly rate is sufficient and calculated based on what I feel is fair compensation for my time. I would never go in expecting a tip or feel in anyway slight if one was not forthcoming.

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She says on her website to bring double her rate and expect to leave at least a 40% tip?? Homegirl has balls, I'll give her that.  

Most of us just expect our published rate. If you wanna tip, awesome. If not, that's cool too.

have never extended a session in 12+ years of doing this.

Once there was a lady who asked me to stay the night but I told her I didn't have the funds with me.  Her reply was, "You can settle up in the am."  No thank you for your failed up-sell attempt.

Your list are not in the same professional class as providers. Plus their base hourly rate is low and tipping is customary for most. I'm betting you don't tip your lawyer, doctor, dentist or plumber. Their hourly rates are on par with yours.

The best financial complement someone can pay you is to book again.

Totally agree with that. Ed 2000