I'm over 30 now and for many reasons, I've never had a girlfriend. I didn't even go on my first date with a girl until I was 30. I've been on a few dates since but most were just friendly dates with girl's or women that I know socially. A couple of them have since stopped being my friend because I was wanting more than to be a friend. They wanted nothing to do with me in the benefit or girlfriend department.

I actually found out about this website while going thru an old Playboy magazine.

I didn't handle getting rejected by my ex-female friends very well but I'm still alive and hope I can have a lot better success in the finding of female friendship and companionship on the day's when I feel the need to be with someone just to be with someone.

This not the place to find a girlfriend.

Actually, there are a few admitted virgins who pass through every so often.  The world of this hobby does not replace a GF but may allow you some relief and a chance to get some skills while you interact in the civie world without the horny pressure.

A search of this board will probably locate some sage advise.
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Maybe what CountryBoyAtHeart needs is a provider to take him on a few hour date and teach him how to talk to actual women.  Or maybe a good piece of ass may kickstart that kid

The rules, you may enjoy the hobby.

What concerns me is your comment about your female friends not wanting to socialize with you because you wanted more.  If, by "more," you meant physical intimacy, the hobby may work for you.  If you meant "emotional attachment," be sure you understand that you will not find that in the hobby.  When you blur the lines, heartbreak or anger will occur.  This isn't Pretty Woman and you are not Richard Gere.

Some time ago we had a guy cross that line on this board and become obsessed with a lady who did not reciprocate his feelings.  It turned ugly with his obsessive behavior..

My advice, just be sure you understand the hobby.  Read this board and the Self-Help Guide (see link on this board)with all of its helpful information.  Read my contribution to the guide "Provider Relations 101."

If you feel you are emotionally prepared and understand the rules, join a verification service (@411, Datecheck or RS2K) and then do a search of ladies in your area using the search reviews function.  Then contact one, or more, ladies and schedule the appointment.

Have fun.  After all is said and done, the hobby may or may not be for you.  Only you will know!

Sinthia  

I just want to be a better lover..

You've had some great advise already.  I caution you that it is very easy to "fall for" the lady you just had great sex with...  that is the post-coitus hormones kicking in (so the cave man will protect the women & children).  This whole hobby is playing with fire.  

You need to remember that she is your Girl Friend ONLY for the time you are together.  When the door closes between you, it's over.  Can you handle that?

I suggest NOT seeing the same provider over & over.  It makes it very hard to keep your head on straight.  I know what I am talking about!

I suggest you devolupe a few Favorite ladies you can rotate, so you do not get too into any one.

If are looking for some answers, post your question on the Erotic Highway and as the Love Goddess.  She might be able to give you some guidance in the GF dept.

As to why you were rejected by some girls, go back and look at how you behaved toward them.  Did you get clingy with them?  Your post reads like that is a possibility.  It's also a possibility that you just picked some girls that were not ready to settle down yet.  

Don't try to rush the relationship, just let it happen.  If it's meant to be, it will, if it's not, it won't.  But moving too fast does turn some girls off.

Swim

I believe the girls that rejected me didn't like  age difference (I was older) or fact that I wasn't white like them (I'm asian).

I assume the hobby will allow me to worry less about being rejected for my age or race, which I believe are the 2 things holding me back outside of the hobby.

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Thank you for the advice shudaknownbetter!

Thank you for your advice Sinthia!

CB, since I did not your ethnicity, I could not assume that had anything to do with your problem.  Your age either, I'm no spring chicken my self, but I'm not looking for a GF.

Hobby girls don't care what you are or how old you are (I'm 63), for the most part, as long as you are clean and respectful, and of course have the envelope.....lol.  It is true, some girls will not see guys of certain races, but rare if they are highly reviewed.

Just curious, why are you looking for a white GF, or are you really looking for that?  

Good luck,
Swim

Thanks Swim!

For now I'm no longer looking for a GF, but I am looking for providers to teach me and to learn from. My preference for my first is the good ole All American type so white is my top priority for now until I gain some experience.