...and you'll find lots of debates on the tipping issue on the General Board.  There are many guys who don't believe in tipping as a matter of principle.  Personally, I do it on occasion but I also always bring a gift, usually a nice bottle of wine.  And I make it clear I don't want her to open it for me, that it's for her to drink whenever she wants, and with whomever she wants.  Regardless, none of the debates on this issue I've read have ever included the provider's ethnic or racial background.  For many hobbyists, paying a lady several hundred dollars for an hour of her time is a real stretch and adding a 10-20% tip to that amount isn't possible.

I think it's a money thing. (economy, the times, etc.) They pay the donation, ya'll have fun, that's it. You say some tip but not enough. That's your opinion. How much is not enough? My guess is every provider could say some tip and some don't. I don't tip every time. If it was racial they wouldn't book the first time or they wouldn't come back. Racial? Don't go looking for trouble. I just don't see that being it.

should be a comfort level.  If the service remains good, I will continue to repeat.  Unfortunately, business travel has been more limited so opportunities to play are less.

A waitress that makes minimum wage needs tips to make a living.  A provider that makes several $ an hour doesn't need a tip to survive.  BTW, I don't tip my doctor, dentist, lawyer, CPA, mechanic, etc.

Cultural thing. Some cultures just believe more in the etiquette of giving and receiving tips. To think that it could be racial factor is really grasping at the straws. I know that providing is all about a service, but I rather give the lady a small gift (as a token of my appreciation really) rather than a tip.

Now if you were in an industry that tipping was more of a norm, such as something like a hair stylist or a server, you would be much more aware of any racial factors or undertones. Tips are usually for people who make a good percentage of their earnings through tips. As a provider, you make a very large percentage of your living upfront and tend to get to keep a very large portion of it too. IMO, tipping is quite overrated in this industry.

Some guys do tip and some don't. It's not required as any sort of standard in the industry.  I wouldn't say anything to your customers about it if you want them to remain your customers.

Repeat business is the best gratuity you can get from a client in this business.  Seeing a repeat means one less client you have to screen that day and one less time you have to worry about what will be waiting for you when you open the door.

Not because I am cheap but because I think your compensation is more than adequate.

Many providers often justify their rates by comparing the services they provide to those of doctors, lawyers, shrinks etc, etc. Well, you know what? I don't tip my doctors, dentist, lawyers, shrinks nor do I hope they expect any.

If you feel you deserve a tip, how about you adjust your rates to include the percentage tip you deserve and see how that affects your business.

There are gentleman that tip and some that do not it has nothing to do with what race you are.Unless you want to lose business I would not approach the subject of a tip.A surefire way to make sure you do not get those repeat clients.If you feel that you are not getting enough the only suggestion I see is to raise your rates to what you are comfortable with.Most gentleman feel the repeat business is much better than leaving you a tip.If these gentleman are repeats I souldn't even be thinking of a tip.I never expect a tip when it happens I am pleasantly surprised and appreciative whatever the amount is.

I rarely recieve tips. Every once in a while a gentleman will choose to give me a tip, but he is the exception and not the rule. I don't think its a racial thing. Then again, I don't make an issue of them either.

Which would you prefer, a repeat visit, or to ask/insist on tips when you see gentlemen? I think most of the ladies who make an issue out of tips do so knowing that the gents they see won't be repeating, so they choose instead to try and get the most out of each encounter.

Focusing on continuing to give an amazing time, and encouraging regular repeats is a far better strategy for long term success, so just keep doing exactly what you are doing.

The best tip is repeating and/or writing a favorable review provided it's accurate and the provider went the extra mile for me.

I can only imagine how many times a TER member such as myself, uses the reviews to make a decision... most if not every single one of you guys reading this does it... why else would we be members here. So, that stated, I'm sure that a ton of additional donations come down the pipe as a result of a positive review... so there's a "tip" for you!

As far as the racial spin you put on this... seriously, you simply bringing that unnecessary piece in makes me question you.

I don't tip, but if the amount I owe you is some weird number, say $430 or $615, then I round up with the bills.  People will almost always round up to the next $20 they get from the cash machine, or $50, or whatever.  So make all your hourly prices $290 or something, and enjoy the $10 tip.

Or just charge the darn price you want in the first place.

...I've already given her a good deal of my money in exchange for her services. If there's a connection and we both seemed to have a great time, I'll book a repeat session at a later date. Since I've gotten to know her a bit by that point, I'll usually bring along a little "something" in appreciation of the good times we've already had and in anticipation of the good time we're going to have.

Whether it's some wine, a bottle of her perfume, etc., I hope that she will appreciate the gesture and that it will contribute to our both feeling even better about our playtime. The more enthusiasm we generate, the more enjoyable our time together will be -- I don't call that "tipping" but enlightened self-interest

the guy to leave and never return...and in all probability post in his review that you are looking for tips.  That will most certainly hurt business going forward (IMHO).  This has been discussed many times with a plethora of responses.  What you need to do is ask your lady friends if they expect tips (and as you can see by several responses from ladies that are well reviewed they do NOT share your view).

Or ask your doctor, CPA, attorney, et al if they expect a tip (and based on your question, I suspect that you tip them accordingly?)  I have been in a service related business my entire adult life, and learned early on (as you should as well) that I charge $$$ for my time and expertise.  I hand my client the bill and (s)he pays the invoice (as do your clients).  If I felt that I charged too little for my time (shame on me then).  You and I each have the right to charge what we feel is our valued time...and if at any time you feel you are worth more...simply increase your rates.  It is just that simple.

Conversely, if your customers do NOT feel that your time is worth your stated rates, they will not patronize you and find somebody who fits their price range.  But to comment that it is racially motivated not to "tip" you is either ignorance, or bigotry...both of which I find a major turnoff.  Take a look at your methods of advertising (see the ladies who have replied and recognize that they have spent time and $$$ to create a certain image).  Learn (and perhpas read up on marketing 101) how to create value and get off the "color" issue and become a professional.

Most certainly not. Think about it. If it was a racial thing. Would they book you at all? Most likely not. I think that point over any other is what's missing from this post. Racism is all but dead in today society. But to think that race is a reason for non-tipping is just not using your common since. To coin a phrase I once heard, "Shut off the lights, and they all look the same" seems to ring true in this scenario. One thing I want you to remember here is that we all belong to the same race. It's called the human race. So even then race isn't an issue here.

As far as to say/ask/demand tips go, I would recommend against it. After reading all the replies on this post, especially the ones from your fellow pros. Tipping is more about the guy then the right of it. Some guys have the cash to float round like that, some don't. But to simply expect tips or even ask for them seems ta-bu to me. Granted I'm not a pro, it does however leave a bad taste in themouth for a pro to ask for more then previously stated as a donation.

As a business woman, would you do business with a supplier who constantly asked you to donate his employees retirement fond for every delivery they made? No you wouldn't. And you would most likely not do business with them again. Same is true here. And moat companies love doing repeat business do to the fact that it is less costly and more profitable in the long run. Again, this applies here.

My advise to you would be to stop having these higher expectations of your clientele, and focus your thinking towards a business woman's perspective. And good business always gives you better clients over time. As for raising your rates. I would advise against that simply because you may loose some of your regulars all because you wanted to get paid more. Which could also lead others to question your motives for being in this business.

Personally I want a pro who provides a GFE that's believable. But if she's all in it for he money it won't feel the same and its not worth it. In this business you have to love what you do to a significant point to be valuable and sought after. So remember that as much as you are providing a valuable service, it does have its financial limitation.

Best of luck to you,
NewHobbyGuy12 aka Ja

Wow      the race card  even here !

Tipping should only be done if you feel the service was better than you expected and you feel comfortable doing it. The quality of the service is not necessarily related to rates. From my own experience, some of the best sessions I have had were with providers who rates are under 160 per hour. For incalls, I like to leave a tip if the price is less ttan 160, particularly if the provider uses a mid-range motel (shows she is not trying to cut corners and wants to create a certain type of atmosphere. I the rate isf 200 or more, rarely leave a tip unless service is excellent. I do this particularly if I plan to repeat; they definitely remember you and will make sure to continue to treat you very well. If I do not plan to return, do not usually leave a tip. Keep in mind as previously stated, the best way to really show your appreciation is return for another visit - tip or no tip.