I have a few questions, some practical, some whimsical.
1. I am looking for a session with a lot of kissing, hugging, cuddling, stimulation, provocation, teasing, playing (maybe some tickling), stopping short of intercourse, where the lady does all (or most) of the driving. What term, or terms, do I use to specify this type of encounter?
2. How many clients does a typical full-time escort see in a day?
3. Granted that this is a cash-only business, but what do you list as "occupation" on your income tax forms??
Thank you.

1. Some ladies who are not FS are pigeon holed into advertising under massage even though they are sensual services, simply because there are very few categories for "other".  Post on your regional board and I am sure you will get a good recommendation!

2. There is no "typical."  I would guess from 0-4 to be a reasonable average, with some who see many more... though not every day. Some full-time escorts such as myself will not see more than one a day and limit the number of days that we work.  Some will see six in a day and take five days off.  Some will see three a day every day of the week.  Average?  Good luck figuring that one out!

3. My business is classified as "personal services, other."  I claim income from several different sources.

I'm curious who you are, how you found this site, and why (with absolutely no introduction) you feel compelled to ask such personal questions?

here is here to get some gfemportant info before he goes out and audits our ASSets

Lina

Hi SolaLove,
Thanks for answering.  I wondered also on the number of clients that were typical in a day.  It sure is nice when a provider can make it seem like the day is special just for us even if our time is just for an hour.

If you were first or sixth in the day, a good provider will give you the experience you hope for.  You will never know what her schedule really is like.

Honestly, I never ask my clients how much they make.  My  mommy taught me that was downright rude.  Why is it so many hobbyists have a fascination with how many appointments and/or how much money a lady runs through?  It makes me nervous, as if you're hoping to rob me when I'm "cash rich."  Oh, and it's just rude.

After a dozen or so providers I am starting to find good ones where I can see what you mean.  I have thought that seeing her early in the day may mean she may be more fresh and desiring of physical attention.  I know my SO is done for a couple days after an O.  Maybe you are blessed with a higher sex drive.  I know we can talk about good faking but there is nothing like passion of real enjoyment.  I am just looking for the best experience I can have.

Sola,
Thank you for answering the questions.  I am sorry if you felt I was intruding and asking personal questions.
I am a newbie. In terms of my first question, I was trying to get a handle on what I should be asking for to make this hobby enjoyable.  I do not want FS, and therefore have been going on the BDSM route, but I realize that this is not what I really want.
In terms of my second question- I was curious. In my naive mind, I was thinking that if the provider wanted to make her session with her client enjoyable, and give him undivided attention, then maybe 4-5/day would be the max. (an hour for the session, and an hour to recoup, clean up, and prepare for the next).
My third question was on the whimsical side, and meant to be funny.
No- I am not from the IRS; just a newbie trying to find his way. Once again, no offense or prying was meant by my questions, and I apologize if it was taken that way. Thank you for your honesty and candor.

I think the number of clients question may be related -- not to money -- but to the matter of ... uh ... well ... how many people's fluids one may be touching by proxy. With a possible pandemic flu going around, and with the disease being transmitable by folks during the incubation period before symptoms show; there may be a reasonable concern there.

I strongly suspect that with a good provider, this question is mostly irrelevant because she keeps herself so incredibly squeeky clean that nothing can transfer anyway (provided basic safe practices are followed). The concern would only apply to things like flu bugs that are transferable simply by sharing the same air. After all, there's only so much even the best providers can do in that regard.

There should be NO fluids touching by proxy.

As to the flu angle, a lady who only sees one client a week but was on a plane yesterday and/or who has a side job teaching to a group is more of a general risk than a lady who saw 20 clients since yesterday.

The assumption of "gross-ness" based on number of clients is illogical and emotion based.  Any other excuse is simply putting ones nose into someone else's business... and I personally assume ill intent.

Seriously, these questions are inane and rude.

I've heard several ladies say that the second or third client in any day will find her at her sexual peak... the warm up can do a body good!

All women are different.  Trying to get the best experience you can have is great!  See great providers.  Do not think that her schedule will be the determining factor.

I wish my SO just got hotter after the first session.  Maybe I wouldn't want to hobby as much.  Whether a notion is real or just in our head, it still can feel real.  Thanks again for talking on this uncomfortable issue.  

As for money talk I agree it is rude to ask a person how much they make.  I would be very uncomfortable disclosing my pay unless I was using an anonymous alias.  Even then people sometimes ask because they want to judge you based on your income.  A forum can be nice to be able to get answers to questions you really can't ask your provider but secretly would like to know.

Indeed, SolaLove, condoms (which any provider or hobbyist would use out of common sense) are something I automatically assume. And they do a pretty good job of covering the genital end of things.

And you are obviously correct that anyone who rides the T in Boston would be a greater flu risk than the highest volume provider imaginable.

But what of kissing? DATY? These also exchange fluids. Is simple oral hygiene (which is likely impeccable in a good provider) sufficient to avoid the spread of -- for example -- mono? Is it sufficient to avoid passing herpes virus particles  from a BBBJ on one client to the next client via a kiss?

(I use herpes as an example because of a recent high-profile lawsuit in which a salon re-used wax from a bikini wax on one woman to wax the eyebrows on another -- and she got herpes on her face. So it is clearly transmittable through proxy contact. It's also fairly common.)

If someone were concerned about this, would that concern be unjustified? Presumably, being a professional, you probably know more about this than I do -- which is why I'm asking. No doubt, you've done some research, so sharing (knowledge) is good!

My suspicion (and it is a suspicion rather than presented as fact) is that the aunt who shows up at family events and insists on kissing 40 people full on the lips provides just as much risk, relatively speaking.

I have noticed, incidentally, that some professionals specifically advertise themselves as either "low volume" or only booking "no more than X" clients per day. Presumably the professionals who advertise in this fashion believe that it gives them an edge over their competition.

Are providers who specifically advertise as low volume or "no more than X" clients daily making use of false impressions/phobias that men might have? Or are they making use of a legitimate concern? Are they simply misinformed themselves? While intent cannot be entirely ascertained, the factual underpinnings (or lack) can be revealed.

It would seem to me that if such advertising generated too much demand, it would backfire on itself. (*chuckle*) What do you think?

Please keep in mind I am a newbie -- so my questions in this vein are intended to learn and clarify rather than shock, offend or pry. I certainly appreciate you investing the effort and providing your expertise!


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Many ladies have done so and it is a much better way to get information relating to protecting your health, than asking on a discussion board.

I consider kissing my greatest risk activity and have been fortunate enough to only catch two colds in six years.  Nothing more.  As high a risk as it is for me to get sick, I can't imagine not doing so.  BBBJ is not in my vocabulary.  It was bad enough imagining an STD in my throat without hearing that oral sex is being linked to throat cancer.  DATY is a higher risk for my gentlemen friends than it is for myself.  I allow them to make their own decisions in the matter.

I am one of those who advertises and schedules very limited sessions.  It is about managing my energies.  It is also about mitigating my risk, though in more ways than as it pertains to my health.  The decision of how to structure a business model takes much more into consideration than these health calculations... so I wouldn't try to guess someone else's intent or how educated their decision making process is.

In a very particular faction of the clients available it is a draw for me to note my practices in advertising.  Many gents don't care, those that do assign a value to it.  As to generating too much demand, no it wouldn't backfire.  You can schedule out into the future, restrict your sessions to the safety of returning friends, and/or a lady can raise her rates to balance out the demand.

xoxo,
S.

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1)  GFE
2) and 3)  None of your business.

It seems we're on the same page, SolaLove!

You can put me with that particular faction that assigns a value to lower volume and would pay a higher rate for it. For lots of reasons -- none of which have to do with prying into a lady's financial affairs!

I don't really need to talk to my doctor about disease transmission -- germs are one of my many occupational specialties. (microbiology, chemistry, electrical engineering and IT). But if I ever caught a germ, I'd definitely need to see a doctor to treat it!

With only having caught a couple of colds, you clearly know what you are doing to safeguard your health -- and therefore that of your clients. Worthwhile and commendable -- your friends are lucky!

xoxo
J