Sorry for long question but requires an explanation- I was married for a long time but my ex bankrupt me so I'm on my own now... I live in an inexpensive Apt. which is sparsely furnished but neat and clean... I have seen a few providers at their incall but I'm worried about having them over.  I'm intelligent and not white trash but worried if one comes over she may think I am and maybe not offer all the services that she normally would... Would like some advice from hobbyists and providers... Thanks

Assuming that you are referring to having a provider come to your home after you have seen her at least once before then I'm not sure why you feel this way, i.e. she already has a sense of who you are.  

If you mean asking a provider that you have not yet seen then momentarily forgetting about the state of your apartment, you should be aware that some (certainly not all) providers will be reluctant in visiting a gent at his home for a first time encounter.  

In any case to the gist of your question...
Surely there are exceptions because at the end of the day there are all kinds of people but generally speaking well reviewed providers are savvy and successful buisness women and wonderful companions.  They are not likely to judge a man by his fancy clothes, car or home.  If you are clean, kind and respectful then that is what will register most with her.  
 



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whether or not the neighborhood is safe for her to travel to.

I would like to add that as a provider (*just speaking for myself*) … I hardly ever meet a gentleman at his home.

I have visited less than a handful of gentlemen in their home… this is definitely an exception and not the norm.

First, I have a location that was selected specifically for the intent of entertaining in. (*The neighborhood as well as the floor plan, amenities, etc were all taken into consideration when searching for an incall location*) My apartment is furnished and specifically decorated with sex in mind. Having a safe, secure and private location puts both me and the gentleman at ease.

I would also be concerned about going into a gentleman’s home...… I have no idea what any ramifications of my visit could entail. The threat alone would make me cautious during the encounter and possibly cause the mood to be less than optimal.  

Why try to re-invent something that isn’t broken or doesn’t need fixing. If you are happy with the provider, you enjoy her service and you know you are safe..… Why deviate from what is working?...… Just my thoughts  Kisses ~Tori  

If you don't know whether to have provider over to your place don't.  Only when you are comfortable with your place will the provider be comfortable too.

Thanks to all for your advice... Very insightful... I will stick with incall, at least for the near future.. ( Note to Tori: You sound like a perfect combination of class, intelligence and seduction; If I'm ever in Atlanta I will be sure to give you a call...

Even if you are unattached, I wouldn't want a lady to know my living place until I was real comfortable with trusting her.  Some ladies in the biz are flakes.

In many cases it is cheaper that having a lady do outcall to your home.  Incall also preserves your privacy by not giving nosey neighbors something to pry into.  If you have kids that visit you, going to a lady's incall make even more sense.