So I've only had the pleasure of seeing two different providers, but I can't see anyone topping the second one I saw so I will probably just go to her from now on.  I'm trying to work some things out with giving a gift.  I know it's not expected, but do you think I should bring a gift?  If you see someone on a regular basis do any of you bring gifts?  

I would ask her what Gifts she would like. I gave my current Girl a Gift after I knew her for a while. Giving her a Gift after seeing her only a few times might seem like a nice idea. But it may make her a bit uncomfortable. The Gift I gave my Girl? I bought her a Sterling Silver Necklace with a Pendant for her Birthday. She loved it.

Im sure she will appreciate anything you choose to get as a gift its such a sweet gesture

To me, that is the essence of gift giving.

As for what she wants, just go ahead and get the things she asks for on her site.  That would show her that you are paying attention to her site, and gals like that idea very much.

By the way, not all jewelry is that expensive.  You can find lots of nice pieces in the $50 - $100 range at various shops that have nice gifts.  Take note of the colors of the clothes she wears then find semi-precious stones that complement those colors.  Bracelets and pendants are the best choices.  The nice thing about jewelry is that it is small and easily brought to her discreetly.  Also it will last forever and she'll think of you when ever she wears it.

Don't confuse a gift with a tip.  A tip is a voluntary upping of her rate to show that you feel she is worth even more than she charged.  A gift is given freely as an expression of friendship and is not a part of her remuneration.

I like the way you described both a tip and a gift. Well said!

Never seen her disappointed.

Actually  I bring a gift frquently on my first visit..  

I choose a nice candle for Fav gals...  I have brought nice sugar free candy for a gal who is diabetic...   I used to bring a meal to share with a Fav...   VS or Fredric's or another quality shop gift card.

I know this point of view wont be popular on the Newbie board which is exactly why some of the newbies who post/lurk here need to see it.

only makes sense if the lady also is an equal partner in the gift giving (in whatever form that may be).
A real friendship would not be one-sided in that regard.
Unless you have that mutual giving, I think tips and gifts are essentially the same - "I appreciate you, I want to make you happy, I want to impress you..."  These would be the potential meanings.
The mutual giving between true friends I think is on a different level.
Just my opinion...

...season, and to celebrate birthdays.  I am a baker, and I usually give home made goodies as Christmas gifts.  If it is a gentleman I see often, he will receive a more tangible gift.  For birthdays, I usually provide a cupcake with candle at the end of our date.  Again, if it a gentleman I see often, he will receive more.

...The others have a point too. Your OP sounds to me like you think gifts are an expected or required part of the process. They are not. Give her a gift if you want to. All the ladies that replied say it's a nice thing to do and they appreciate it. Many guys feel as Jack does. Many feel as swimtrekr. It's up to you. Don't feel obligated. I have taken a gift to providers I see regularly. Sometimes I place the money in a card as Kelly suggested. I do it because I choose to. It's never expensive. It's simple. Their favorite candy or a Starbucks card is often all it is. I want to show appreciation. But I've never received lower quality service when I didn't bring a gift.

Well Jack, that helps explain why ladies go to great lengths to avoid you.  
 

...it really is up to the individual, and with me, it truly is the thought that counts.  

Most girls don't expect a gift/tip, but sadly, Heather isn't one of them

Huh.  

This seems to be a sensitive subject . Do gifts make me feel special? Yes. I got 2 gift cards last night, one for Macy's and one for Ruth's Chris Steak House.  Do I treat a gentleman like crap if they don't bring anything extra?  Hell no!

It truly is EXTRA. Do I show my appreciation? Of course I do! To not express how I feel if someone goes out of his way for me would be RUDE. And treating someone who shows up, drops the donation, is clean, treats me well,  respects my boundaries, but doesn't have anything extra would be RUDE and bad business on my part.

There are a lot of ladies that a gentleman could choose. He chose me and I always let him know I appreciate that big time.

So to the OP, if you want to do it, that doesn't make you a mangina. Now if you continue to give extras to a lady you are paying who acts like it's no big deal, then shame on you. And I'm not pointing a finger at you, just make sure YOU are being appreciated for what you do for her.

I've given gifts to some my gentlemen friends here, birthdays, or just because. If a man drops a big chunk of change on me or is especially wonderful to spend time with or I see him often, there's a good chance I'll do something nice whether it's an actual gift, or gifting some extra time, I'll do it, because: 1. I want to. 2. It's good business. I always thank any gentleman I see that I have a good experience with, whether it's a thank you email. ecard, I'll let him know it's very much appreciated.

All in all, do what you want get something you know she'll like and for me I love gift cards and consider them a very nice gesture, as well as more personal things from gentlemen that know me pretty well. A gift card is always a safe choice. If you already tip though, keep it modest.

For me, just like my website says I don't expect anything extra. YES it's very much appreciated, but I'm not going to get use to it or take it for granted, or treat someone to doesn't like crap or less.

Steph xoxo

How do you know what her fee is? You throw words like "exorbitant" "high priced" around quite freely

30 seconds of joy, really? I don't know who did a number on you when you first started out, obviously at least one lady did, but please don't take it out on every lady here. A couple of bad apples don't spoil the whole bunch.

This "job" is a tad more intimate than the professions you listed.

But yes you are certainly entitled to your opinion though. You just sound jaded and for that I really feel for you, and I'm not being sarcastic.

But I do have to say that some women get spoiled by the extra attention and gifts and that is not attractive at any age.

Don't blast me too hard...

Steph

It doesn't hurt to be Nice to these Ladies. They go to alot of Trouble to please us guys. I'm so Dam Lucky to have met the Provider I'm seeing. I've been seeing her for well over a year. And only her. Every time I see her it's like seeing her for the very first time. She's so Sweet and so darn Adorable. I don't mind buying a gift for her every now and then. She never ever asks me to buy her a gift. I buy it on my own choice.

Well Jack...Actually, I am referring to your attitude. Not so much the gift giving.  
But you know this given the frequency of rejections. It's no secret w anyone.
Enjo

I would say that you need to not let your anxiety or feelings of uncertainty make decisions for you, and I think they might be...  

Gee, this gift giving and tipping thing REALLY got under your skin and now you want to deflect to "my attitude". I wonder why? LOL

an expression of the type of person you are (giving type), and the donee is not, that does not  necessarily negate the donor's intention, which is the important thing.

Then there is the question of the financial situations of the parties, etc.

In general I guess life works better when person's of similar attitude connect up, but, as with many things in life, that is not always the case.

I look on her website. Not sure the point there Steph but whatevs.

Some girls don't charge $$$$$- or even $$$, what about $.$? LMAO

Here is the truth, although some hobbyists would beg to differ, us providers are still.... women.
We do not become aliens by entering this profession.

Like I said, you're past actions w *numerous* ladies as well as your attitude is.  
Lets be real dfking, your attitude is undesirable at best.
Learn from it or her help. Way too many ladies hate you. Got it

Thanks in advance for checking it out. And it's a different kid of service. And hopefully it's more than 30 seconds of fun for you.

EXTRAS *IF* a man feels inclined, should have to do with hat kind of experiences he has with this lady. My "job" is to try to make a client feel like a million bucks, on a off day a half a million bucks. From the moment I meet him to when we say until we meet again and part ways.

Any gift should never be related to a lady's rate IMO!

Steph

Never Ever give a Gift to a Provider in conjunction or in lew of Payment. A Gift is to show your Appreciation of her efforts to please you. Full payment should always be made.  

I've brought small tokens to set a nice mood and hopefully bring a smile to a lady's face.
But, I kind of agree with the principle that the more one makes, the less you'd expect tips and gifts.
I do give very generous tips to waiters/waitresses, my regular MT, and others in the service industry.
But because the hourly rates in this biz are amongst the highest around anywhere, providing something of monetary value as a tip or gift just doesn't seem quite as appropriate as in the aforementioned instances to me.  Since significant value has already been provided, I'd rather focus on a small token just to show thoughtfulness.  More importantly, I'm going to be a great guy and treat you very well and with the utmost respect when we are together.
But hey, people can do whatever makes them happy in this hobby, and they should.
It's all good.

How much are you paying the Providers you're seeing?

I may gift before a session in the future but have not yet. As long as you realize and express that you are not crossing the line into true romance, do what makes you feel good. Like others have said, no woman worth her salt will bash you for spoiling her. If her birthday is known an "E" card to her email. An "E" gift card to her email to one of the stores on her site "just because". This is YOUR fantasy, not mine or anyone else's. As long as you both know you are not looking for your next ex wife or girl friend, live it like you want.

I truly am not a stalker but your first line touched a nerve with me, in a good way. No matter what people are doing or how society at large views such activity and people, when people are viewed as less than human it opens the door to all kind of bad things. (sorry for the run on sentence).

Bunch of agendas again...