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Clients who forget that when the time is over, you are strangers again... even before you meet... freak a lady out. Way to clingy! You've got to play the game by the rules... An overload of communications is a mistake.
Well, I just started about 3 months ago again in the Ohio hobbying scene after a 2 and half year hiatus due to my cheating ex wife. Been seeing mostly touring girls with agencies and have referrals with the gentlemen that I have been scheduling through, but when I try to setup a date with a local girl they have me on the Do Not Ask list. One even told me to never call them ever without ever giving me a reason; I just want to apologize for anything I ever did but I have absolutely no idea. Any advice gentlemen?? Especially Swim, since you are ever experienced one with all sorts of answers if you can help me with some answers it will be much appreciated. I like the touring girls but they come and go; and I like to establish some roots with local girls who I can call upon every now then.
ask one of the touring girls you see to try to find out why you are on some kind of bad client list. Unfortunately, in your case, I don't know anything else to tell you. I'm not in Ohio, and I do not know the providers up there, or I would ask for you.
You might want to post your question on the Ohio board, maybe someone will take pity on you and help you out. Sorry I can't be more helpful.
Swim
Thanks Swim I appreciate your advice it certainly make sense. I certainly dont want to cause any troubles but I really do want to support our talent here in Cleveland its just really odd as to why I am absolute hatred since I have followed the guidelines as a beginner and put in my shows to the community and posted the reviews of the ladies.
Do you have a Date Check account? You should.
If you don't already have Date Check, go to their website and look through the provider profiles. Maybe you can find one (or, better yet, more than one) provider that you've already seen while they were touring.
If you can get verified on Date Check, you can contact local providers through it. Possibly, they'll be more inclined to see you if they can check your references on Date Check.
You may also want to ask touring providers to White List you here on TER.
All of these things reassure providers who have never met you that you're a well-behaved hobbyist.
you must be saying something wrong.
Have you read the Self Help Manual lately?
If not, you ought to again.
Be sure you don't mention any specific sex acts, or otherwise come off as creepy or too familiar right away.
Hope your luck improves soon.
Thanks brother I'm just a new hobbyist to be honest so I have gotten myself on that requesting a date after I didn't get an initial response. It was definitely my fault if that's a big rule.
under three different ter handles. Is someone else using your handle and getting you in trouble? Or do you actually have 3 handles? If it is the second one, that is clearly against ter rules, and also may be why the ladies do not want to see you. Are you reinventing yourself because of prior problems? Multiple aliases alone might scare off ladies. I do not know you, and don't have any personal issue with you, but a simple goolge search then a ter search popped up some questionable things. You need to figure out how you got on the blacklist.
Thanks I think I know what the problem is. It's bc of the 2 accounts I told TER to delete my other acct bc I was able to retrieve my old acct info. I'm going to see if I can fix my name thank you sir. Where do I go to do a TER search???
taking only a couple minutes, I discovered you had at least three TER handles, all active at the same time, even responing to yourself in the same posts, and submitting reviews under all theree handles. Clearly violations of TER rules. So you pull stuff like that, and harrass providers, then come on the newbie board asking us for help? I don't know. Maybe you have evil intentions. maybe you are just naive, and somehow don't know what you did is wrong.
Thank you gentlemen for all your help and input I understand what I did wrong with the excessive request for a date to a nice lady in town. As I stated I just started hobbying again recently just seen non satisfactory from backpage and decided to go back TER for better ladies. I saw this great lady with good reviews so I quickly sent her an email she responded quickly I got all excited knowing this lady would be the best I will ever have. I overreacted by sending emails and notes to her through email, TEr and even her personal page. After 3 days or so I sent a few more then she called me from private number to tell me fuck off so I asked why but only got hung up on so I gave up on the locals. I'm not sure about u guys when u first started when u see a pic and fall for a girl that u wish to see but got on her bad side I'm sorry I did. So that's the end of me fellas thanks for your time.
You want to see someone, you send her an email. You don't hear back from her in a few days, you send another one. you don't hear back from her on that one, you move on and find someone else
Numerous emails to several different accounts and you expect she wants to see you? You freaked her out, and she probably warned other providers. It is also one of the resons you are on a blacklist. "also harrasses for appointments and" I don't know wha the "also" and "and" allude to, so there are other reasons you are blacklisted. Incidentally I found this out simply by googling your ter handle, which also popped up your other ter handles.
How does one find out if they are on a black or DNS list?
Clients who forget that when the time is over, you are strangers again... even before you meet... freak a lady out. Way to clingy! You've got to play the game by the rules... An overload of communications is a mistake.
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