I am a total newbie. My friend is getting married and I wanted to hire him a provider as a semi-surprise before his wedding. It appears that all providers involve verification and I dont feel right giving out his information. As for me, I am self employed and that seems to an issue. I have an office with a partner and he and I answer the phone. I dont need him knowing. Any suggestions regarding this situation. I am in queens,Nyc.
P.S Roomservice2000 has bearly any listings for ny. Am I missing something.

I also am newby, and confused as to "confirmation", as I do not want my true i.d known.  Is this possible?

not LE and that it is safe to see you.  If you don't want to give out certain information, keep trying until you find a lady that will see you (or your friend) without much info.  You may have to use an agency as they tend to screen less.

such as Datecheck or Preferred 411.  Once they have verified you, and they generally can even if you are self-employed, set up an appointment personally with a provider.  Then once she has seen you, you can ask her about whether she would be willing to see you friend.  Often, providers take references from established clients!

Yes you are missing something....Your friend's upcoming wedding vows!  He is about to promise to "foresake all others" and you are going to hook him up with another woman?  Do you think this will stay secret?  How are you going to feel when his bride finds out and refuses to join him on the altar?  Take it from an old lecher.  Let them screw their own marriage up.

Let's see...
I would think the reason it is confusing is because what you are wanting to do confuses the situation.

A lady will want to screen the person she is going to be in the room with...but you are the one making the appointment.  Screening you won't do her any good, she isn't going to be having the appointment with you...but you are right in not wanting to give out your friend's information without his consent.

As for the semi-surprise nature of your "parting" gift to your friend...most ladies won't even see a couple unless she knows both parties are into it, the nature of giving him time with a lady as a surprise doesn't allow for the lady to have any knowledge or contact with him, to know if he is "into" a paid encounter, etc.  

Also a bit sticky choosing a lady for someone else unless you know his sexual interests and tastes very well...

You might find a way to make it happen but it isn't just confusing to you, I am sure that any lady you might contact is going to be confused on how or if she should work with the situation.

Good luck.

I can't believe you would actually do that to your friend's future wife. I can understand when a man chooses to step out and hire a provider if his situation is undesirable. In fact, I think men who hire providers instead of seeking out a girlfriend are doing their wives favors. I would NOT see your friend for any reason. Let him decide on his own to see a provider. If his future wife finds out I guarantee she will grip his balls so tight you will never see him again. This could be the end of your friendship. What if he makes it with her but feels so guilty for something YOU gave him that he confesses and they don't get married. You are potentially putting their futures at risk by trying this.

Suggestion? Take him to a high class strip club, pay for the hottest girl there to give him a lap dance and get him Shi**y drunk.  DON'T hire a provider.

On the other hand, no provider I know would see your friend unless he was aware of the situation.

I recently set up a triple date with two other providers and a good client of mine and two of his friends. They knew about it ahead of time but it was stressful on me to set the dates up. I screened BOTH men and also had the fact that I have been seeing my client for 6 months to verify them.

Unless you see the girl first or your buddy is cool with the idea I would suggest not going through with it.

Alyssa

Its done all the time in the movies. Lol. I guess its all urban legend.

I have to agree here. Going to a strip club is one thing but seeing an escort, no matter what the occasion, is a very personal decision.  You should never assume that another guy would automatically want something like this. Honestly, I've hobbied for over 20 years but I would still feel totally weirded-out if any male friend of mine ever hired a lady for me.

I may have miscommunicated the info. I mentioned it to him a while ago and he was all for it. He just didnt want to set it up. I see this is virtually impossible to do so thats that. Live and Learn. How about this...Does anyone know a decent massage parlor in NYC metro region? You can pm if you want.

Thank you xxxalyssaxxx.  I was beginning to think that I was the only one who thought this whole setup was a bad idea.

Your buddy has no business getting married if he was "all for it". Our divorce rates wouldn't be so high if idiots like him would just stay away from the altar and stop making marriage such a joke in our society. Geesh! I wonder how he would feel if his bride decided to fuck someone else before the wedding, too!

Been there.  Done that.  Take it from me this is a classic Bad Idea.  If he isn't going to even try to be faithful why bother?  Ten years from now if the partners loose interest in sex with each other thats another matter.  But before the honeymoon?  Is anyone taking into consideration the feelings of the woman he is about to marry?  What kind of loving, honoring, and cherishing is this?

getting married has nothing to do with all that.
I never understood why people get so emotional
over a few tax breaks.

sic