Is it inappropriate to ask a potential provider that they NOT contact a certain provider during the verification process?  (i.e., P411 where provider can see all "okays" and can choose who they contact for verification)

The reasoning is that I have concerns about initial provider knowing I'm seeing/ have seen other providers.  I also know you can delete the provider okay on the P411 site but can't the initial provider see she's no longer listed under provider "okays" in my profile?  What and when can providers see in my P411 profile?  Can they access it all the time?  Do they have search function capabilities like hobbyist?  

Thanks.

Gina at P411.  We do not have access to all the protocols of that site.  She would be better to ask IMHO.

Swim

it is to the provider's discretion to check again with the ladies, it is good to ask Gina whether or not you can eliminate some oks and what will happen if you do.

Thanks.  How do we know you checked?  Don't the providers just discuss with each other without hobbyist knowledge?

You can set your settins so that p411 sends you an email when a provider checks your p411 account.  

I'm pretty sure you do not get any alerts if said provider contacted other providers who gave you your okay on p411.  

Besides, she can do that other ways like looking up the other provider's website and contact her via email or text / ter pm / etc.  

If you're concerned about this provider checking your P411 (you still get an email alert if she does), might as well just get a new P411 id instead of trying to hide your okays from her.  I'm not sure what business the said girl has regarding you seeing other providers though. Unless I'm in some kind of civvy relationship with a provider I'd be looking at her funny and tell her she can't see other clients, if she's telling me that she doesn't like it if I see other providers, but that's for another topic.

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