Laugh if you want but I always want to skip the bj and dive right in. But after reading most of the reviews I get the feeling that it's first on the checklist.  Will it make things weird if I tell her I don't want one? I'm new to hobbying and the last thing I want is to offend the provider.

Not at all.
Treat her/him/it with respect and it shouldn't be a problem.

If your young enough that you don't need/want/enjoy foreplay or variety that's fine to.

Remember...you are paying em. Just let them know at the start. It will be something different for sure, but not a request she has not heard before and not that big of a deal.

Well it would be surprising yes, but would I be offended? No. Not at all.

If you don't want a bj and you don't intend to write a review...then fine. No problem. But if you do write a review and don't want a bj...could be a problem. It's hard for a provider to get a score over 8 with no bj involved. If the provider is used to getting 9's this could be a problem because your also eliminating bbbjtcim and bbbjtcnqns etc. You're actually lowering her ratings and some of us take exception to that. ****Disclaimer - I don't give a bj just for ratings. No pretending needed. It's my HOBBY!!

Interesting, I'd hate to bring down a provider's score because *I'm* the one being particular.  Would it make a difference if I wrote a review and specified that she offered bj/bbbj but I'm personally not into them? If I try someone and really enjoyed their services, I'd definitely like to give them a high rating.

You are still eligible for a top score on any review as long as you offer the service. It does not have to be actually performed.

If you are eligible for a 10 with BBBJ, DFK, GREEK. You could still get a 10 on any review even if you did not do GREEK during the session as long as it was available to him if he wanted such service.

It's not enough that it's an option, but I think it has to be actually offered during the session, but I think the ratings system can be arbitrary.  

There is a provider in the NY/NJ area who does FS, but is legendary for her BJ.  She regularly gets 9s for BJ-only sessions.  I think it's because she's known to speak all languages.  At the same time, I've been with women who speak all languages but since I'm not into Greek, I've had my reviews downgraded probably because I did not mention it in my review!  

So, in the same circumstances, one provider can do BJ-only and get 9s, while another can do almost everything and can't get above an 8 - even though both are known to go around the world if asked.  Go figure!

is really up to you.  I am not offended if a gentleman declines any of the options I offer. After all it's a menu; you choose what you like to indulge in.

as long as the client says in his review that BJ was on the menu but he declined.

Your time with a lady should be all about you!!!  You are paying to for your pleasure (within her boundaries), not to help build her reputation.

Relax, enjoy yourself, and if you choose to write a review, write one that honestly describes the services that were available, and the ones you chose to enjoy.

I wouldn't be offended.  I had no idea such a request didn't exist.  Usually the first request on the menu.

But they certainly are not going to drop a number down if he cites in the review that he simply declined a BJ.

They will almost certainly comply with your request, although it would definitely be out of the ordinary.

I'm a guy who enjoys a good BJ, although it's difficult for me to get off from one.  I've always been careful to say something to the lady beforehand, usually during the "So, what do you like?" portion of the evening.  Don't be crude, and don't be disrespectful; saying something like "No bitch can treat The Monster right with her mouth" or "Listen, I think you're great and all, but I'm pretty sure that your BJ technique isn't going to get it done for me" is just going to ensure that everyone involved has a bad experience.

Instead, I find it works best to say something like, "That feels wonderful, and I love that little tongue-swirl trick, but it really works better for me to consider the BJ as the appetizer, and move on to the main course after the table has been properly set, so to speak."  She doesn't feel slighted, and we don't spend vast amounts of time on something that's not really my favorite thing.  It's foreplay, and good foreplay, but not my principal motivator.