As a child I had to have  a serious surgery which resulted in large 10 inch scar right down the center of my chest. The medication I had to take for a period afterward caused me to gain a large amount of weight mostly gone now but left me with some lose skin and stretch marks  on top of the scar . I'm fairly good with woman until it comes time to lose the clothes, my confidence leaves right along with it . I become very self conscious and it has made it hard for me to be intimate with woman in my private life at times . The one thing that has kept me from trying the hobby is how they will react to me and how to broach the subject with them. I know this is a business and they are there for the money but I don't want anyone having to pretend if I'm genuinely making them uncomfortable with my appearance .
 Should I disclose this before are first meeting and for any of the woman on the board what is your honest opinion would this make you uncomfortable and not want to meet

...which will take you far when meeting, and enjoying the company of courtesans.

f you're on a screening site (and you should be), you can disclose info about the scar in the 'client bio' section of your profile.  That may relieve some anxiety on your part--I'm quite sure this is bothering you more than any providers.  It also sounds like it's affecting your performance in the bedroom--with girlfriends as well as providers.  

Therapy is not the answer to everything that bothers us.

A little bit of experience in the hobby with a couple of caring and non-judgmental women (which is most of them) will go just as far as countless hours of therapy, at a fraction of the cost. As for your suggestion about plastic surgery, do you really think this is the first time the subject has come up?

I think we should stick to the subject at hand, and quit trying to fix things that may or may not be broken, with only a very few clues with which to make your diagnosis.

These ladies are champions at ignoring men's flaws, both real and perceived.  I'm sure many guys have hobbied after open-heart surgery (not the same day) and have a scar your size.  Same for massive weight loss and the resultant loose skin.  If you think your body image issues are a concern, then have a real life relationship with a woman and learn how minimal your issues really are.

Sex workers regularly assist disabled and disfigured individuals with their erotic needs. Judging from your self description, it sounds like you view your appearance as far worse than it objectively is (think of an anorexic only seeing a fat person in the mirror). Yes, some inexperienced and superficial providers may react poorly, but there are plenty who will respond enthusiastically to your kindness. If you're really hung up on it, just talk it out with her when you arrive for your appointment. Now, hop to it already!

...Search here on TER for a mature provider as they like all of us that have lived life for a while have been there and done that. Life happens. Mature people understand that. Your scar won't offend them or cause them to be repulsed. If they don't know about it and they react it would be because of not expecting it much more than being repulsed or revolted by it. Contact a provider, give her your screening information, include a matter of fact statement about the scar (you may want to do that after passing screening) that way it won't be a surprise.  

where you should be looking.  With TER VIP you can read the details in reviews to gather this info.  These ladies have been around the block a time or two and are experienced at helping newbies get past any mental hangups they may have.

Is that your looks rarely if at all play a part in whether a hooker will see you.

I realize logical this problem is more in my head then anything else.

For that matter you could leave your undershirt on if you want.

Take the leap. Wear your shirt. Dim the lights. Just feel comfortable. Personal hygeine is the key to success. Tell the provider up front if you want. If she doesn't want to see you, move on. Believe it or not, we are all real people with feelings and I have met so many great women over the years. If you are a gentleman and clean up before you see a provider, your scars won't matter. You will build great memories and have the time of your life. Just get out there. Hope you're smiling real soon

You really have nothing to worry about as long as you do your research and pick an experienced lady. I've been through a lot health wise, I also have a scar from open heart surgery as well as being an above the knee amputee on my right leg, and I am only in my early 30s. I let them know about my amputation before hand and have never had a lady decline to see me and have never been turned down when requesting subsequent visits.