I am sure it's been asked a 100 times.  Any advice for having fun a little too quick?  I have already made sure multiple shots was available but am looking for advice to keep it going longer.

Either to see how many times she can make you pop in the allotted time, or to see how long she can make it last before you pop.

Because games are fun.

London has suggested one that I use and endorse, tantra, but there are others.

One system that many guys use is to jerk off about an hour prior to your date so that you won't be that anxious.  I did that when I was young, but I think it kills some of the pleasure that you might otherwise experience.

Another technique that I have used is to practice masturbating and then holding off when you are getting to the point of no return; then relaxing until you go limp and starting over slowly.  Repeat this as many times as you can and you'll find that you'll get a mastery over your body that will allow you to prolong love making.

Go to the Erotic Highway Board and do a search on the words "premature ejaculation"  or "premature cumming" and you'll find many threads on the topic there.

Good luck exploring.

Although Tantra MAY be of some help with PE, there are very few that I have spoken to that claim their experiences with Tantra were of any major help.    More importantly, finding an authentic tantra provider will prove to be quite a challenge.  An authentic tantra practitioner is not selling sex or entertaining you with her body.  Her goal is to educate you about your body and there is a lot of spiritualism involved as well. Authentic Tantra is not for the shallow minded or for those that are simply looking for a hot time with a beautiful woman.  Sadly, there are a lot of women selling "tantra" at exorbitant rates when there is little to no value in what they offer.  How do I know this? From the feedback that I've gotten from MANY of my clients over the years.  I strongly suggest if you are seeking the help of Tantric practices, you do some reading to understand what it is as well as what it is not.  Be sure the practitioner has the necessary education and experience.  Weekend retreats and workshops does not make one a bona fide Tantra practitioner! I hate to see anyone take their high hopes and hard earned money to a fake.
Also, understand that attempting to correct issues like ED or PE is not an overnight fix and be wary of anyone that claims they can "fix" you!  There is a process involved and you have to be patient and open minded and may have to adopt an new mindset about sexuality.
Although I've learned much over the years through my experiences I would never be presumptuous enough to call myself a Tantric practitioner but wanted to offer some thoughts on the topic.



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If you have some self control, just stop before you get to the point of no return.  It's not fun, but if you do that and let yourself chill out (let the excitement level wane a bit), I've found that I last longer.  The key for me is that you really have to let your excitement level chill out.  Maybe just ask her not to touch you for 5 minutes while you work on her.....maybe even losing a LITTLE bit of your erection.  I've found if I don't wait long enough, I'll pop basically when the heater turns on in the room.  

In college, I'd tell her I had to go to the bathroom and rub one out.  I'd be ready to go again by the time I got back to my dorm room.  LOL

You could just tell the lady that your first one is a quicky.  Get it over with and then concentrate on having a more "lengthy" during round 2.

Good luck.

The idea behind it is to get right there, and NOT cum so that your body is in a state of constant bliss, and your orgasms are stronger and LONGER when you actually have one with ejaculation. PE is all in the mind really, so learning basic techniques to bring your mind somewhere else can be achieved actually all by yourself...I do it all the time.

I agree with this as well which is why I mention that one may need to change their mind-set about sexuality.  I tell my clients to "get out of their heads and get into their bodies" -in other words, turn off all the mental chatter and enjoy every sensation througout the body.

Tantra has become very Westernized in that it is less about self enlightment and more about sexual function so things can become a bit cloudy when we try to define its intentions.

Often times, PE is a manifistation of the young boy anxiously racing to release before Mom (or anyone else!) walked in and caught him!  There is a very "goal driven" mentality which leads to other sexual problems when he has real sexual encouters.
Also, watching too much porn can be a problem but that's a different topic for another time.

We could never know exactly what causes PE for each and every man but I believe that enjoying the journey and not focusing so much on the destination is a good place to start in correcting it.

See I have the opposite problem it seems to take me too long to cum

So, be sure to eat lots of fruits and veggies, and stay well hydrated.  Also, regular exercise helps

If still a problem, then you may need a urologist, a shrink, or both.

Definitely psychological on my own I ejaculate no problem I even tried desensitize myself by not masturbating for days at at time and it still didn't work I've done research and while I do climax I don't ejaculate. And unfortunately I'd rather not go to therapy a) the cost b) the chance that of the hobby getting found out since most people still think I'm a virgin.

though I have never heard many complain about it lol. I would imagine it would only be an issue for a provider if you're booking an hour and it takes you 2 hours to go.  Sounds to me like you are not relaxed when in front of someone else...I used to be the very same way until I came to the hobby. I could get off in 10 min. alone, and not at all with another person. It is mental for sure.

Yeah the funny part is that the porn star was the one that made me most at ease enough to go, I guess since I already seen her 'in action' and she was a real down to earth GFE. It was really something. I read that it's some sort of psychological block that even though I'm wearing a cover and am clean, some part of me is stopping me from doing so. I only mentioned it because the providers ask me if did or not because it seems they feel bad if I didn't even though it has really nothing to do with their performance since all of them were fantastic save the first girl. And even when I do go it's never to the volume that I would alone which for the circumstance is a good thing, but something I would like to work on if/when I meet a civie girl that I want to start a family with.

came from a blowjob, always cum with me that way because I don't like the idea of them going in the condom either. Maybe work with someone willing to give you oral before and then after for the finish...plenty women are more than willing to do oral only dates as well.

I never said I never came it's just it takes a while and it only happens in mish (don't ask me why, it just does), and when it does happen its not a lot the same with oral it not as much as I would by myself

It happens in mish because you are thrusting your pelvis.  Orgasm happens much easier when your pelvis is not passive during stimulation...of any kind.  Fact.

Great Prose!  Concise, says a lot, and flows.

I know many guys who can only cum that way from a bj as well.

Interesting.