I'm relatively new to the hobby, and I'd like to ask the provider I've seen several times if I can use her as a reference.  I have a GREAT time with this provider, and that is why I've been sticking to repeat visits with her...  I'm interested in maybe seeing someone else, not because of any dissatisfaction, but simply for variety's sake.    

What's the best way to ask a provider for a reference?  Do they ever say no?  Is having references not even as helpful as I'm thinking?  

I'm curious to hear comments from providers too.. is it ever considered an insult to be asked this?  Of course, I am free to see whomever I want, but I wonder if a provider ever looks at it like they're potentially losing business if they help a client get set up with someone else.  

Thanks for your advice!

ask for "extra" cheese on that burger of yours that you love so much... This exactly ain't Israel-Palestine you know. LOL

No Diplomacy required. Only decency needed.. If the appointment goes well, just ask her if you can use her as a reference. Its always good to send the prospective provider email of the provider you are going to use as a reference. I never share phone numbers with anyone, as lot of gals don't advertize their phone numbers at all.  As another option, have her WhiteList you or provide you an OK on P411 or DC profile, should you have one.  

No...? Yes sure. You will always get your share of nos. Part of life..

As my old boss used to say, "If you don't ask, the answer is almost always  NO...Almost always.."

Good luck hobbying...

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Almost all quality GFE providers are reference friendly, at least to a point. Reference requests become "insulting" when you only book a lady for one or two single hour sessions, yet want her to provide you with 5 or 6 references for YEARS to come! If at some point you want that "volume" of references, don't take the original provider's kindness for a weakness- instead sign up for a Date-Check or P411 account and just let her give you an "OK." 

but keep in mind that some will do whatever to keep you (it happens)....

I think it would be good for you if you reviewed her and then asked. Help goes both ways man. You have no reviews and you should change it! Do BOTH of you GOOD.

Also it may help if you speak to her and nicely say you want to putz around but she is still the best. Ego thing. Mix her in while you try new ladies. Then if the crap hits the fan, you still have her. I am only saying this because some get pissy you went somewhere else. Tact.

I'll respond to any reference request I'm sent. If I don't feel I'm an appropriate reference, I'd just tell the requester that. It doesn't take more than 1 min or so for me to verify references - I have a pretty good memory of who I've seen. If you're worried she'll make up negative stuff to avoid you seeing other women, you should be able to figure that out when you stop getting responses from girls you're inquiring with.