I'm not really into writing reviews. I like to keep the details of my dates private. How do I get white listed?

Many providers will send you a thank you email following your session. That would be the appropriate time to tell her how much fun you had and to ask if she wouldn't mind whitelisting you. If you dont hear from her within say 48-72 hours, hit her up.  

WHITELISTING:

She is Absolutely Correct, the Rules state that no review is required and one Provider  
whitelisted me b-4 I even saw her when I sent her instructions. So of course being a gentleman  
I saw her and then provided a rather positive review.  
    The biggest problem that I encounter is that there are several providers who have not claimed  
nor know how to claim their profiles and it seems that these are generally the Girls that have been on TER for and have 5 Character TER IDs.
     Ohs

of the whitelist system!

And people wonder why many ladies wont take whitelists for screening.

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...I don't have a problem with a provider whitelisting a client even though he hasn't reviewed her but when he hasn't even see her?! That's just not right. The whitelist is a referral for clients she has actually seen. How could she know if he's a good client (legit and doesn't cause problems, etc.) or not if she hasn't seen him. No credibility if that's the case. What a mess!

But something tells me you'll survive it! lol. No, but in all seriousness, while I do agree she should have never have whitelisted the guy in question before meeting with him, no one person can ruin "the whole credibility of the whitelist system" or any other verification system for that matter. There are flaws and gaps in all of them.  

True, it won't ruin it for everyone and anyone just taking a white list as golden, is a moron anyway. You still need to CALL OR EMAIL those providers, and ask further questions. Even with an "OK" many ladies still contact the provider, to make sure. No public reference system is responsible for your own safety, and Gina is very candid about saying this. She and others provide a "tool" for screening, but they do NOT suggest it be your only tool.

Especially when it is "announced" on the board!  What's next... I have a date on Wednesday, and I know I'm gonna love her, so I'll just go ahead and write the review today while I have some time?  All in the same vein as broadcasting in the review that you stayed 2 hrs over your time and the lady never even looked at the clock.  Doesn't really do anyone any good, and sets unrealistic expectations.  Just blows up one's ego!

...this is one of those things were it's not so bad because everyone should use more than one tool to screen. But it's messed up if You are the one that doesn't get an appointment because a provider decides the whitelist is suspect. So it's all good until it's you that's affected by it.  

Agreed. You can't provide a reference to someone you've never met...end of story. What if he goes out and kills someone after your WL? You simply do not know a person until you are behind closed doors, and even then...who is to say he won't be a d*ck to the next girl?

I'm a member of P411 and I recently has a session with a well reviewed lady who has an account on there.  The session went well and we got a long and after it was over she said that she would   give me an okay on P411.  I sent the okay request that night and e-mailed her to thank her again.  It has been a couple of days and I have not received it.  My question is how long does it usually take for an indy to give an okay?