Just a few days away from my first escort experience. I have two final questions that I would appreciate some constructive advice on.

1. Due to circumstances regarding my wife's long illness, I have been out of action sexually for quite some time. When I read most reviews of providers, it seems the action gets going pretty much as soon as the door opens (maybe I am wrong about that, but it seems that way) If i want my experience to go a little slower, when do I communicate that to her? I hear so much about not discussing money or services (which I have not done)that I am a bit paranoid about when to bring this up. I don't want to offend her by asking her to slow down when she starts going. I would rather have her know that beforehand. Any help would be appreciated.

2. I have booked a hotel room in the city where we both live. I plan to check in, have the date, and go back the next morning to check out. I know this is probably a real paranoid question, but does a local booking a hotel room raise any kind of red flag? Does LE work with hotels on things like this? Again, sorry if these are stupid questions...just want to avoid trouble if I can, and not make any stupid mistakes.

thanks for the help

First, did you book a longer appointment so that you have enough time to get acquainted?

Second, you can set the pace by immediately letting the lady know that you would like to sit for a bit and chat.  Then, when you are ready to move things forward, you can lean in and start some DFK.

Finally, hotels do have access to info about your comings and goings if they decide to check.  For security purposes, everytime a door key is used, it can be tracked.  In other words, if someone reports a theft from a room and suspects housekeeping, hotel staff can check to see if your room was accessed by key card.  They will only do this if you act suspicious.

If you plan to check out early in the morning, walk back in with a coffee or a bag (McDonalds, Starbucks, Dunkin Donuts) so that it will appear (to any nosey staff) that you only ran out to pick up breakfast or coffee.  Be sure you leave a travel bag in the room, so that when you leave to check out, it appears you spent the night.   Also put up a DND on the door so early housekeeping does not enter your room

If the hotel has automated check out, you can save yourself the return trip.

If the hotel asks questions about your booking a room in your own city, be prepared to answer.  It will probably not happen, but there is a chance it will and nothing says "guilty" more than someone fumbling for an answer.  However, couples do check in to hotels occasionally for a  getaway to keep the romance alive, and affairs do occur.  If LE investigated every person who rented a room for a quickie or extra-marital affair, they would waste a lot of time.

Dependent upon where you both live, you may have been better off booking a room in a nearby town for the sake of discretion.  You may run into a neighbor at the hotel who is; dining in the restaurant, attending a function (wedding reception, business or social meeting, etc.) or visiting friends from out of town.  This is a risk take when you play in your own backyard.

I REALLY appreciate you taking the time to respond so completely to my questions. This site is great! I did book an 90 min session, thinking that should be enough time to take things slow, and get to know each other a bit. I have a really good feeling about the provider I have chosen, reading her reviews and talking to her a bit. I just don't want to do anything stupid to screw things up. But, I have done a lot of research here, and feel more prepared than I would if I hadn't.

I will check on the automated check out, that would be the best option. I need to come with an reason for booking the local room. It may have been easier if I didn't book a few weeks in advance. I will follow the rest of your great advice, and thank you again

Agree with previous reply.

Some guys want to crowd as much action into a meeting as possible.  That's fine if that is what they want.

Personally, I'm a one shot guy for medical reasons.  For me it is about the journey, not just the destination.  While a meeting generally starts with a warm embrace, it easy to whisper "Let's take it slow", or you could add "It's been a while, let's...  ".  

You are correct, you can not discuss this in advance...  it must be face to face.  She'll follow your clues.

You could offer refreshments, a beverage or snack.  crackers & cheese or fruit especially can be very sexy.  Leave beverages sealed until she chooses (so she is assured of no tampering).  You could ask her choice of beverages, both alcohol or non-al.    

Often I'll request "just come lay with me" (usually in underwear).  We just cuddle for some minutes so we get a feel for each other, her warmth, her essance...  

Have fun.

I regularly book rooms for the afternoon, then waltz out a few hours later when my gal pal and I are done.

I've never had any problems come from this.

The charge goes on my CC bill and no one ever asks why I wasn't there overnight.

I've only had one front desk check-in person comment on my being local. It was the middle of  August, so I quickly made up a story about how our AC went out at the house, that I couldn't stand the suffocating heat so I was staying at the hotel until the AC got fixed. So if they do get nosy, just make up something about repairs being done on your home... carpets being cleaned, water pipe burst, the exterminator sprayed the house, freshly painted walls and the fumes are making you sick, etc.

Some hotels care, some don't. I had a regular who always booked a room at the same hotel every time, which was about once a week. Most of the time he saw me with another girl. He said he was sure that the front desk knew what he was doing there, and that they didn't seem to mind, and went out of there way to be friendly to him. They eventually got to know my face, and were very nice to me when I'd walk by the front desk.

I worked front desk at a hotel when I was 19, and we had a guy come in weekly. A few minutes after he got to the room, in would walk a scantily clad girl or two. The manager would always come get all us workers so that we could watch them go to his room on the cameras. The whole staff always got a kick out of it. The manager didn't care, he said he was glad to get the guaranteed weekly money from this guy. I was fascinated by this, because at the time I didn't know about TER or how to find escort services, so I had no clue how to go about being a call girl. Little did I know that I'd be doing it a year later!

If you're paranoid, always carry an overnight bag in. And ask the lady to dress decent when she walks in. That will definitely draw unwanted attention. No short tight dresses/skirts, no low cut tops, no over the knee leather boots.

I like the redecorating, remodeling, AC, contractors reasons.  "I gotta get out of the house!"  "Need some peace & quiet!"  I doubt you'd be asked but it is comforting to have a ready anwser so as to not embarass yourself.

In many cases guys end up at a hotel because the wife tossed them out (often with the aid of a restraining order).

To ask someone why is really rubbing it in.

House is being tented for bugs.
Fighting with wife
mother-in-law is in town or other relatives
none of their damn business. Etc, etc.
Your a guy some these should come naturally.

p.s.  automated  check out can show up on your cc even of you paid for the room in cash.  You did not forget about that $5 bag of chips or $10 phone call b/c the hotel will simply charge any extra expense to yor cc.
Doc

1. I was so nervous on my first date I felt the same way you do. I booked a multi hour date so that I would have time to ease into the situation. I was very lucky to have found a wonderful mature (but super hot) provider for my first encounter. When she came into the room I was very honest with her. However, I first complimented her on how attractive she was and I thanked for her being willing to see me since I was a newbie. I did tell her how nervous I was. She was experienced enough to know to take it slow.

We had a wonderful time talking for quite a long time and eased into things. But of course we had a few hours to get comfortable.

She was my ATF, I only got to see her two more time but now she is retired. I was a very lucky man to have seen her on my first go around.

2. Don't wory about the local hotel issue. Lots of people book hotel rooms locally for a number of reasons. You could be going to a family finction, having dinner out and got a baby sitter for the night, meeting some old college buddies, meeting business clients for a late dinner or meeting a provider for a great time, enjoy.

yeah it sucks

Thank you so much for the insight, and taking the time to reply. I really appreciate it. I plan on taking a duffel bag and I found out today, that I can just leave the key in the room, which will negate the need to make a return trip the next morning to check out. This all happens this Friday, and I am feeling pretty good about most everything. Thanks again.

Thanks for the reply. I must admit (guess I already have) that I am nervous. However, I have a good feeling about the provider I have chosen. She is in her mid-30s, beautiful, very well reviewed by many people. I had a good vibe when talking to her on the phone a few times.

Two things have kind of put me more at ease about all of this. First, reading many of the great posts here by providers who obviously take what they do very seriously and by most accounts, really know what they are doing in many different situations. Second...I read a post by someone that was in reply to someone else being concerned about "embarrassing himself." The poster replied something along the lines of..."as far as embarrassing yourself, of course you will...your a guy, that's what we do. Don't worry about it, have a good time" Thought I was going to wake up everyone in the house, I was laughing so much after reading that. So...I am going to try to not going to worry about anything, and I think I will have a great time.

I have asked her about wine, and she gave me her preference, so I will have an unsealed bottle ready to go. I think you are right, I can use that and a little honesty to make sure things go at the pace I prefer. Thank you for replying...it was helpful.

but wait until she's there to open it. Even have her help you!  Many people are correctly concerned that a beverage might be drugged and practice vigilance lest they be robbed or assaulted.  
It's a shame but this is the world we live in.

Thank you, I had read other posts with the same advice. I have already indicated to her that a sealed bottle of her favorite wine would be ready. Tomorrow is the big day...so, if you have any more advice, I will be checking my email all day...lol

the date was fantastic. the lady was great, just what i was hoping for. i have arranged to see her again in several weeks. i know next time will be even better as all the stress and worry will be gone. i was pretty nervous most of the time, although she was very good at taking my mind off of things. due to my wifes illness, it had been quite some time for me. she has offered to take care of the hotel room next time (i will reimburse of course)so...thanks for all the great advice..it was a very good experience for me.