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radiodictum 35 Reviews 1675 reads
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1 / 9

I'm new, a couple of reviews under my belt, both with providers I'd see again. But there are so many out there and it's not like I can afford to do this every week.

So my question is something like this: if you go back to the same provider does the good time get even better? Do providers care about giving better "service" to repeaters or is the martket such that it doesn't really matter to them?

swimtrekr 59 Reviews 386 reads
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2 / 9

It has been said that the best tip you can give a provider is a return visit.  If you start to see her regularly, she will be more at ease with you, know what you like, and the level of service might get elevated, but it's no guarantee.  If she is a quality provider, good service does matter to her, but I don't think you can expect more and more as time goes by.

Swim

OhCharlie See my TER Reviews 389 reads
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3 / 9

Well, if you're meeting with quality providers and you guys do enjoy spending time together.

First visits are always kind of like better versions of the first time you hook up with a woman in real life, and repeat visits usually do mean that it'll get better in this world too. You guys can get more comfortable together, get to know each other a little more intimately and tailor the session to that, and there's more time to discuss or act out fantasies than if you see a lady just once or twice.

Boundaries, however, may or may not change with repeat visits. Some will not budge (and that's their choice), and some will be more likely to experiment with you (and that's their choice too). That depends more on your chemistry together, and how comfortable she feels doing different things with you.

We do care about repeats, but your mileage will definitely vary, depending on what kind of repeat you are. Someone who is always kind, respectful, and considerate will usually get a lot better service than someone who comes by regularly, but isn't exactly someone she's stoked to hear from.

crazyshit 366 reads
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4 / 9

As Swim said, you can't expect more and more as time goes by.  At some point she reaches the limits for intimacy, you know?

However, my experience is that providers generally are more comfortable with repeat clientele.

Legsman321 368 reads
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5 / 9

I am still fairly new at this so I like to find new talents but I also want to continue seeing the ones who I had good experience with (who would be my fav now). I usually rotate my schedule so I'll see a new talent then see my fav. If I meet a better talent then she becomes my new fav until she gets replaced. This is my current strategy and I hope you will develop one that works for you.

ziggy440 84 Reviews 393 reads
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6 / 9

For me, with most ladies, the first date was as good as it got. I have been back on a lot of second dates, asking myself what I was thinking. I have a good idea why that is the case, but this is not the question you asked.

There have been those special few that I enjoyed seeing over and over, letting things develop. It is different depending on the lady, how you click together, and you, so it is hard to predict how it will go for you, but here are some possibilties.

If the lady either does not really like providing and/or dislikes you (this may not be apparent to you for a while), she will gradually begin to take you for granted and the performance will deteriorate. When that happens you have two choices - one is to assume something is wrong and try to fix it, and the other is to walk. Trying to fix it is almost always a terrible decision, IMO, because the problem has nothing to do with you and is not something you can fix.

The next situation is that she is a professional who likes her job and wants return clients. Once she determines that you are a good client, she will work harder to please you as she learns what you enjoy. This can work in a number of ways, depending on her approach. Some ladies are pretty rigid in how they provide, each session being very similar to the last. With them the sessions may adjust a little to focus on the parts you enjoy most, but that is the extent of the change.

On the other hand, some ladies are adventurous. With them each session is different, and as you get to know each other better they will be open to, even suggest or offer, different things. Do you want a comfortable, predictable experience, or always changing play? Once you know that, you can also better predict whether things will develop well with a given lady.

You will also discover that some ladies prefer to extend the social part of the dates and minimize the sexual, while others prefer the opposite. Male bluster aside, there is an attraction to both approaches and only you can decide what works for you. But if you want to fuck her for 90 minutes without stop, and she would prefer to talk, hold hands and rub your neck for 60 minutes, then screw for 30, the dates are not going to improve.

Depending on how often you see the lady and her approach to this, you may also get offered other things - these could include a better rate, a little more flexilbility about time, etc. The key thing to remember is that she is doing these things because you are a good customer. If you start demanding something extra, you will stop being a good customer and the likelihood of getting special treatment goes way down. Wait for her to ask or offer, though if you feel like something is a deal breaker, it is better to tell her so before you just disappear.

In the end, you should do what you feel like doing. If you enjoy a lady and want to see her again, go back. If you feel like seeing someone new, do that. Going back to see a lady because you expect it to get better in some way is a losing game as there is no guarantee she will do anything more or different. For the past six months, I have only been seeing the same ladies, but for a long time before that I saw two or three new ladies every month. Maybe I finally found the right ladies, or maybe something about me has changed - most probably it is some of both.

Hope that helps.

zig

TheApe 364 reads
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7 / 9

I think that the best bet is in the beginning you want to experiment a bit.  However, at a certain point, you want to have a select handful of providers that you see on a rotational basis.  Once you have a rotation of about five providers that you click with, it can be more fun because you are not worrying about LE and the providers become more like professional acquaintances.    It can actually be pretty good.  Just make sure you always know not to cross any lines.  This is a hobby...you are not here to fall in love...Good luck.

radiodictum 35 Reviews 312 reads
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8 / 9

Great, thoughtful answers. Especially ziggy 440. Much appreciated.

quoderat1790 28 Reviews 281 reads
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9 / 9

This is right on the money. I know a provider who is available on short notice, has reasonable rates, is open to things I like to do and is a nice girl. I see her maybe twice a month, usually on impulse. And I've found a couple others who scratch certain itches for me. And then there are the top tier girls I save up to see.

I've seen a lot of other girls with greater or lesser degrees of success, but the comfort level I have with the ones I repeat with is really valuable to me. There can definitely be friendliness, even though the bottom line is it's strictly business.

There's no rules. See who you want. If you want to repeat, do it. It usually does get better.

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