I am fairly new to the hobby and have a question for providers, but some hobbyist may be able o answer as well. I recently tried to set up an appointment with a very reputable provider, and I did so 3 weeks in advance, because I know she is very busy. She would not confirm until 3 day's before the date. It seemed like she was waiting to see if she got a better offer from one of her regular clients. My question is, do providers have an preffered client list ? Do you have your favorite clients, and your not so favorite clients ? If so what get's you to the preferred client list ? Please enlighten me. By the way she did eventually confirm, and I'm seeing her tomorrow. Thanks for the insight.

There is a risk to seeing new clients. The lady doesn't know if you are LE, a creep, no show, no pay, etc. The best of screening is not foolproof.

The no show and cancelation rates for guys that book that far out and have never seen the girl is high.  If you reconfirm a couple days out they feel a lot better about the chance that you will actually show up.  Last minute or day of cancelations really mess with their schedules.  Once they know you that concern dissipates.  The first way to get on a girls preferred client list is to actually show up at the agreed upon time.

Not sure exactly why she made you wait for the three day confirmation. The others posters made great points, maybe it was a reliability issue being new to her? Sounds like it all worked out though,  have fun tomorrow! Having preferred clients is similar to you having an ATF. Chemistry plays into it. There is also the term "regular" and sometimes the preferred is a regular.  A regular is a frequent flyer.  Regular get togethers (weekly for some).  I can't speak for everyone but I personally do put my "regulars" first.  I wouldn't cancel on someone else but if it came down to two wanting the same day, my regulars would have priority. Its loyalty in a sense. Being a regular isn't the only way to be preferred though. At times I walk away thinking wow now that was as good as it gets! Other times I think that was ok but didn't rock my world.  Either way I am still grateful for being chosen but sometimes its over the top. Just chemistry. When you click, you click!  Glad it all worked out and wishing you an over the top time tomorrow!

I sounds to me like she may have waited to confirm to make sure you were still able to meet.  Making an appointment 3 weeks out is awesome.  If I had my druthers, all my appointments would be that far in advance.

I'm currently in the same situation.  I'm a newbie, too.  I did my research for about 1 month, picked this really well-reviewed provider and emailed her for an appointment about 3 weeks in advance.  Gave her my p411 id and more to help with the screening and I'm still waiting for the confirmation.  All the communications have been via email (I don't like calling for first time meeting).  Initially, she replied every 2 days or so and I was ok with it since ppl are busy and all.  Now, it's getting to 3-4 days.  I still have no idea if I pass the screening or not and the appointed date is getting close.

If you see the same Provider on a steady basis, about once a week or so for a few months, you're nice to her, then you'll be on her preferred client list. With the Provider I'm seeing, I've been seeing her for well over a year. Booking a Session with her is no problem for me. I can pretty much see her at the time I want.

If you are communicating with her on a daily basis, you are wasting her time, and maybe yours.

Im in the SF area so there are many others.  Its just that this provider seems to have a style thats perfectly suited to my taste, so im reluctant to cancel.  Also, I dont want to get off on a bad start.  Am I being too nice to wait?  Her last email was from 7days ago telling me thats shes going to start the screening.  Being a newbie, I don't mind if she just rejects  me from the start, but to keep me waiting really puts me on edge.  I have to make arrangements too to get a free day.  Im considering looking for another SP.  If I do cancel on her, will I be considered one if the bad clients? Lol
 

The fact is that most bookings are done on short notice (a day to a week in advance for, or even less depending on the provider). So here's what's happened: she penciled you in 3-weeks in advance; in an effort to avoid wasting time on screening a client who may potentially cancel, she's waited until close to the date to screen.

and given her all she requires for screening, then IMHO she should take you seriously and give you a confirmation or rejection in short order. Seven days to respond is too long, and many would have moved on after a much shorter wait.

Thanks for all the advice.  I was thinking something along that line too.  If I'm already on edge before the meeting, it probably won't be a good session anyway.  I just feel bad to cancel after we have a date set up (read a post here that SPs like to keep newbies waiting until 3 days before the appointment in case they get skittish and cancel at the last minute).  I don't mind waiting if she tells me so.   I just hate being kept in the dark with no explanation at all.

Finally got an answer after I told her that I'm considering moving on.  She told me that she's too busy to finish my screening atm and it would be better to schedule next time after I have gotten a reference *facepalmed* (gave her all my info 8 days ago).  Now I only have a few days left to try setting up with someone else *sigh*.  Feel like I'm being baited.  She should have told me that in the beginning.