...we are taking quite a chance when we meet new clients. We must protect ourselves as intelligently as possible. We too could be wondering if you are LE, or someone who will be threatening to us. I have always taken precautions so I can then feel comfortable enough to spoil a man I choose to spend time with, and I've never been unpleasantly surprised.
When I meet a new client, and he will be coming to visit me, I meet him at a coffee shop a few blocks away for a brief hello...that way we are both able to make sure we are comfortable with each other. I've found those with nothing to hide, and who realize there's no reason for me to even keep any information concerning him (I NEVER keep incriminating info around...not phone #'s, names, ANYTHING IN ANY FORM), have no problem with questions that fit in well when meeting anyone for the first time!!
I am an independant, so a friend always knows where I'm at, and we check in and out with each other. I will say I don't ask for work numbers or positions...yet I do screen first time friends in my own way. If you are uncomfortable giving all that information, don't! Try someone else!
I would say from the sounds of it, you might ligten up just a little on the "wire-tapping" idea, as you might enjoy yourself better!

That ain't normal. The providers I use just want a name and another provider as a reference. You might wanna stay away from that one just to be safe.

Question #2: Insensitive yes; but not nuts.

 You may find the below link enlightening.
BTW- If you are not exaggerating "asking for Drivers License #" is NOT common.

.http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=12664&boardID=33&page=5

DL # might = identity theft.  As another has said, that isn't normal.

We have to make sure you arent a cop
or psycho

OF course you have to make sure of the same. Its why there is TER to check us out.