So I was supposed to see someone tonight but they bailed on me at the last minute. Well, not just bailed rather dodged me. Yes, as embarrassing as it is to admit I'm pretty sure she saw me through the peephole and changed her mind. I say this because we had email correspondence back and forth up until our meeting, I show up at the front door and knock, hear rustling and I guessed what sounded like the door locking. This is weird so I call and she says she didn't know I was coming by since I didn't call right before so she's not home... Now she told me I could email OR call her beforehand so I emailed her when I was heading out, so I thought she knew I was on my way. Not to mention she made no effort to reconfirm our appointment day of either. Maybe I should have called her, but everyone else I've seen usually texts or calls to confirm appointments so not even getting a "check in" email or phone call from her and that crap at the front door makes me feel pretty confident I was dodged, not forgotten.

So my question is what's the protocol on reviewing this experience? I realize sometimes shit happens and girls have to cancel, but that door shit and the nonsense on the phone really bother me (yeah chalk it up to ego but if you're going to call this a service/job then there are some rules of professional conduct and I don't care if you refuse to see young people or people of color but a professional is straight about their boundaries and preferences) and I feel it warrants a degradation in this provider's review score and notice to other hobbyists.  

As always, I want to play by TER rules so any constructive help is much appreciated

You cannot do a review on ncns as you never got face time.Most providers prefer a call when your @ the location also. But it's just as likely she was doing her-----(put what ever drug  here) ,also it has been my experience that applying any type of "normal" business etiquette or professionalism in this industry is setting yourself up for disappointment.
I have seen quite a few top 100 ladies (along with bp ladies) and while some are professional most all (that I've gotten to know well) have some sort of dysfunction.Ocd ,bi-polar or any number of other issues & let me also state I have my own issues.I 'm not taking anyone's inventory here just stating my years of experience.
The way I look at your situation ,is that it's just "cost of doing this thing" and believe this with over 100 TOFTT ...I got enough "cost of doing this thing" to fill a nice size book.
I hope you can alter your viewpoint but if not perhaps your not suited to this "thing"..just sayin...

In no particular order:

-FYI, your sentences are long and rambling, and hard to understand. That's not a good way to go when you are trying to communicate a point. As a result, I'm not clear as to the exact steps that were followed to create your appointment.

-Playing by the rules = following her rules. There is NO blanket rule of conduct, or "rules of professional conduct" that cover this hobby. You are paying for sex, an illegal endeavor, and the women that you will see do not attend "hooker college" to teach them how to behave. You may think that you have the "right" to expect them to behave by a certain set of rules, but you will often be disappointed. For the best possible experience, get completely tuned in to HER rules.

-You cannot review a "no show" on TER, so there will be no review of this experience. If you truly feel that it was 100% her fault that she flaked on you, the best you can do is post about it on your regional board.

-If she "made no effort to reconfirm your appointment", then there WAS no appointment. Sending her an e-mail as you went out the door is NOT confirming an appointment; how do you know she even read it?

-If you suspect that she wouldn't open the door because she looked out the peephole and saw that you were a black man, then you may be right. Some providers will not see black men, as has been discussed here and on the general board many times. It's bullshit, but there is nothing you can do about it. Most providers who feel that way will at least put it in their ad, but most black men who want to avoid this hassle will mention it early in the booking process, just in case.

-Last, but definitely not least, what I glean from your post is that this is a back page provider who has no reviews, who you are visiting at her home. Correct me if I'm wrong. That is the least possible professional scenario that you can find in this business, and it is completely and entirely your fault. You have a TER membership, this is why TER exists. Do some homework, read reviews, see reputable providers at decent hotels, and you will not have experiences like this.

 
I'm sorry to be so negative, but the point I'm trying to make is that as a hobbyist, you can go around "expecting" other people to behave a certain way, or you can take the responsibility to do things the right way, be thorough in your approach, and get the most out of each experience.

The chain of events is a bit odd, but my best guess is that your surprised her. Still, why would anyone give out the EXACT location, and then bail like that? Simply makes no damn sense. The exact location is usually not given until you arrive at the hotel or general area, so if she did in fact just refuse service after seeing you, that's pretty crappy. I have heard of providers refusing to see black men upon arriving because they did not know the guy was black, but gimme a damn break. If you're that concerned, try ASKING the guy beforehand

THAT'S what I'm saying! I'm not even black, just dark skinned haha.

I get that there aren't actually any codified rules, but WE get dinged in this community for shady behavior so why shouldn't providers too? Also sorry if my post was difficult to read, guess that's bound to happen when you post mad  
I would agree that I have a good bit of blame for emailing rather than calling (what's that? A slightly shy hobbyist? No way!) but giving me the exact location of the place way before the appointment time was pretty messed up/dumb.

Posting on the regional board - I thought we weren't allowed to post anything specifically identifying the provider there? Obviously not addresses and such or anything that paints her as some evil person, but the provider name with link to her TER page (yeah she has reviews...) and just saying what happened would be enough, if I'm allowed.

As always, thanks for the help ladies and gents

"Nobody wins in a fight".

I would discourage starting a flame war of any sort of a regional board.  The chick didn't rip you off, that is she didn't pull a "cash dash".  You didn;t get beaten up by a pimp.  She didn't fail to deliver on any promised activities after taking the cash.  She just opted to not see you and wasted your time in the process.

Yes, she was likely wrong II never lose sight of the fact that I am only hearing half the story) and yes it sucks.  But it isn't worth the potential headache when you start flaming for that shit, certainly from trainwrecks that I have seen in the past.

Thicken the skin a little, learn from that facet of the experience that was your fault, and move on to the next lady.  We all have our early shitty experiences, they are growing pains, truly not personal and very much part of the process.

My 2c

Yeah you're right. I will begrudgingly move on...thanks for the valuable advice.

One must not show up unannounced.  You should call the day of (maybe even when you leave to meet her) & then call when you arrive in parking.  
Look up two call system again in the Self Help section (by the life ring).

Maybe she had another client in the room, maybe she wasn't ready, maybe you were at the wrong address? Who knows? Some ladies are shady, and trust me, a lady isn't going to turn you away by your looks.

You can not write a review on a ncns. BUT if have local hobby boards you might be able to voice your experience. Did this lady have reviews? If she's done this to you she probley has done it to others. Maybe it was just a simple misunderstanding? We will never know.

Did she say to call her before you leave or to call once you got there? Where/how did she give you her address? If she gave you her address over e-mail that is a HUGE red flag. I will not even text or write an e-mail to my regulars with my address in it.

You shouldn't have to "reconfirm" your appointment the day of but it's never a bad idea to take the initiative and make sure your meeting is still on. That should be on HER not you, but not everyone is perfect. I've forgotten about a meeting before and if they wouldn't have e-mailed me I wouldn't have remembered!(which is why I write everything down)

If you need anymore help feel free to message me!