Honestly just set yourself a small budget for your "hobby", not your "habit", but your hobby, and tell yourself that is what you have and you better make the best of it.
Hey, I feel your pain, if you love candy, and you see all these tasty flavors, it's hard not to taste them all, but you gotta keep those priorities straight.
I am about a month into this hobby and have had maybe 8 meetings, all good, some great. The ladies I have been with have all been pretty, honest, and I appreciate the differences in them and their bodies. I love this hobby and am having a blast! A new spring in my step and visions of sugar plums burned in my brain.
I'm like a kid in a candy store making up for lost time,experiencing ladies, positions, views,sensations I haven't had my whole life. How can I not love this????. Like most things I do I am going at this wholeheartedly.
My favorites list is more like a "to do" list!! Work is suffering, home is actually better, definitely lighter in the wallet.
I have to back off to a moderation level, not sure I know how, and appreciate any words of wisdom from anyone else who has been here.
I think you may have provided your own answer.....if your work is suffering,you may not be long for your job.If you've had 8 meetings in 1 month,you must be making some serious coin.I don't think you want to lose that job! Also,perspective,keep in mind your personal life {bills,the wife,the kids etc.} should always come first.Don't lose a good thing at home.
It is easy to get pulled into the excitement and rush, but if your personal life is taking a hit and your work is suffering, you are starting to sound more like a drug addict or an alcoholic. Is that what you really want? Take a step back, take a deep breath and re-evaluate your priorities. Figure out what is missing in your real life that is causing you to treat the hobby like an obsession. Otherwise, you will find out too late that you are on a path that will likely end badly. And the good news is, the ladies will be waiting when you are ready to play.
save your bennies for a more extended date. I knew a girl who told me some of her best dates (her ATF's), were guys who hobbied infrequently, but, knew how to do it right when they did. If you have a family, that may include travel if you can pull it off. Schedule an extra day on business trip, do the research and schedule an overnighter with a well reviewed girl from that area. The build up for that trip may cool off your new 'addiction'.
Thanks guys....all observations and alternatives I do need to hear. I can certainly rationalize going overboard when all I hear is myself, thats why I posted. Its not like I have spoken with anyone I know about this.
Nothing complicated about why I love this hobby, not enough sex at home,am married a long time, do not want a "relationship" and there are women availabile to satisfy this choice I am making. I am pent up, do love the choices, the point that the ladies will always be there is well taken.
I'm tired of my own hand, and no interest in going lefty. Moderation...maybe 1/month, and advance planning for when I am out of town are probably doable. Points taken with regards to work and family. Time for a deep breath and regroup. Thanks for the feedback...it does help.
Honestly just set yourself a small budget for your "hobby", not your "habit", but your hobby, and tell yourself that is what you have and you better make the best of it.
Hey, I feel your pain, if you love candy, and you see all these tasty flavors, it's hard not to taste them all, but you gotta keep those priorities straight.
Do a caculation on how much you need during retirement. After that you find hobby money is limited. I know the feeling. I spent 3K one month on 6 different providers. I went back to 1600 month. I spent around 18K on the hobby last year. Now I am investing the money and only hobby a few times a year.
....and being in control is a huge step to keeping the hobby just that.... a hobby & and not an addiction. I know of several established providers, myself included, that do not cater to the impulse and take pre-cautions of being an additional problem or issue in a gentleman's life. Many times planning ahead and looking forward to a specific encounter will not only keep a check on the hobby and your participation in it, it will also add to the experience...(*just my thoughts*) kisses & best wishes .... ~Tori
Thanks Tori, I wish I was "planning" on being in Atlanta in the near future! Really does help putting this down and getting feedback. Thanks for the thoughtful responses....although I did have to think on the left handed one a bit
I also have trouble rationalizing the expense, given that if you don't watch yourself, you'll dig a deep hole financially. One way to think about it is to realize you're taking on a new hobby, and you need to give up something in return. I'm used to going to Starbucks once or twice a day - add it up - you can probably see a provider once every couple of months for the money you save on just a simple indulgence. Just a thought...
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