I'm sure everyone has their own reason for getting into hobbying.  For the married guys, does the guilt go away as time goes on?

That fear subsided pretty quickly too, which was in a way too bad because I got careless and got caught.

Some of the guilty feelings are really just worries about getting caught etc. and others arise if you are spending so much time or money that you neglect others. But in moderation and done considerately, the hobby should be a normal and healthy part of your adult sex and romantic life.

Got caught ? Wow!  So were you in the doghouse for awhile? Tell us what to expect when SO catches you.

I normally lurk here on the newbie board but I thought I might interject.

Your question clearly this is one that might enter the mind .
Guilt or no guilt the hurting of a loved or cared for one is not something most people are going to find enjoyable.

Each women's reaction will vary though.Some will immediately call their divorce attorney , some will want an affair of their own, some will try to  blame themselves and try and fix it through themselves, still others may demand you stop and go to therapy alone or together.

Regardless of the reaction the action to some extent is the same you are caught with your pants down and it is not a fabulous feeling your going to like to repeat .

I personally have experience with this actually.My ex husband was a hobbiest , we were eventually divorced . I tried to fix it . I found it was not for me to fix in our case and relationship.

I eventually became a provider first out of curiosity of what took my husband away from me and then when I realised i wouldn't ever know that  I began to have my own hobby experiences that made me want to stay .

There is always the possibility she might just enter the hobby as well boys .
As it turns out I am more popular than he was  Shocking lol Kendall

It wasn't about me , my looks , our sex life , or anything related to any of those things.

Truth is my friends here have been wonderful to me .

My average rating for performance is a solid nine and change .So ...Apparently it also wasn't about me being ok in the sack lol.

It was not for me to fix. Believe me ,I tried.
Thank you for the compliment Niceguy Kendall

Kendall - your ex must be a blind fool as you are stunning!  

Posted By: amazonian

I normally lurk here on the newbie board but I thought I might interject.

Your question clearly this is one that might enter the mind .
Guilt or no guilt the hurting of a loved or cared for one is not something most people are going to find enjoyable.

Each women's reaction will vary though.Some will immediately call their divorce attorney , some will want an affair of their own, some will try to  blame themselves and try and fix it through themselves, still others may demand you stop and go to therapy alone or together.

Regardless of the reaction the action to some extent is the same you are caught with your pants down and it is not a fabulous feeling your going to like to repeat .

I personally have experience with this actually.My ex husband was a hobbiest , we were eventually divorced . I tried to fix it . I found it was not for me to fix in our case and relationship.

I eventually became a provider first out of curiosity of what took my husband away from me and then when I realised i wouldn't ever know that  I began to have my own hobby experiences that made me want to stay .

There is always the possibility she might just enter the hobby as well boys .
As it turns out I am more popular than he was  Shocking lol Kendall

Posted By: cutehunkie

Got caught ? Wow!  So were you in the doghouse for awhile? Tell us what to expect when SO catches you.

Wow!  Knockout looks, but from your posts an well grounded, excelent mind to match.  I would almost feel sorry for your ex.  ALMOST.  But his loss is certainly our gain.

I heard a saying once that if you don't live accoriding to how you think (which is where guilt can come in), then you will eventually think according to how you live.

This is another way of saying what the therapists call "rationalization." People are very good at figuring out ways of justifying their behavior , especially as it continues over time.

So my answer to your question is,  yes, the guilt does go away. But you gotta ask yourself if you want to change yourself in that direction.

Its true about Kendall.  She told me that story some time ago.  She is very sexy and attractive but so is Tiger's ex.  Show me a beautiful women and I'll show you a guy who is tired of fucking her.  Guys just like change