I'm looking to get an escort for the first time and I was wondering what the protocol is. Like how does this all happen? What is the two phone calls?

Could someone just run me through a typical experience? How it is usually set up, the phone calls, where to go at a hotel, and how to leave the donation, when to tip, etc;

And if you meet someone at their hotel or residence (an incall) are you expected to pay for the room in addition to the donation? If not, then am I right in assuming that it is cheaper to go see an escort at their hotel rather than have one come to my place? (An outcall).

Most ladies prefer initial contact by e-mail or the response form on her web site.  

The two call system has to do with a lady offering incall.  Your first call is the day of the appointment a few hours in advance where you are given the name of the hotel.  The 2nd call when you arrive at the hotel gets you the room #.

Put your cell phone, keys and the envelope down on a dresser,night stand, etc.  When you leave, take your phone and keys and leave the envelope.  Tip only if you think you have received service over and above the norm.

If you go to an incall at a hotel, the lady pays for the room.  Prices vary--some charge more for incall and some charge more for outcall.

Best advice is to fork over the $ and get a VIP membership.  Let the big head do the thinking.

No matter if you are making first contact via email or phone the key is to be polite and request an hour of their time.  They will tell you if that time works for them or if an adjustment to the time is necessary.  Once you agree on a time she may want to know some screening info on you before the appointment, give her that, all that you feel comfortable with.  Then she may say I will get back to you or tell you what area of the city to travel to and give you a number to call 10 minutes before the appointment time.  And when you call her 10 minutes before she will guide you the rest of the way giving you her address and then room or apartment number.

Now that all sounded pretty easy right?  As a newbie I was very concearned with "what do I say" well the key to all of this is not "what to say" it is "what not to say".  You will see in that paragraph above no money or sex acts were discussed, and quite frankly there is no need to discuss anything if you have read her reviews there should not be many questions unanswered.  As I have said before just pretend you are making a dental appointment, at a hotel.

So once you have parked then go to her room.  This may be the hardest part because in some Hotels you have to walk past the front desk and in your mind you think they are looking at you but in reality they just want to be left alone so they could care less about you.  If you want pick a provider for the first time that keeps a private incall, meaning apartment or house, maybe a little less nerve racking.  Knock quietly on the door.

Leaving the donation is diffrent for every girl and hopefully you can gleen some info by reading the reviews.  But in generall just find a place to empty your pockets.  Some like to take care of it upfront, other do not want any mention of it the entire time, so it varies.

With an independent provider the price you see on her profile is all inclusive meaning the room, services, everything.  Tipping is a hotly debated issue but suffisive to say they only tip you should give is the one you want to give.  If she is requesting a tip then that is not a tip it is a fee.  For the first time just bring her stated donation nothing more.  If she was really great enough to warrant a tip give it to her when you see her the second time.  And double it because you will be in for an even better ride the second time around.

Cheaper incall or outcall, that one varies also, you would think the outcall would be cheaper right, I mean no hotel bill, no towles or sheets to wash, less work over all.  But at least here in LA outcalls are averaging about $50 more than incall for no other reason that traffic.  A girl may spend 2 hours in traffic for a trip  that should have taken 30 minutes, so that is time lost to them and they have to make it up somehow witht he higher fee.  In fact I travel in LA for my job and I am surprised they are only putting a $50 premium on it, if it was me I would charge a hell of a lot more than that to deal with LA traffic.  

So what are you waiting for?

Great info!  I too am a newbie and have been pondering those same questions.  The incall one was the one that really confused me because I had read a couple of reviews that mentioned incalls but also mentioned having to reimburse the provider.  I do have one question that I hope someone can help with.  If a higher-end provider asks for a reference, (but because you're a newbie, you don't have any) would it be ok to get a mid-to-lower end provider and use her as a ref?  You know, just to get it out of the way?  I know, kind of a dumb question, but I'm curious to know.  Thanks in advance!

Any reference is better than no reference at all.  Besides, I've found that some my best encouters have been with mid-low level providers.  My ATF charges well below the PHX average.

If you want to skip this step, post a mesaage on your regional board explaining your situation.  If the PHX board is any exaxmple, you'd be surprized to see how many top-knotch indies and agencies will be willing to make a way for something to happen.

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An important thing to consider for your first time is if that first girl will give you a reference for your next visit to a girl that absoloutly requires them.  This means one that she is not bitter about providing a reference to another girl (some feel hurt if you do not exclusively see them).  And two that she actually answeres her phone on a regular basis or returns email fairly quickly.  And three that she is not quiting the business in two weeks and will be unable to be contacted.  This will aid you in seeing the next girl.  SO this should be a question you should ask when making your apointment, something to the effect of "can I use you as a reference for visits to other providers"  she may say:
Sure, not a problem
NO, I do not give references
Maybe but I do not keep any of your info so I may not remember you.

In this third instance tell her it is OK if she keeps your name around on a list somewhere, if you are OK with that.  Or just make sure and give her a good enough time so she remembers your name

The lady responding to this poor fellow is one of Phoenix's finest, and a personal favorite.

Alright, I am not a 100% newbie, but I am a little confused on the tipping thing.  I have experienced two different things from providers.  Ones that when you visit them their price listed is the price you pay and others that the price listed just gets them in the door.  

I understand that second one is a "fee" and I will be required to tip to receive any additional service, but is there a polite way to ask if a tip is required at first contact?  Any time I have tried the provider says financial matters will not be discussed over the phone and only discussed upon arrival.  

I dont want to sound cheap, but I dont want to agree to $$$ and then arrive at their incall and be required to pay an additional $$ or $$$ for FS.  I dont mind tiping if the experience is good and I do usually, but I would like to get around this issue so it doesnt happen to me in the future.  Any advice??