Does anyone think it is a bad idea for someone to see a provider to lose their virginity.  i have been unable to find a girl in the regular world.  also, should i tell the provider ahead of time?

This is my story and take it for what it is worth.

I lost my virginity at 25 (yes, 25 and by choice).  I lost it to a woman I was dating at the time but not in love with.  To this day, I regret doing it.

Just one man's experience.

you have not had many women pay attention to you.
By your own admission you have been unable to find a girl in the regular world.

Hmmmm, Unless you are able to detatch your emotions when getting that  _close_  to another human, I would have to say bad idea. Especially considering many of the GFE type are VERY good at convincing us dumb males that we are all that just to get us to keep coming.

On the other hand, if you are somewhat cold hearted it is a very good idea.

There is someone for you out there in the "regular" world.  You just have to stop, think deeply and do a sound analysis of what you want from a relationship with a woman.  If you want sex without having to go through the daily process of making a relationship work, then this hobby probaly is best for you.  If you want a relationship with a woman and look forward to spending significant time with her, then this hobby is dead wrong for you.
    A lot of hobbyists see providers because they choose such a relationship over the alternative of finding an SO and maintaining a meaningful relationship with the woman.  That choice is not a bad one, I make it everyday and many others do also.  If you hobby, make sure that you have clearly concluded that you want to be in this category.

I would say it depends upon your frame of mind and what you want/expect to get out of the experience.

If you feel this will help you get over that first big hurdle, and then continue to pursue normal healthy relationships, it's not such a bad idea. But also understand beforehand that this hobby can be very addictive and expensive to many men, so proceed very cautiously and consider this when making that decision. The hobby can be very beneficial if you are able to maintain a good clear perspective of what it is and also what it is not. It is never a replacement for a real relationship.

As for telling her, if and when you finally meet face to face, if you are nervous and filled with anxiety it may help to tell her at the beginning of the session. She is a professional and has heard it before so don't be embarassed or ashamed, that's one positive to seeing a pro, they will never judge you. However, if you go through with it and are comfortable and relaxed, it is not necessary to say anything, it can be your secret.

be certain to always make informed decisions and do not act on impulse, good luck to you, and PLAY SAFE
best regards, mr.man

you should be at lease 25 by
at 25 99% of all the woman are non virgian so big woop there were saving them self.
at 25 95% of the guys are non virgian main because they save them self and then find they can get a have the night slut ness like woman can.
I still and rember a lot of 17-19 yoars women that were saving them self well they dont for long.

Emotional bonds, I  would say no. On the other hand, if your looking to have a great physical and sexual time with someone who will rock your world, I suggest you do a VIP search on TER in your area for a young highly rated provider with the looks you desire that is a GFE (girl friend experience). Make sure you get a girl that offers a "full no rush session" and "allows multiple pops".  This is key because as a virgin, you are probably going to cum as soon as the girl starts to suck your dick. You definately want someone who will let the two of you relax and go for round 2 or 3. A last suggestion is to book for 2 hours if you can afford it.  Good Luck!!!!!!

I'm not looking for any big emotional connection, I just want to blow off some steam

My contrarian opinion is to do it, find a GFE in your area. I wish I had of done it when I was younger, I think it would have made me less self conscious and more confident in dating in the "real" world when I was younger.  

I would caution you with making it a habit at your age.  I would tell the provider if you feel really comfortable with her, only as you get started in your meeting, not in arranging a meeting.

Just my two cents.

I actually like older, experienced men. I would feel uncomfortable with the idea of having a virgin as a client. I can just imagine him being very nervous, which in turn, would make me very nervous, and ruin the mood. I have turnd down men, who have admitted to me upfront, that he was inexperienced, or just someone who has never partake in the sexual act. My preference is for someone to tell me upfront that they are a virgin, so I am able to make choice on my end to see him or not. The last thing that I would need is not to be told of anything, and wonder why the session went downhill, because of his lack of experience, which would bother me to no end.

   I would definately agree with Fistfuck! Because girls these days so often lose their virginity young, as a 25 year old male, I would advise that you gain some experience with a "Good" provider. Follow fistfuck's guidelines. Tell the provider that you are a virgin! She will be flattered that you chose her to initiate you. Also, as fistfuck said, you might blow your load before she even gets your pants down, so it's important to read the reviews and select a provider that is not a clockwatcher.She will probably take extra time with you, and being 25, you shouldn't have any problem getting it up 2 or 3 times during the session.

Remember, what you learn from her will go a long way towards making your first experience with an SO much easier. Young girls today can tell in a heartbeat if you don't know what you're doing! Good Luck!     SS344

the big thing to stop you from blowing you load early is to jerk off before hand do it enought to clean up. may have to even work to get a hard on.

I find the inexperience of a virgin an extreme turn on, admittedly I am a little older than most of the ladies in this business, but I think it's because of my experience with life that gives me the advantage over the very young ladies.

A man should never be made to feel self concious or uncomfortable with a woman, even if he doesn't have the .. hands on... knowledge that he wishes he had.  I'm patient, gentle, I'm not judgemental at all and have a singular knack for putting people at ease.  

If I were to give you some advice, find someone who knows what she's doing, but isn't expecting you to do all the work, you'll learn far more by letting the lady lead you through the process enough times for you to become brave enough to take the lead yourself.

Good luck with your search Hun, You'll find the rewards of choosing the right person for your first experience well worth the wait.

Beth.

I am a woman who happens to be in her late 30's, who happens to love older, experienced men, and who has been in the business for over 3 years. The idea of a "virginal" male coming to see me, is a turn off. I also say, to each their own, as well. I know of many ladies who are my age or older, who are the opposite of what I like. But, I do feel that if someone who is going into to this, as a virgin, should always be open about it up front to the provider of his choice. She may want to experience it or not. Good luck

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Miss Anon

I understand your point in a way, but aren't all guys nervous the first time they are with a provider, I know I was.  I was really nervous getting into the hobby and I'm still nervous the first time with any provider.  

Calmguy

and have done this before. I would prefer NOT to be someone's first time. I hope that I am not offending anyone out here, for that is not my intent

Miss Anon

Miss Anon,

your honesty and willingness to share your thoughts.  

All of our experiences and thoughts are different...Thanks for sharing yours...We apreciate your point of view, sometimes tough to see from our point of view.  

We need your input on the board.

Thanks
Calmguy

Hey nightranger, I was in the same boat you are in except I lost my virginity at 26.  I took the plunge with a very hot asian girl last friday and I don't regret it at all, go for it you will feel like a great weight has been lifted off of you.