Newbie - FAQ

Re: You really need to figure out if you want to partake in the hobby
curt23 13 Reviews 614 reads
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I agree with Hardy, First don't rush , research extensively and that means reading the juicy details of several ladies. Secondly think hard about what you want out of this experience. Just to be able to say your technically not  a virgin ( I did this when younger and was still mentally a virgin for much longer) or to truly become experienced and confident. If it's the former go ahead with any well reviewed hot body that strikes your fancy and will see you. If it is the latter then you will need more then one session and probably more then 1 hour sessions. This is nothing like any civie experience but you can gain personal experience and the confidence to start learning the civie game.
For your first experience I would recommend someone older and more likely to take the time needed to teach a virgin. Again read the ladies web pages and juicy details. Look for a lady who prefers to spend some talk time getting to know you first over jumping your bones as soon as the door closes. These ladies you will soon notice will state they prefer 90 min to 2 hour appointments for first seeing guys. The only danger is even an hour can be a long time if your not connecting so again research well. Be prepared to also find a bunch of ladies who think your too young to see. This will happen and there is not much you can do about it but there are mature ladies who will take the time to see and teach an inexperience young man.  

tomjohn962360 reads

Hey I am a 23 year old virgin and am looking for a provider since I am shy and totally suck at talking to civvie girls lol. I was wondering how much I should spend I don't mind $1000 and also would it be smart to stick to 1 hr only and not go any more since it will be my first time. I was looking at this one providers profile and she charges $800 per hr and she is only 19. She used to have around 6 pictures on her site and now she only has 1...isnt that odd. The reason I wanted to see a young provider is bc is simulates a college civvie chick most accurately well at least thats what I think lol. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Also any suggestions for a newbie friendly provider. Also is it better to wait for the right girl to come along or go with a provider for the first time and then stick to civvie chicks. I have attached her profile link. PM me if possible.

Thanks,

Tom

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Take some of that $1000 and get cleared on P411 or Datecheck , Get VIP here . Now you have slowed down a bit and are at $900 or so .........Being a Newbie and your young age can be a small problem so thats why I say get verified so she can feel a little more safe.
I read her reviews and saw no red flags - she is young like your like 'em , and regardless of the pictures ( lack there of ), the reviewers said she was hot - thats in the eye of the beholder, and a $1000 risk right now.
Myself in your situation ................Slow down and research , research and research .
1 hour is fine first time out - maybe best from what you stated . You may freeze up when the sultry goddess puts her tounge down your throat and grabs your crotch ! Myself not knowing, would not want to spend THAT much $$$$ when I don't know the outcome. We have a HUGE selection of BEAUTIFUL ladies here in Miami for $ 400 an hour . Your money not mine ..........
Stay on these boards as you can learn a TON in a short amount of time !!!!!
Oh yeah ....Stay off Backpage and NEVER see a lady w/o reviews ...........Have fun , that's what it's about !

Oh yeah one last thought ........I am a 45 year old dude . I don't think 1 single 19 year old girl knows how to fuck a man properly for $ 1000 !!!    Expect a lackluster fuck from a 19 year old girl !  Get a hot  experienced girl who will hurt you so bad, you will call in to work sick for 2 days - there are many " older " ones who have the experience to " ROCK YOUR WORLD "

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If I was only your age again.  Since this is going to be your first time make sure you do your research well.  If you don't have VIP you need to spend the $ to get it even if only for 1 month so you can read ALL of the review.  Review #'s don't mean shit.  Its the description of the encounter that makes all the difference.  I personally wouldn't go for anything less than 2 hours for your first time.  You might be so excited its "one in the air, one in the hair".  More time will let you connect with the lady on a more emotional level and will make the experience better for you.  If you should have a little "accident" the extra time will be worth the money. Not that there is anything wrong with a quick in and out but this should be something you remember for the rest of your life.  Do you want it to be a dream or a nightmare?  I understand your desire to be with someone close to your own age, but don't rule out more mature women.  I'm in my 60's and there are plenty of women in their 30's and 40's that give me better wood than someone in their teens and 20's.  Take your time and don't be in a rush just because you want to lose "IT".

Once you make your final choice, be honest with the lady and explain your situation to her.  The more she knows about you, the better it will be for both of you.  She will be able to guide you if she knows what you need and expect.

I"ll say it once again.  DO YOUR RESEARCH


After that, have fun.

SplleChek903 reads

$1k will get you two hours with a top tier provider.  Don't be afraid to take your time and enjoy.  One hour is good or a quick release, but if you're popping your cherry, make sure you book enough time to enjoy it

Posted By: tomjohn96
I don't mind $1000 and also would it be smart to stick to 1 hr only and not go any more since it will be my first time.


I get it. You are 23 years old and haven't gotten laid. You are sick and tired of masturbating on a daily basis and, damit want to fuck someone tonight.

I think the first thing you need to decide is do you want to enter the hobby and this lifestyle. Let me clue you in. Once you enter the hobby, you will be hooked. Trust me. You will set up your first appointment, and based on your post, you are willing to spend up to a $1000 (I really hope you are working and have this kind of cash on hand and that this is not mommy/daddy's money...sorry, I digress) and either have a wonderful experience that you will want to repeat again and again or have a horrible experience, in which case you will be so annoyed that you will look for another provider immediately in the hopes that the second session matches your expectations. I can't stress enough that once you make the committment to enter the hobby, be prepared to be in it for A LONG time. Don't think for a second that once you have sex with a provider you will simply leave the hobby and start banging civilian ladies. It doesnt work that way. Once you are in, you are in the hobby. You then have to be ready for both a large financial committment as well as an emotional committment that hobbying is how I want my sex life to revolve around? Based on your post, I am guessing you have no idea.

Second, don't make the mistake of EVER thinking that seeing a provider will in ANY way simulate or substitute for what you can achieve by seeing a civilian girl. BIG MISTAKE. A provider is a paid (by you) actress. She is acting out your fantasy during your paid hour or two or three. Seeing a provider, no matter how young is NOTHING like fucking a a college civilian chick. Having sex with a Civvie lady is the real world; she has real issues and problems that in some capacity you have to deal with. You bring baggage to the table that she will have to deal with. Even banging a chick that you meet at  the local bar on a one night stand is not care free. There is Always something for the guy to think about. Conversely, having sex with a provider, is CARE FREE. You are not concerned with her outside real life problems (you will prob. never know them anyway). Unless you tell her, the provider is not concerned about your problems. You are both living in the moment of your session. You are not concerned about your sexual performance (did you make her cum). You are not concerned about whether she liked you personally; only that you were a respectful client whome she would see again. A good provider will make you feel like you are King of the Hill, that you are the most important person in her life during your paid time together. A civilian girl will do no such thing.

You really need to think long and hard about what you want to do



I agree with Hardy, First don't rush , research extensively and that means reading the juicy details of several ladies. Secondly think hard about what you want out of this experience. Just to be able to say your technically not  a virgin ( I did this when younger and was still mentally a virgin for much longer) or to truly become experienced and confident. If it's the former go ahead with any well reviewed hot body that strikes your fancy and will see you. If it is the latter then you will need more then one session and probably more then 1 hour sessions. This is nothing like any civie experience but you can gain personal experience and the confidence to start learning the civie game.
For your first experience I would recommend someone older and more likely to take the time needed to teach a virgin. Again read the ladies web pages and juicy details. Look for a lady who prefers to spend some talk time getting to know you first over jumping your bones as soon as the door closes. These ladies you will soon notice will state they prefer 90 min to 2 hour appointments for first seeing guys. The only danger is even an hour can be a long time if your not connecting so again research well. Be prepared to also find a bunch of ladies who think your too young to see. This will happen and there is not much you can do about it but there are mature ladies who will take the time to see and teach an inexperience young man.  

Please be careful . There are girls (not true providers) who will take advantage of you. Listen to these guys! Also if your first experience is with a provider I think you will come away with unrealistic expectations of civilian sex. It sounds like your looking for a date experience. Look for a provider that might go to dinner with you first or at least drinks so that you can relax and get comfortable with her.  For that kind of money you should be able to get a decent night with an excellent provider. Check the reviews and go for someone who will allow for multiple endings. Good Luck!

1qazse4rfv717 reads

You'll be nevrous as hell no matter what you think now.  1 hr is too short.  Much better to get 2 hrs with a good provider for 600 to 800 than 1 hr for 800, gives time to go slower and enjoy.  Don't know where you are but got to assume there's a number to pick from, or use some of your budget to travel to the right provider.
800/hr is way up on the cost scale.

Should you see a provider to start?  Tough question only you can answer.  If you do don't jump at the first cute face.  Communicate a few times by e-mail or calling.

I suggest you keep your head on straight.  Providing IS an illusion...  of what we would like a GF to be like.  If you are so shy, I suggest you find a slightly older MILF, late 20s to early 30s.  Younger girls, including providers, seen (in my limited experience) to expect a guy to be 100% push button...  as I was at that age.  A lady with just a bit more experience & willing to see a Newbie, would be more benificial to you.
I don't think you should just want to unload your virginity...  you getting off is basic but not going to do anything for your confidence.   You should look for a provider who is willing to teach you how to please a woman.  On one level, ladies are individual, built uniquely & with their own sensitivities...  but there is a certain commonality & if you are observant & attentive you will discover what is pleasing to the partner you are with.  THAT is a huge confidence builder.  
You should want to "catch up" and position yourself to be active in the world of civie relationships.   Pay4play is seductive...  you know you can always get some...  

All this said, the pay-for-play world is a secret world.  You must never reveal any of this outside these boards.  It goes to the grave with you.  You don't tell your brother, your best friend, your future girlfriend, or the girl you walk down the aisle to meet.  (Imagine your best buddy, drunk on your wedding day...  "a toast to Joe who gave up whores for his bride!")  A secret is only a secret when you are the only one who knows.  You CAN say you had "other Girl Friends"...   You never say how long they were your girl friends FOR!   Are you sure you want to do this?  

Best Wishes...

anchorit757 reads

"You must never reveal any of this outside these boards.  It goes to the grave with you.  You don't tell your brother, your best friend, your future girlfriend, or the girl you walk down the aisle to meet."

Truer words have never been spoken!

No one, and I mean no one, EVER keeps a secret.They all say they will but as soon as they deem it "safe" to divulge information/gossip they sing like a canary.

I don't trust anyone with any personal secrets not even my two best friends I've known since kindergarten.

Hey, dont be foolish to spend $1000 on a single provider unless your income is substantial. Remember, its just sex, and once its over, its over. You will have many sex encounters in the future. There are really good providers out there, I would recommend reading new reviews everyday if you are a VIP member. It really helps because it shows how the provider performs and rated by other members. Most of these great providers only charge $300 per hour, that is far less than $1000. And $300 an hour is considered high quality service. Once hour is sufficient time, at least in my opinion. But, if you feel more comfortable with two hours, then I would recommend it. Make sure you make the most of it. Get as many pops as you can :)

Anyways, read new reviews daily because it will provide you with updated escorts, you can read their details, prices, performances, and juicy details. In my opinion, do not spend $1000 on a single provider for an hour, unless your income is substantial. Most high quality providers will do $500 or $600 for two hours and they will show you the time of your life. Remember, once the sex is over with, its over with. Money on the other hand, is hard to produce. Hope I was able to help you out.

pokerjeff803 reads

Hardy's response was one of the best written, and most useful information you will EVER find on any of these boards.

I almost never post anything on any of them, and have been on here for years.

The only thing I would add is that EXTRA research is now needed on TER as so much of the info is shilling for girls, and/or boasting by the guys.

It used to be MUCH more reliable info.

If I was your age I would stay out of the so called hobby. Maybe breaking your "maiden" is OK (I did that when I was 16 in an old school brothel) but EVERYTHING he conveyed was excellent advice.

Good luck.

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