Found "the" provider in our area. She is the total package that we're looking for. Great reviews to boot. Got through screening and made appointment. Had to cancel with 48 hours notice because of death of a close family member. Great communication throughout. Several months go by and we try it again. This time not so good communication but we finally get the date set and a confirmation the day before. One hour before the appointment, we are standing in an upscale suite and get a text that cancel's our appointment due to an emergency and mentions a possible reschedule for next week. One week goes by - nothing. Sent a polite text. Again - silence. At this point it's obvious we're not going to hear from her again. Any ideas what went wrong? We're at a loss. If we're doing something wrong, we want to correct it. Going to give this another try but it's back to the drawing board again.

You are much better off just asking her upfront whether she had a change of heart.  Be upfront and tell her you won't be upset, but you just want to know whether to keep trying to contact her.

Simple.

There's no way to know without her telling you and it may not be you, it might be her. She could be going thru a tough time in her life. She may contact you too, later. Pick out girl # 2 or # 3 on your list, go have fun with them, then go back and try with your dream girl down the road. What else can you do?

and you don't really want to call her out on TER either...

Could be a legit family emergency that required travel...
Might have gotten really sick...
Kicked out of the hotel...who knows...

Wait for an ad to pop up again, or find another...But you probably don't want to be a P.I.T.A.

what went wrong. Instead find the next one who will see you. Things do come up at last moment, and I have been cancelled on, and no showed several times in my last 10 yrs of doing this.. So it happens to veteran hobbyists too..

Hopefully, the next experience will be a lot smoother..

being obsessed with one particular provider will always have dire consequences..man up..move on..

IMHO, Getting in the mindset of "this is the one" is asking for it.  Going exclusive (remembering she certainly isn't...  you are just another client) but sooner or later the performance suffers & you get taken for granted.  What do you do?  The donation has already been set....  so you move on.  I went exclusive with a Fav lady...  went this way.  I stayed away for nearly a year.  She thought I was GONE.  
In the meantime I devoluped a few other Favorites & I added her back into the rotation.  It's a big help in keeping you head on straight.

There was a well reviewed provider...  often works in a city next to mine...  I liked her look & everything I read about her.  We were set the night before.  The morning of, she must have turned her phone off.  I never heard from her again & I wasted a rare opportunity to play.  So as it stands, I would not see her now (risking another opportunity) even if it was FREE.  Burn me twice, shame on me.

Sounds to me like the others have said, time to move on.  There are plenty of providers out there who will not treat you like this one.  Cut your losses and find another.

Swim

I am the SO, and this is for my husband. This may sound a little unique but I can assure you that I get amply rewarded.

If you remember any of her past posts she claims to be the SO, and was looking for a couples provider.

Thanks for the good advice. Moving on. Already found a touring provider who is HOT with reviews like I've never seen before. Maybe the other provider did us a favor cancelling or we never would have found this lovely lady. Started the verification process. Wish us luck.

but if she still hasn't responded, its most likely her way of telling you she's no longer interested in meeting. Sometimes life happens and it can't be helped. Then, on the other hand, some women are complete bitches for no reason whatsoever.  (I'm sure you're aware of this...)

I'd find a provider who at least has the common courtesy to respond! JMHO.

Hope you have a  great time and looking forward to the review. Maybe i can use it to help my SO to also do the same.

Who knows why some providers even bother making an appt. if they can't keep it, and that bs emergency thing happening twice...yea right. You think she could be more creative lol. This is why I insist on a meet and greet before I will see couples. Sometimes things happen that cause one person to get spooked, etc. and once you are all at a comfort level, then things seem to progress naturally when the date happens. See if you can find a provider who offers a meet and greet option for maybe 100 bucks, so you guys can test the waters. It is in a public place over drinks, and usually an hour. Some might even do that for free.

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Yes, you are in a unique situation, but if it works for the two of you, more power to ya.

Swim

PMed with someone last night. He brought to my attention that my writing is confusing. Don't want to leave the wrong impression. This is for my husband. He dates the provider, not me. I appreciate a beautiful woman but don't roll that way. I help out with the search and selection. Trust me, I get plenty from this... a doting husband who can't believe his luck and a more spirited partner. As I mentioned in a previous post, this has brought us closer than we've been in years. We look at this as a joint venture since we both get something out of it. Thus, all the "we" and "us" that I write. Could this unique arrangement be what spooked the provider? Then why make an appointment in the first place? Maybe I should remain silent in the interactions with the provider. How would you feel about this if you were the provider London?

I am a Newbie as well and could be totaly off base on this one...  But I am wondering if you need to step back and allow your SO to handle the appointment details with no mention of you.  The Provider doesn't really care about your personal circumstances.  Why make the arrangement more confusing with her wondering what your involvement is?  

Originally, I thought the provider would be more comfortable knowing an SO approves of the arrangements. But the opposite may be true. Boy, are we newbie's!