If he is lying about you via TER postings or pm's you should report him to TER.  Other than that I don't know that there is much you can do.  Some guys are misguided idiots and, unfortunately, this hobby seems to draw them like flies!

Because I had to move away I still kept in contact with a regular . He became obsessive and then I found out he told lies so other gents would not want to see me.  Very strange because I am a caring, classy woman not a 7 in stats but a very good quality 10+ in appearances and attitude.....    I stopped talking to this person because of this.

to the Blacklist do not pass go ,Kendall Lynn

Unless he has sent yow pm's through TER or contacted through this site in someway TER will not be able to help you.  If he belongs to a verification service such as rs2k or p411 contact them.  As a last resort you may want to contact a lawyer to further review your options.
Doc

A client who tells lies...  to keep others away, to keep you for himself, or what ever control reason he may dream up...  
Number 1, You never see him again.  
Number 2,  BLOCK his phone number, email & IP number.  
If he tries to contact you again, hang up as soon as you figure out & repeat the blocks.  
Step up your screening & be careful about information to locate you.  
Depending on how successful he is, he could ruin your business...  
skb