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Re: Verification Blues
Carrie Hillcrest See my TER Reviews 1493 reads
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Look for someone who can screen another way, via employment info for example. This is how I screen newbies. Of course, if you have a certain kind of job -- government/low profile/very small company -- or are retired or self-employed it may be impossible or nearly so to screen you that way too. If I can't verify you are who you say you are, I'm not taking the risk. There's just too much for me to lose if you turn out to be the bad guy.

Bottom line is ladies ask for screening and references to keep ourselves safe. I'm sorry that it's not easy for you to see us, but you shouldn't get offended because we value our safety. If you can find someone who will see you without screening you, know that you are walking into a situation in which she values your money over anything else. I don't suppose I have to elaborate on the risks that presents to *your* safety.

pje33918 reads

This has now happened to me several times and I'm ready to give up.

I get it in my mind that I want to have a date with a certain provider and I email her politely and gentlemanly and try to set up a meeting only to find out that she requires references from another provider or else an online service like date-check that requires either references or a monthly fee.

I just went through this one more time with a provider who posts on this board and she ended up telling me she would be happy to see me when I had more experience. Well, I'm turning 60 years old this year and I don't have experience and I don't intend to get any just so I can provide references for her, even if she did seem like a dream come true. I actually found her suggestion pretty offensive and I don't think I want to see her now any way even though I thought she was totally and completely HOT.

So the bottom line is I think I'm done once and for all. Surely there has to be some better way for a person to establish their bona fides.

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wizard15652251 reads

I started out with a Cityvibe provider and she di not want any references.  Now she is a VIP and you need three reference to get with her. My point is that providers have a vested interest in their safety and the ,more sucessful they become, the more careful

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pje32372 reads

Here's the thing. One provider tickled my fancy. I don't want to see anybody else so I'm not going to to out and see others just so she'll see me. That seems kind of strange to me. I'll just keep working on my first choice.

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h8traffic2217 reads

I got pretty steamed.  But that was a couple or three years ago, and now I understand why the gals want them.

My first couple of gals, it took about 2 months of back and forth chit chat, via email and the like, until they became comfortable enough to finally see me.

Even now, with a pretty good reference list, I plan to see a gal after 6 months of pursuit... now this situation is a bit different since we are a couple (or 5) thousand miles apart, but plan to be in the same place.... at the same time... after all this time.

Sorry, I got a bit long winded...

bottom line is you have to make them comfortable.

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Carla_capri1141 reads

THat' s expert!
lol!

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Carrie Hillcrest1494 reads

Look for someone who can screen another way, via employment info for example. This is how I screen newbies. Of course, if you have a certain kind of job -- government/low profile/very small company -- or are retired or self-employed it may be impossible or nearly so to screen you that way too. If I can't verify you are who you say you are, I'm not taking the risk. There's just too much for me to lose if you turn out to be the bad guy.

Bottom line is ladies ask for screening and references to keep ourselves safe. I'm sorry that it's not easy for you to see us, but you shouldn't get offended because we value our safety. If you can find someone who will see you without screening you, know that you are walking into a situation in which she values your money over anything else. I don't suppose I have to elaborate on the risks that presents to *your* safety.

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Blissful_Belle1594 reads

Great post Carrie. Thank you for hopefully helping others to understand better.  I personally enjoy thanking the fellows who come through with needed info right away and it puts them in a completley different category. Thank you to all the wonderful gents who provide info without any hassles or tons of leg work ;) B.

-- Modified on 4/10/2009 10:14:10 PM

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MeetEricaStone2220 reads

that should give you time to get a reference or two under your belt.  If you decide to stay with date-check you can pay annually or for a lifetime, about 70 and 125 respectively.  

I know it's hard to get started, hang in there:)

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Crazy Diamond1239 reads

If they offer a three month trial at minimal cost ($20 - $40), that will get in the door, and allow you to obtain the references that you need.  

A couple of additional suggestions:  Do visit any lady you want to be a reference more than once, and, if possible, from a provider that visits, rather than be home based.  I found this approach to work like a charm:  I visited a visiting lady about a half dozen times when I first started, and she had no problem providing references to other ladies I wanted to see when she wasn't here.

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wizard15654628 reads

Even when you are verified through employmemt you are a honorary member and many do not accept that but only verifid members.  So 3 month might be a small window to find someone who will take you a honorary only.

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wizard15651209 reads

you are a basic member, which is employment verification only, it is up to the provider if she will she a client without any "okays"

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HaleyOrlando2071 reads

keep trying different avenues and your pleasure will cum to you.

Do try DateCheck as some ladies will accept just their screening. I didn't ask for what state you live in and that would help let you know who to get your screening with.

Also check out TER for escort agencies in your area. Lot's of newbies get their feet wet with an agency lady for the same problems you are having. Ye, TER rates many agencies from all over the country...Don't get ripped off use this feature

Kisses Haley

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pje32324 reads

Well, as to her suggestion that I see other providers to get experience so I could see her, GEESH! That ain't happening. She's the one who get my head into this and I'm only doing it to see her. I might join that date-check thing but I didn't like the recurring payment deal. Like I said, I only want to see her because she's totally hot and likes what I like according to her postings.

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funwmadison1407 reads

I would see you if you shared a little personal info.  I'm sure you can understand my concern over my safety.

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