Help!! The paranoids are after me.

The chance of your chosen paramour being an undercover police woman is at the bottom of the probability of chance list.

It sounds like you're not ready for this yet. I wouldn't email her if you have so many concerns. You don't want to waste her time like you did on the phone.  I hope you didn't really hang up on her. That would be very rude.

OK, this is the Newbie board...  all of us were new & nervious at some point.  
Read the Newbie Manual at the top of this board.  Lurk as long as you want.  Read back in the posts on all the boards but especially this one.
Not everyone is cut out for this sport.  I suggest you make first contact through e-mail, state that you are new & ask for some guidance & consideration.  Maybe she'll not want to be bothered.  That's ok.  You're not marrying her, you just want a date.
I suggest you find a MILF who's willing to help you out with the nerves.
You should know to use a private computer & clean your tracks.  Do not use company equipment unless you own the company.
You should use a private e-mail account.
You should probably use a hobby phone.  
You should know how the 2 call system works.
You should be prepared to be screened.
Finally, you should get VIP & so you can read the reviews & make a good selection.  It does cost a little but is far cheaper than a spoiled date.
Once you've learned & understand this, you can think about whether you're interested in the sport of Kings...  & I'm not talking about horse racing.
When I started this sport...  I promised myself I'd not do anything dumb.  After a couple of less than stellar experiences, I found TER & realized I'd been very lucky.  Luck is not to be counted on.  Now I have good experiences & take minimal risks.  
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Man I can't tell you how paranoid I was when I started a little while ago. I think I lurked around here for a few months just reading up on ettiquite, terminology, and asking questions when I didn't find any answers. Then I spent FOREVER looking around for a provider that seemed like someone I was interested in. There were a few people in my area who had happen to have met the girl before and so they were able to verify to me that she was legit (it helped that they had a lot of reviews to back up their info).

I was originally so paranoid about the LE thing too, until I realized that sticking to providers that are well reviewed on here is the way to go, and is quite a bit different from the likes of CL. And then all of a sudden it became the least of my concerns. I reccomend that once you find the first person, providing you enjoy yourself, you stick with her for a while at first before trying other waters, you'll be surprised how much more relaxed you get. I've found that it also helped finding a provider who would set up appointments via email. Something about a phone call vs. an email made me way more nervous.

And honestly, I still get nervous everytime I call a new provider. I don't know why, I think it's just some deprecated hardwiring in my brain. It's kind of like being in high school and calling some girl you like. But at the same time I enjoy it because I like forcing myself to break old bonds that bother me.

I was sooooooooo nervous when I saw my first provider. I was kind of shaking when I walked to the door, haha. But the thing that really helped was letting her know up front that it was my first time and that I was a little nervous. There's plenty of providers that will be cool about it. Just let them know.