I have been doing this for about 6 months. However, in my own limited experience and in reading reviews I notice many times when there is confusion regarding the meeting place, phone numbers, directions and so on. In my short experience I have had providers give me the wrong cell phone number, room number, address, hotel, even the wrong city and state that they would be in that day and have been given very bad directions. I have also had providers show up at the wrong hotel and knock on the wrong door for outcalls. Is this a chronic problem for the hobby?

BRC, sorry for your problems.  I personally have never experienced those things you talk about.  Since I don't know where you are or how you have chosen your dates, it's hard to give advice, but I will make some suggestions.

Number one, stick with well reviewed providers above all.  That means more than just a couple of reviews, and the reviews should be from established reviewers, guys with at least 10 reviews.   Two, stay away from craig's list!!!!!  Backpage and tazlist are a little better but not much.  Check other review sites for reviews also.  PM me if you need to know about them.

Three, you might consider joining a verification site like Date Check.  The girls who use those sites to screen you are less likely to flake on you.

I think your problems mainly stem from not doing enough research on potential ladies to visit.  You have just not checked them out thoroughly enough.

Good luck,
Swim

I wonder if some were excuses.  I've had ladies stay on the phone to guide me in.  More recently, ladies have been better about giving me street addresses so I could enter into GPS.  (Always delete before leaving!)
Were these well reviewed TER ladies?
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The only time it came close is when I was in one town that had two of the same chain hotel in them and she showed up at the wrong one.

It's good to check out things like that on line first.

I don't know why, but I think you are getting sandbagged.

I do research things, I am on Date Check and I have only booked with well reviewed providers. Still have had these issues. I think it must be a chronic society problem of ADHD. Thanks for the advise.

yes, these were all TER reviewed ladies.

None of my gentlemen friends have had that problem with me.  I agree with the gents advice-see a lady that has consistency.  If you see "was 2 hours late" that might be a clue that she's a possible flaker.

... Two professions which frequently earn bad wraps for their flakiness.

This is a very unfortunate thing, because there ARE women out there who take this profession seriously and run their business well and exceed excellent customer service.
They may or may not be more pricey, but you get what you pay for.
I don't know what you budget is for playing, but if the girl can't remember the name of the hotel where she is providing in call, what her address and phone number is, or directions...
IMHO, that is just out right unacceptable.


I take clients much more seriously when I get requests with a decently descriptive email, letting me know a little bit about who they are and what they like.
It starts everybody off on the right foot.

"Hi,
My name is Andy and I'm an executive in my mid 50's.
I will be doing business in your area in January and would like to see if you'd be available for lunch on the 12th or 13th.
My hobbies include theater, photography and cycling.
I have stellar references which I'd be happy to share with you if you like.
Please let me know if those dates work for you.
Thank you for your time.
Andy".

AS APPOSOED TO...

"do you cum to placervilleand how much?"

Do you think I'd be interested in visiting Placerville?
NO.

Rally emails (3 or 4) and have great communication with the woman you are interested in booking an appointment with.
Always be respectful and you will get the same respect back. If you don't get that, don't see her.
You will have a better perspective of the level of class you are dealing with if you do that.
If they are going to be late they give you a courtesy call. They confirm your appointment. They call you to let you know they've just pulled up at the valet and they are on their way in. They turn off their cell phone and/or don't answer it when they are with you.

To answer your question, this is not a chronic problem. It is all about selection.
Please don't be discouraged.
There are some exceptional women available to pamper you, who know what hotel and room number they are in.

One case was my third date with a very well reviewed lady on TER and Date Check. She first claimed that she did not receive an e-mail, text message and voice mail confirming our meeting which I sent about an hour before the previously agreed upon time. When she called me an hour later to ask if we were still on she gave me horible directions to the hotel, I knew where the hotel was so I kept quiet. Then gave me the wrong room number when I arrived, luckily the room was being cleaned so I called her back.

A recent trip up north ended in a similar fashion. My well reviewed date insisted she knew esactly where the hotel was. I was directly across from the airport and she confirmed she knew where it was. I got a call that she was no where near my hotel, on the other side of town and was lost. When she did arrive she stopped at the front desk to chat with the desk clerk, God knows why, then went to the wrong room.

Another case of trying to set up an appointment with a very well reviewed young lady resulted in no date at all. I booked a few weeks in advance since I was traveling out of town. we kept in touch via e-mail and a few days before I checked to confirm, she was scheduled to be in another city that evening and had some poor excuse as to how she got confused. On the day of our then cancelled meeting she e-mailed me and said she was in my home town and asked if I wanted to meet. I of course was on the road.

I could go on with other examples, but maybe I just have bad luck

yeah, I'm sorry.  You do seem to just have bad luck.  I always have a GPS and I've never even had a gent ask me for directions.  I always provide the name, address & telephone # of my hotel if it's my incall and never had any problems.  

However, on the other hand, I've had TONS of guys flake on me.  Which, is also just as frustrating.

I love it when a gentleman sends an introductory email as concise as yours.  Wish all gents thought the same way!  

Been doing this for 5+ years and only had one such experience.  In a two-call system the phone girl gave me the wrong room number.  Luckily no one answered the wrong room when I knocked.  Another call and I got the right room number.  Had a awesome time once I was in the room.

I have had two experiences the other way.  Once a very well reviewed lady called me and said there are only 3 floors and obviously no floor 7.  Turns out she was at a different hotel a few blocks away.  I've seen her 3 or 4 times and we always get a good laugh when recounting the first date.

The other experience was when a lady called me and said "what room did you say?".  After repeating the room number she said she was across the hall and there was no answer.  Less than 30 seconds I heard a knock and we proceeded to have a good time.

Just trying to help a fellow hobbyist.  But with what you stated in original post, those were only things I could come up with.  Hope things get better for you.

Swim

OMG, it is funny you mention that, because walking up to the wrong house or hotel room has been a secret fear of mine. Can you imagine?  Here I am!  lol  

For this reason, I always double, and triple check that I have the right location. MapQuest is my friend.  

I have only had one problem, and that is when the guy didn't answer the buzzer and there was a cop car parked right outside.  Being new, I freaked, and later found out there was something wrong with the "buzzer" system.  I made sure I made it up to the gentleman when we finally met.

Good luck finding someone who is more reliable.