Hey all-

Continuing on my path of hobby knowledge before deciding to jump in, i was wondering what this community felt were the top rookie mistakes that newbies make. If I can gather up some educated opinions on this matter then it will allow me to better avoid pitfalls (and other newbies reading this as well, of course)-

Let me know what you all think.

I'll get us started. Number 1- Probably seeing a provider who is not reviewed or not reviewed too much.

Next?

Thanks everyone- I find this board to be extremely helpful and enlightening.

As a provider once told me, "There is nothing safe in the hobby".

Although there are numerous ideas to mention, I would advocate being careful where and when you view any information related to the hobby.  Never view an Internet site such as The Erotic Review on a computer hooked to a network.  Always assume that someone else (for example, an employer) can discover what Internet sites that you have visited.

There may be certain ways to disguise your computer viewing history,  but most networks are going to have software monitoring your viewing activities.

Reading over bad reviews in the past would lead me to believe that the biggest mistake new hobbyists make is using Craigslist or other similar services (Backpage,etc) to set up hobby dates.

Glad I found TER before I became a victim of the various hazards that can be found on those sites.

Please Don't ask where her incall is if you don't plan to session with her.

Also, remember that this is a business, don't expect to get a personal relationship from her. It won't happen.

And make sure you read her website/ad clearly before calling her. Asking the wrong question will get you the dial tone for sure.

Just my 2 cents!

Trina

On initial contact via email, or setting up a first appointment via email give the provider all of your screening info, when, and where (i.e incall or outcall) you would like to see her. Don't make her send an email back asking for you verification info.

If I had it to do over again, I would have done more research and found a lady who specifically stated on her website that she could accommodate newbies. (Many providers answer this in the FAQ section of their websites.)

Every man is different, so your mileage may vary; but I was nowhere near as prepared for my first experience (about 3 yrs ago) as I thought I was. (I had also never heard of TER and had no conception that such sites existed.) As a result, there was a big discrepancy between what I expected and what actually happened, and I found the experience rather shocking and jarring. NOT because the provider was bad, incidentally. I'd have given her performance a "9" knowing what I now know.

A lady who can specifically accommodate newbies is adept at providing a service that is quite satisfying without being shocking.

I don't know you -- so you may not require such a thing. But speaking only for myself; if I had it to do over again, I would find a provider who offered that service.

Just when you think you know all the answers about hobbying, they change the questions. The learning curve lasts a long time. Keep reading the newbie, general and your local boards. There will always be things to learn. Your rule #1 is a good place to start, Try and have a back up plan when you have set a session, as s&*t happens.After your first session make sure to write a review, that's the best way to contribute

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Another common mistake is to try to negotiate a lower rate.  If you can't antie up the $$, move on until you find a lady within your price range.  Be sure to find a lady who enjoys breaking in new clients.  Get your rest, eat your Wheaties and have a great time!!

Before you dive in...
Learn to clear your computer tracks, have a private e-mail, do not use work computers, do not use your regular cell unless you are single.  
NEVER be sloppy.  Sloppy relies on LUCK...  NOT to be counted on.  
skb

At that time you really don't have enough in-session knowledge to write that review.  Visit a few girls first and then start writing.  I have seen this go both ways:  a guy thinks a girl is the best thing since sliced bread and she's clearly NOT and I've seen guys write luke warm reviews on great sessions because they expected the ceiling to move and dancing girls to come out of the closet  

Give him a minute to manage his expectations and then write the reviews.

I write a draft review...  which I save as a draft on my secure private e-mail.  I let a few days pass before submitting a review.  As a newbie, I suggest a couple of dates before submitting a review...  TER allows 90 days to submit a review to get credit... more than enough!  If you review is not approved the first time, check under "account manager" for my reviews & see why.  I've always been able to correct any problems & get the mosted.
skb
8 TER reviews

Erica and I both seem to agree on this point.

One data point is not enough to make an informed opinion.  Two data points is only enough to know which direction your experiences are headed.  Three is about right to get an idea of the range.  Four points allows you to consider which experience might be anomalously high or low.

I waited until after my sixth appointment with a provider before I felt I knew what was within the range of reasonable as far as expectations of appearance and performance.  It also allowed me to assess my own influence on the way the dates might unfold.

I think the investment in a few months paid membership to TER more than offsets the value of the free membership time afforded by those first few reviews.  As I stated before somewhere else around these parts, there are some reviewers that establish their 'benchmark' standards too early.  Then they have trouble adjusting their grading scale to match the reality they discover after some more experience in this arena.

BTW Erica, I have seen the ceiling move before, but I think it was mostly the fact that there was a mirror over the bed and I was kind of thrashing around below.  Also, the dancing girls coming out of the closet?  Happened to me one time when my collection of blow-up dolls escaped and started floating around the room.  MAJOR embarrassment.

After reviewing the other answers under your message, I did not see anyone list "getting too attached to your first provider" as a rookie mistake.

The best cure for any feelings of attachment to your first provider is to see a different provider rather than seeing the first one in back-to-back sessions.

Any feelings of attachment with a provider are generally minimized the longer you schedule sessions apart along with mixing in some different experiences.

Hello.  This is my first post here.  This is my third day on TER and my first day in the forums.  Glad I found them.

My first experience with a provider was about 5 months ago.  It was a terrible experience. (Probably equally terrible for the provider.)

I was not at all happy, but I didn't have a clue what to expect.  I had talked to the booking people about a dozen times before, trying to gather the courage to actually go for it.  They were very friendly.  They just picked the wrong girl for me.  The girl they set me up with was not my choice, but my choice was running late.

The girl they sent is probably a top notch girl, for many clients, but not me.

Since then, I've had about 4 or 5 experiences, and like you guys are talking about, have a better idea.  I still agree that was not a good service from the provider, but I'm sure I didn't help too much.

My question is this...  Should I post a review based on memory for any of my past experiences, ranging from January to last week?  Is this covered in the newbie manual?  I haven't gotten that far yet, but this seems an appropriate topic to ask the question.

Thanks.
clwb

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I prefer not to write reviews.

Thus, I am not an expert on the review submission procedure for The Erotic Review.

In any event, I am aware that a hobbyist may submit review up to 90 days after a session.

Note:  I am sorry for your poor experience.  I believe one has to "live and learn" from it.  I have found (many times) that a second visit may be far different (more comfortable, better chemistry) for both parties.