In lots of reviews, including a couple of my own, the author will write something like "I think she came, or was a really good actress".

Perhaps since I am a novice, this still seems important to me.  Part of it is definitely ego (want to be a good lover), and part of it is curiosity.  What i am wondering is if a woman who has already seen a few (or more) clients that day is still raring to go again?  Ignorance speaking, but how many orgasms can the average provider really have in one day?  Do most clients (perhaps myself included) get more satisfaction if the provider fakes it as part of the fantasy?

I am experienced enough to recognize the "typical" signs: increased vaginal lubricant, tightening spasms, flushing, etc.  But at least some of these can be well-acted.

So the question to the providers is.... Approximately what percentage is for the sake of the fantasy, and what percentage is real?  Maybe I am wrong, and some providers aren't just multiple-orgasmic, and in fact are infinite-orgasmic?

Personally speaking, I'd prefer to do without the production, unless it is real.   What do others think?

Yea yea yea I know I'm another psychological victim of porn.

As I get older I find that I'm having a lot more orgasms. I used to think that once I had one from oral, I couldn't have another for several hours. Wrong. Now not only can I have at least a couple (orally) per hour, I can also have them back to back AND in peaks, so that if you stay down there long enough while I'm coming with oral, my "ride" will level off for a few seconds and then go up even higher than before. I can also have multiple orgasms vaginally (which is less common for women to get off by than by clit stimulation). (I can come via anal as well, but don't offer that although many women do.)

I usually don't fake my orgasms, unless there's no way I'm going to get off: either the man is being too repetitive with his actions (I like a little variety, but every woman's different) or he's pushing down too hard and being too rough. The reason I usually don't fake is because if I do... you'll stop what you're doing and I won't get off, and if you want to pleasure me, that is a-ok with me!

For me, part of the pleasure is to believe I'm giving pleasure to my partner.  I also know what the signs are and think I can tell when it's being faked, but I don't kid myself into certainty.  In other words, I appreciate a good acting job.  On the other hand, I'm pretty sure my ATF is multi-orgasmic based on the amount of lubrication, convulsing of the vagina, and outright squirting.  While girls can figure out how to bring squirting on, or to make it more intense, I don't think it can be outright faked.  So I'm asking those of you on the board who posess a squirting vagina to weigh in with your opinions.

...but when I orgasm, I squirt.  The amounts vary, but generally speaking, the more turned on I am - the bigger the orgasm - the higher the volume.  How hydrated I am is also a factor.  And like the poster above, I am very multi-orgasmic and can come many times in an hour, many hours in a day.  I like that I have "proof" to the guys that I am not faking it.  If I have enough orgasms - I mean a whole lot - the squirting does stop; I run out, so to speak.  But then I relax a while, drink a water or Diet Coke or two, and then start all over again.

....I'm not sure that I agree with your statement that "girls can figure out how to bring squirting on, or to make it more intense."  

Can other girls control it?  I have never been able to.  It's something I've always done (freaked me out when I was a kid), and I can't not do it.  If I am with a man who doesn't like it or who (erroneously) believes that it is urine, I just don't allow myself to orgasm.  Cause if I orgasm....

I got this from my ATF, who taught herself to squirt more intensely by holding off coming a bit longer than she had.  This made it more intense and produced the squirt.  I've seen her do it several times.  Once she squirted straight up about eight inches.  It was amazing!

I've been able to get myself to squirt two or three times. It was A LOT of work and quite not worth it for me. I'm not able to do it normally.

About lubrication: my lubrication can vary greatly and just because I'm not super well-lubricated naturally doesn't mean I'm not turned on nor that I am not orgasming. In fact it varies naturally on it's own so that just because I am super wet doesn't even mean that I am super turned on! Older women are especially prone to being drier I think.

Please wet your fingers with either lube or saliva before sticking them inside me if I'm not super wet. I've had some guys not do that recently and it HURTS.

once you can fake that, you have it made?"

I have some idea of the physiological signs of genuine excitement, and if someone can fake all those, God bless her, I am a fan. I have been with one lady where there was zero chemistry between us and she made a fairly lame effort to simulate an orgasm, before subsiding into a sort of limp submission until I was done. Not pleasant at all, and I wish she had made a little more effort to actually enjoy herself (I like DATY and have had a woman shove my face in her crotch and grind away until I thought I was going to suffocate - not perfect, but much, much better than being a limp, disinterested, receptacle). Other than that, every provider I have seen did seem to enjoy her work, and I am not taking the primary credit for that.

On one level, all I ask from a lady is that she make a real effort to please me, and to have a good time herself. I know that some of it is a performance, but I spend zero time worrying about where the performance ends and real enjoyment starts. But on another level, I pay a lot of attention to pleasing my companion. After all, the signs of genuine excitement are not that subtle, and they increase my pleasure, both mentally and physically, a lot, so I watch for the things that seem to be really turning her on, and unless they are things that I do not like at all, I will linger on her favorites. Turns out that while there are things I really like and will do with most providers, maybe 80% or more is totally variable from one provider to the next. I am always ready to try her favorite position because, well, the payback is awesome.

Anyway, O's are faked more often than I know and that is fine. Who cares so long as we are having a good time?

Zig

Thanks everyone for the replies.  

I have not been fortunate enough to have been with a squirter yet, but if that happened, would take on face value that it was genuine (and really cool).  

I hadn't thought about the alternative to faking... The "limp vessel" does not sound compelling or motivating for me to finish.  I think several of you are right: I'd like to think she was coming, first because I would take it as a complement on my technique. But second, her pleasure would further excite me.  The limp vessel would definitely be "deflationary".

Thanks for all the great replies.  Got to find me a squirter!

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"Face value?"  Nice pun!  But seriously, PM me if you live in the NY area and I'll recommend my little squirter.  Based on reading all her reviews I am far from the only guy who's gotten her to do it.  Once she squirted hard while I was still eating her and it hit the back of my throat !

Thanks for the offer.  No where close to NY... Florida.  I have seen reviews of a couple of squirters here, but they haven't been my type.  Perhaps someday!

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hi natasha, missed you on your recent florida trip. will look forward to meet in your next trip

Try going on your local board or using the "In Search Of" board.

Sounds like a great plan!  I grew up there, so I visit the family and friends there once or twice each year.