thank you all for the insight. i'm glad i posted to this and i've learned a lot. i'm only in my 20s and of course i've done the massage parlor thing. it's the daty, bbbj, and hardcore stuff that i'm hesistating about starting because i know that once i start, it would be impossible to stop and i'll be spending all my $$$ getting that hot piece of ass. so we'll see what happens...
i've been thinking about hobbying for the past 6 months but have held out until now. websites like this and sfredbook make it seem like i'm missing out on something really amazing....the hottest girls in the world giving you exactly what you want. but i can't get over the thought that i'm doing it with someone who had done it with 4 other guys that same day. so i'm dating girls who are pretty average instead and it's frustrating that i could be getting a hot piece of ass.... anyone been in this situation? what did you end up doing? and most importnatly, was it worth it? did you get any STDs?
Either do it or don't.
In my experience as a married guy, yes it was worth it. Still is.
I do rocket science for a living.
Hobbying is much easier and more fun.
KL2, you don't have to see a lady who has done several other guys before you. There are many out there that only see one or maybe two maximum in a day. Do your research and choose a low volume provider that attracts your fancy.
I would not see a lady if I thought I was the 5th one she had seen that day. I have been doing this for two and a half years, and lovin' every munute of it. I don't date anyone right now, having too much fun. Why date someone that you don't know how long it will take to get in the sack?
Swim
I am in my late fifties and have been married for almost 30 years. For the past twenty years I have lusted for the young asian ladies that I had fun with in Thailand when I was young.
At my age, in the civilian world, I won't be dating younger ladies, period.
Until I discovered this web site, I thought that going to bed with hot looking twenty-somethings was the impossible dream. Since I joined, I found out that not only can I have what I lusted for, it is not outrageously expensive, if I use some restraint and budget wisely.
I have visited two ladies, so far, and yes, they were both hot and gave me exactly what I wanted. Both times I was in heaven, and I am happier now than I have been for many years.
No STDs, so far. You have to use a condom. In my year in Thailand, I contracted gonorrhea twice, and an unspecified bug that made me piss blood once. All three times were with girl friends who were supposedly not screwing someone else. I never got an STD when I went to bed with the ladies from the massage parlors and used a condom.
Read the Newbie Guide on STDs. It gives you the relative risk level for various activities.
In my particular case, I have high blood pressure, high cholesterol (genetic), and allergies. I take several pills a day, nose sprays and an emergency inhaler. The only thing that I can do to fix any of this is to lose weight, exercise more and lower my stress levels. If I do all of this, I still have to deal with my allergies, which are not going away, ever.
Compared to all of the above, STD's don't look so bad to me, as long as I use a condom and stay clear of HIV. I would trade my high blood pressure or high cholesterol for herpes any day of the week. Everything else is treatable.
Hobbying may even make me healthier. I have been motivated to eat a better diet, and I am losing weight and exercising daily to improve my stamina and appearance. I have been so much happier that, my coworkers wonder what happened. If I keep it up, I can lower my blood pressure and cholesterol, while doing something that makes me so happy that I smile all day long for weeks. My confidence and self esteem are also much higher, and I can now talk to some of the young ladies at work and get some smiles back.
The only downside that I have had so far is that this can be very addictive and you can spend far more than you should if you are not careful.
If the the thought of 4 guys having had the provider prior to your appointment is repulsive to you, the hobby might not be your cup of tea.
I wouldn't trade any of these experiences. I have met some fabulous ladies over the past three years. And I've met some pretty good guys also. As previously stated, find yourself some low volume ladies and go for it. There are plenty of ladies who see only one or two gentleman per day.
let some other guy follow you rather than the other way around
contrary to common belief, many Ladies are not like an assembly line...I see one client a day at times, never back to back appts and never rushed. Many Ladies prefer Quality as apposed to quantity. I work 2 days a week that are incalls and that is mostly regs,with prebooked appts, so its not all like that. I last was available on Sat morning, one appt only and really value my time with my Gentlemen when I feel refreshed and up for the challenge rather than the assembly line "next" additude. Its all in what you are comfortable with, I prefer to savor the moment and enjoy it all. It is what you make it, well reviewed Ladies are from what I know and have experienced, are quality providers because they prefer Quality in their Gentlemen.
Oh and I have Never seen 5 men in one day, to me thats an absolute over load...I know my limit and it is way before that.
-- Modified on 8/26/2008 9:19:28 PM
I will be in the Carolinas looking at property this fall. Atlanta could be a sweet side trip...
xoxox
Nicole
That's what I did... and slowly progressed.
There's really no way to know how many guys she's seen before or will see after you... and if that's on your mind, then maybe this isn't the right hobby for you.
On the other hand... my top experience to date... my new friend came to visit me... said her mother had been visiting for 10 days... and her only satisfaction for those 10 days was "self induced"...
Well... the next 6 hours was unforgettable...
1. "i'm dating girls who are pretty average"
Unless you're peeling off premium hobby dollars many of the providers are "average" save for the fact that they are specifically playing to a desired fantasy.
Legitimate, quantifiable "Model material" providers in their mid to late 20s usually charge accordingly.
2. "can't get over the thought that I'm doing it with someone who had done it with 4 other guys that same day."
DEAL WITH IT!!
No business can sell only one example of its product or service and expect to profit, survive, or otherwise.
You're not purchasing exclusivity; but rather an experience.
If you want to "experience" the feel of a high performance sports car there are franchises that rent exotic cars. If you want exclusive rights to a high performance sports car you need to purchase or lease it at a MUCH higher cost (and then there's maintenance).
3. "was it worth it?"
That will be up to YOU.
If you're expecting to find a loving, caring, super hot girlfriend you're deluding yourself. If you're looking for a cornucopia of sexual experiences with relative ease and NO STRINGS attached it should prove well worth it.
4. "did you get any STDs?"
There is as much or MORE chance of contracting an STD from a civvi than a professional provider.
A "professional" by definition is more acutely aware of risks, and therefore takes extra measures against them. It is the casual or naive that deludes themselves that it won't happen to them.
thank you all for the insight. i'm glad i posted to this and i've learned a lot. i'm only in my 20s and of course i've done the massage parlor thing. it's the daty, bbbj, and hardcore stuff that i'm hesistating about starting because i know that once i start, it would be impossible to stop and i'll be spending all my $$$ getting that hot piece of ass. so we'll see what happens...
that you were in your 20's in your first post. I know that some of the ladies won't see guys under the age of 35.
Life is too short not to go and have some fun. Find a nice lady that suits you and go for it.
Good luck.
just do it Bro - see how you like it
if you're too busy "crapping your pants" over all the risks, then by all means do not waste your money, however
it sounds like you may be the latter
good luck!
The solution is very simple. Stay away from the high volume providers and be very selective of the beautiful aray of low volume providers. Easy to determine just by reading revierws and posting questions. Happy hunting.
jump in, you will not regret it; just take the time to learn to use TER, learn how to identify legit providers who give a quality experience - then every sexual adventure/idea that you have dreamed about is available with incredible women. You will not regret it unless you don't jump in.
And they will NEVER tell you about it. At least providers use CONDOMS which is more than I can say for your average dating girl.
You're just going to f*ck her, not take her home to meet your mom so don't worry about what she does the rest of her day.
We're not down and out street corner whores...most of us have 'normal' jobs and careers and boyfriends and husbands and we have ALOT more to lose than you do. Getting an STD would all but end our private careers!
koreanlover2, 8/26/2008 7:26:58 AM
i've been thinking about hobbying for the past 6 months but have held out until now. websites like this and sfredbook make it seem like i'm missing out on something really amazing....the hottest girls in the world giving you exactly what you want. but i can't get over the thought that i'm doing it with someone who had done it with 4 other guys that same day."
So how do you know I didn't Fuck that girl you took out Saturday night before you picked her up?? Are you quite sure I used a condom with her every time I fucked her??