Just wondering because Ive heard it outside of the hobby world but I saw an ad on red book and a provider got her ass handed to her for saying to shes does not cater to colored men. If it is bad whats the most respectful term to use to say you dont.

what year are we in?I haven't heard that word being used in years.
That is always a very touchy topic providers who do not see black guys.
That topic has been beaten to death some guys get it and others are confused or upset by these type of ads.
If a provider does not wish to see a black guy a respectful way is just say no black or african-american men but definitely not the word colored(this is not the movie color purple)
The word colored goes waaaay back to a not so great time in the country for african-americans.

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What is wrong with people???

Pardon the harshness but unless one is socially retarded, they would know enough to not refer to an Afro-American, or Black person as "colored"   I thought that might be common knowledge?!

I cater to all races. Saying colored reminds me of segregation and that is not a good thing.

I read a news article in which certain age groups identify their race as different names when they were asked to fill out a census. Ages 44-60 mostly preferred "colored" to "black" as in their time the term "colored" was what they were called and it was definitely the more appropriate than being called N****. Nowadays the term "colored" strikes flashes of segregation and the 1960's into people's minds. Nowadays we refer to them as "black" and more properly "african-american" (which IMO doesn't' apply since they are more than 3 generation from Africa and strictly Americans)

My late Grandma(who was 77) used to call them "colored". I remember when I first heard it at my bday party when I was 10. Granted, she lived in the country where there were no black people at the time. She was in no way racist, but she grew up calling them colored and she never saw it as inappropriate.

Now back to topic. I think it was in bad taste to refuse ANY client based on race.(but that is her right) I get asked "do you see black men" all the time by potential black clients. I reply "I only see generous and kind gentleman, race is no matter"  I think it is very racist to ASSUME black men are going to cause you trouble or something. Or let's assume she's not attracted to them..fine...but let's face it ladies, we ALL see men we are in no way attracted to. If we only saw men who aroused us on arrival I'd be a very poor girl...

Isn't it intersting how some immediately volunteer their opinion on what they saw as a question of racism and some even speculated as to the reason behind the discrimination.  The question was about the propriety of the name for a race of people.  

Colored is clearly is not proper for reasons already mentioned.  I for one find the politically correct "Afro-American" a misnomer and misleading.  Tens of thousands white Africans from the southern African countries have moved to the US and become citizens since the change of government in South Africa.  Many blacks in the US  are not from the US, they aren"t and won"t become citizens.

Does that leave the term Blacks?   Irony:  In Nigeria if you have any white blood at all in you, you're considered white no matter how black your skin.  World Grow Up!

I was at a meeting of the World Affairs Organization they meet in five US cities and London.  An accomplished young American Lawyer who is Russian and whose family lives there was talking on Russia.  While talking about ethnic make up he mention the % of "African-Americans" in certain areas of Russia--he meant Black people, but wanted to be politically correct. I understand a search for identity when yours has been stolen.  No identity is a horrible thing!  Not wanting to be associated with the name that you associate with the stealing of that identity is natural.  That is if having the name Negro made you a slave in this country.  It  did not.  Being called Negro is far preferred to Colored  and the name of preference in the past.  

Scientifically our species is divided into three races, Asian, Caucasian and Negro (Asian, Caucasoid, Negroid)  Those are the scientific terms.  They are the most accurate and not subject to the whim of the social politics of the day.    

Now every group has the right of Free Speech and that gives them the right to pick whatever name they want to be called.  That right is far more important to me than than the process that brought me to my opinion.   However, that doesn't change my opinion nor the fact I have the same right to it.

Be patient We are still Evolving.

This is a very intimate and personal service.  Not everybody can take all men, some ladies discriminate.in many ways.  A women has an absolute righy say what she does with her body regardless of reason.  One person can not dictate to another what to do with their body unles they are in a superior threatening relationship which is punishable by a min. prison sentence in most if not all states.